Take a quick stroll down Facebook and you’ll see person after person and half of which are actually happy.

Recently the cure to find happy and be happy has been uber prevalent in my life and I can’t give anyone a great reason because everyone’s version of happy is not only so different but my happy might not be the next person’s happy.

So what does it mean to be happy? How is “being happy” such a hard thing to feel, share, and explain? What makes people happy? I’m not talking on a base level, “I’m so happy you bought me coffee.” I’m talking, I’m joyful, I’m exuberantly happy, and I’m bursting with love happy.

While I say that we can all find happy, the cure isn’t exact.

The first step to being happy is to be happy with yourself; your actions, your thoughts, and your person. I’m a strong believer that in order to have something or someone, one themselves must be strong and resilient to the cares of the world. Finding your happy might mean that you have to give something up, make someone leave your life, or even stop doing something you use to think you needed. These listed can be as surface level as to stop showering at night so you’re not going to bed with wet hair or as deep as breaking up with someone.

Second, the cares of this world and of others are pit stops that derail your happiness. Stop looking on Instagram at all the different people. Look in the mirror and look at your heart.

It would be naïve of me to say that I’ve never cared what others thought of me because that would be a lie, but I stopped a long time ago that use to make me feel less than when I looked at someone else, didn’t have something, or when someone hurt my feelings. Letting go of the negative feelings and the need to be perfect will not only provide you with the base line to succeed but also with the expectations that you are perfect by yourself and with yourself. You can work on yourself because you want to be better than yourself but when you compare yourself to someone else, its becoming the root of your evils.

So my question to you, what are you doing today to harness your happy? What are you doing to shed the extra weight of the world that you’ve been carrying around on your shoulders?

Being happy I’ve learned isn’t a destination where you can stay and vacation and never leave. Happy is a journey that you’ll be on for your entire life and if you do it carefully, you’ll be able to find what makes you joyful and carry that with you for the long haul.

A journey or a place of travel is exactly what you make it to be. It can be all sunshine and roses or it can be a struggle, a hardship, and a pain in your butt. I highly suggest that once you start to recognize these internal struggles or these challenges, you’ll be able to find what makes you tick and learn to eliminate what takes away your happy.