We will call her Jane...

Dear Jane,

I want you first and foremost to know that it’s OK. There will be days or weeks, even months when it feels like things just aren’t going right. There will be times when you want to give up. And I don’t mean just leave-a-project-unfinished give up; I mean, days when you just want to stay curled up in a ball sobbing in bed, give up. Days will come when you feel like you can’t drag yourself out of bed and face the world. Where it will mean waking up and having to explain to the world, why you just can’t. These days will mark inkblots in your life, they will feel like failures in your history. However, it is not failure and don’t even think for a second that it means the end. Like I mentioned before these days will only be ones of “think,” not of what truly is. Because every day you face a world that hurdles stones at you, you are succeeding. You are a champion in your life. Every second you brave this world, you are one step closer to greatness. So yes, you may fall and you may need to take a breath, but these days are still milestones in your life. You survived the bleakness and those should be ones of memories. However, not memories that spark fear and disdain, but memories of pride and anticipation. Let these days of “procrastination” and “laziness” that others label you, be days that bring about hope of a better tomorrow, because now, after every passing day, you are one step closer.

So f*** the words unmotivated, procrastination and laziness and the negative connotations they form about you. No one knows what is going on in your life, no one can judge you unless you let them. Don’t feel unaccomplished or defeated because it isn’t over until you say it is. Let there venom be the fuel to your fire. Let it burn inside of you and spark a new beginning.

Days shouldn’t be denoted by letter grades; they shouldn’t be pass or fail and the only way to pass is by participating or by showing up. Days should be marked by the effort you put into each day, whatever that may be. Unmotivated is just a word that people use to draw offense to people they think aren't as accomplished as themselves. The thing is, though, that you have no idea what the struggles are in each person's life. You don't know the hardships they have endured and you don't have any clue about the weight that lays on their shoulders every waking second.

Jane, don’t stress about the day. Just do your best, even if that means laying in bed all day sometimes. Don’t freak out and wonder what people will think, because that doesn’t matter. They have no control in your life. Trust me, I’ve had those moments where people ask "So what are you doing with your life?" Or the famous, "You should be more productive with your day." I get those questions that others throw at us, but I know that they have all had days where they weren’t preaching those same words. You can’t lump every day into a specific category, it’s just not fair. Each day should be something new, that means it can be terrible or it can be absolutely amazing. So, you know what my motto is now, Jane. Live your life day by day and to the fullest you can. And if those aren’t up to others standards, you know what finger to give them.

Your other half,

Megan