A Letter To Freshman Year Me

A Letter To Freshman Year Me

How things have changed.

Dear Freshman Year Jessica,

Boy, have you come a long way since 2013. So much has changed; things you never even had thoughts of freshman year. Some circumstances you will be happy about, actually beyond happy, and some other things not so much, but regardless it was a lesson learned. You know, life has a funny way of working itself out. Remember when you had a major freak out about failing those accounting tests? Well, you changed your major and now it is completely irrelevant. You switched to communication studies and have the highest held position for an internship that allows others to read and appreciate your writing. Exactly what you wanted, but always thought was so out of reach, and you did it flawlessly. The one draw back of this is that you put writing your book on hold. Yes, I know that is hard to believe since you’re so dedicated and passionate about it now, but when push comes to shove, you will learn, reality has a way of pushing things aside for a little. On the plus side, you still have the constant love and desire to publish it one day, and I don’t think that will ever change.

Sophomore year really had you grow as a person in the best way possible. You and Caitlin remained roommates and had more funny and memorable stories than I can even begin to think of. It will be a hard year to compare to any other. Oh! You know how you think its super intimidating, yet so awesome, when you go out on the weekends to the fraternity houses? You basically live at them now. Your best guy friends have managed to live in the “dance castles” and you, without hesitation, are frequently there on weekday nights. Honestly, probably a little too often, but it has its perks…trust me.

The best thing I have to tell you is that your mind is amazing. There isn’t a hint of negativity towards how you look and how others portray you. Even sitting here, writing this to you now, it’s hard to wrap my head around the fact that, just two years ago, I was running in constant anxious and worrisome circles 24 hours a day. That doesn’t happen anymore, not even when you’re having a “bad” week. You have learned to embrace all attributes, the good and the bad, and reflect them positivity to those who surround you.

Although the positives outweigh the negatives, some pretty shitty things have happened in the last two years also. I decided I’m going to keep these things to myself, for you still have time to grow and love certain people, places, and memories before you know they might not be attainable at this point in your life, and I don’t want to ruin that for you.

The last thing I want to leave with you is a few pieces of advice. Everything that you encounter in the next 24 months has shaped you into the girl you are today. Keep up your good grades; they will get you to paramount places academically. Remember to not only talk, but to listen when necessary…there will be times others need you more than you need them, and that’s okay. Prepare to deal with a life altering injury…it will not be pleasant. Above all, remain nice to everyone you come into contact with, its something people value you for, and its something you take pride in and internally makes you happy. Life is short, but life is good. If you’re having a hard time, I want you to read this. Remember, it’s a bad day, not a bad life.

Lots of love,

Junior Year Jessica

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I'm A Woman And You Can't Convince Me Breastfeeding In Public Is OK In 2019

Sorry, not sorry.


Lately, I have seen so many people going off on social media about how people shouldn't be upset with mothers breastfeeding in public. You know what? I disagree.

There's a huge difference between being modest while breastfeeding and just being straight up careless, trashy and disrespectful to those around you. Why don't you try popping out a boob without a baby attached to it and see how long it takes for you to get arrested for public indecency? Strange how that works, right?

So many people talking about it bring up the point of how we shouldn't "sexualize" breastfeeding and seeing a woman's breasts while doing so. Actually, all of these people are missing the point. It's not sexual, it's just purely immodest and disrespectful.

If you see a girl in a shirt cut too low, you call her a slut. If you see a celebrity post a nude photo, you call them immodest and a terrible role model. What makes you think that pulling out a breast in the middle of public is different, regardless of what you're doing with it?

If I'm eating in a restaurant, I would be disgusted if the person at the table next to me had their bare feet out while they were eating. It's just not appropriate. Neither is pulling out your breast for the entire general public to see.

Nobody asked you to put a blanket over your kid's head to feed them. Nobody asked you to go feed them in a dirty bathroom. But you don't need to basically be topless to feed your kid. Growing up, I watched my mom feed my younger siblings in public. She never shied away from it, but the way she did it was always tasteful and never drew attention. She would cover herself up while doing it. She would make sure that nothing inappropriate could be seen. She was lowkey about it.

Mindblowing, right? Wait, you can actually breastfeed in public and not have to show everyone what you're doing? What a revolutionary idea!

There is nothing wrong with feeding your baby. It's something you need to do, it's a part of life. But there is definitely something wrong with thinking it's fine to expose yourself to the entire world while doing it. Nobody wants to see it. Nobody cares if you're feeding your kid. Nobody cares if you're trying to make some sort of weird "feminist" statement by showing them your boobs.

Cover up. Be modest. Be mindful. Be respectful. Don't want to see my boobs? Good, I don't want to see yours either. Hard to believe, I know.

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"Listen to the birds sign a sweet morning song."


I'll be the first to admit, I'm not exactly what you would call a "morning person." That being said, I think it's high time I bring some joy into my mornings. I mean, life is beautiful, and by not enjoying mornings, I think I'm missing out on a potentially enjoyable part of life.

So if you want to start enjoying your mornings like me, here are ten things you might want to try doing to start your days off right.

1. Make a happy and healthy breakfast.


Make some toast, eggs, fruit, granola, or yogurt. OR, break out the bacon and have a good time. Any of those options sound like a good morning to me.

2. Drink a fresh cup of coffee (or tea).


For me, I don’t think anything could beat the smell of a coffee being made in the morning. So whether you’re into coffee or tea, use a nice warm drink as a way to bring a little joy into your mornings.

3. Smile when you wake up.


Start your morning with a good old-fashioned smile. Look in the mirror, look at how wonderfully made you are, and take a moment to smile and take that in.

4. Try to stay off of social media when you first wake up.


I know, it’s all too easy to become glued to your phone these days, BUT I think that’s a few moments of time away from it, and away from social media, can be a good way to stay positive in the mornings.

5. Journal your thoughts going into the day.


Take a pen, pencil, and a piece of paper, and take a moment to write down your thoughts, feelings, emotions, or anything else on your mind going into a new day.

6. Put on clothes that make you feel happy.


Put on whatever outfit makes you happy, whether that’s a cute sweater or a t-shirt. Wear something that makes you feel good.

7. Watch the sunrise.


OK, so I know you might not be able to do this every morning, but I think that watching the sunrise is the perfect way to start any day. What could be better than taking in all of these wonderful creations?

8. If you can, sit outside and enjoy our planet.


On that note, take some time to sit outside and enjoy the early morning and the world around you. Start your morning off with some time to really just sit back and take it all in.

9. Spend some time reading something you enjoy.


Grab a good book, a magazine, or whatever it is you might like to read. Take some time to clear your mind, and then fill it with lots of good writing.

10. Listen to the birds sign a sweet morning song.


Arguably my favorite thing on the list, I truly can see no downside to listening to the birds chirping away in the morning. If you can, take some time to listen to nature’s sweet morning song.

Hopefully you can try one of these tactics to brighten up your morning, and in turn, maybe even brighten up your whole day. We live in a wonderful world, and I think that it's time we start to recognize that.

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