My Friends Don't Understand My Lifestyle, But They Don't Need To

My Friends Don't Understand My Lifestyle, But They Don't Need To

It's not their life to worry about.


As weird and middle school-ish as this sounds, I basically have two groups of friends.

I have my friends online and in person who attend concerts and meet artists, and I have my friends who rarely ever, if at all, go to a concert.

My friends who go to a lot of concerts get excited, happy, and fan girl with me when I announce that I've bought another set of tickets or another VIP meet and greet, and the friends who aren't into that sort of thing question why I'd spend my money on a "pay and hey."

The conversation usually starts with me saying at least I'm not into drugs, alcohol or out partying at all hours of the night. My money is going towards something that's going to give me a great time, a ton of memories, and maybe even a friend or two.

It's going to give me a ton of pictures and videos that'll look amazing on my already cool Instagram feed, and it'll satisfy that craving for live music when it's been too long.

I try to explain that music makes me happy, and that I can't get over the fact that my favorite artists are living, breathing humans, no matter how many times I've seen them.

They always seem to bring up how many band shirts and merchandise items I own, and then laugh when I bring home one or two more from a concert.

They'll usually say "you don't have room for those," and ask why I spent so much money on them.

Keep in mind, though, that these are the friends who also have hobbies, like I do. They may just not be as expensive.

I don't go around knocking their hobbies down, no matter how "expensive" it may be. If something makes you happy, go for it, you can't put a price on pure happiness, as cliche as that may sound.

For me, it's weird to say that I have two different groups of friends, but that's kind of how I look at it now.

They don't quite get why I attend almost 20 concerts a year, why I buy merch, why I talk to people online, or most importantly, why it makes me so happy.

But, it's my life, not theirs. They don't have to understand what I'm doing.

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10 Abnormally Normal Things About College

Some stuff just doesn't fly in the real world.

College is a weird, weird place. For whatever reason, the young adults who are supposed to be cultivating their minds with all of the worldly knowledge available to them, seem to get away with quite a bit using the justification "it's college." Even the best students live abnormally while on the alien planet that is a university. So, while to us college students it may just seem like another day, here are ten things that are only normal in college.

1. Straight up theft.

In the future, if I walk into my forty-something-year-old neighbor's home and see a collection of stolen signs, stuff from the local restaurant, and property from the construction site down the road, I would definitely be concerned about the character of my neighbor. However, in college, people proudly display campus signs, traffic cones, or dining hall napkin dispensers that they have impressively commandeered - it's a cheap decoration and a great conversation starter.

2. All-nighters.

Maybe with the exception of parents of little babies, very few people willingly stay up for close to 24 hours on end. In the real world, if a friend came to you and said that they literally did not sleep the previous night, it's completely logical to be worried. On the other hand, when a friend in college says that he was up all night you laugh a little, give him an understanding pat on the back, and walk with him to the coffee line.

3. Atrocious eating habits.

Sometimes you don't have time to eat. Sometimes you order pizza at 2 in the morning. Sometimes you eat three dinners. Sometimes you diet. All I can say, is thank goodness that our metabolisms are decently high at this age.

4. Breaking and entering.

In high school, you hopefully knew everyone who entered your home. After college, hopefully, that's still the case. However, when you live in the middle of thousands of bored college students, people knock at your door, walk into parties, cut through your yard, and stop by without invitation or hesitation. It keeps life fun, but still not normal.

5. Calling mom when stuff goes down.

I really doubt a time will ever come that I don't need to call my mom for guidance on how to do something. But, hopefully the frequency of those calls with go down a little bit post-graduation. Maybe after four years of doing it on my own, I'll know how to fill out government forms, cook real dinners, and get stains out. But for now, I'm going to keep calling while I still can without seeming totally pathetic.

6. Being intoxicated at weird times.

Drunk at noon on a Friday is the quintessence of an alcoholic at any time - unless it's college. Not that this is necessarily a good thing, and it certainly doesn't apply to everyone, but there aren't many other places where people would instantly assume someone is intoxicated if they're acting even a little weird. I've even seen people drink in the library....

7. The messed up dating scene.

There are people who meet the love of their life at college and live happily ever after. They are people who meet the supposed love of their life at college and never talk to them again after Sunday. There are people who use Tinder. Hormones are high, freedom is bountiful, and football players are cute - what else needs to be said?

8. A warped sense of time.

The career I'm pursuing will require me to be at work by 7 am, five days a week. I am fully aware of this. Now, will I enroll in an 8 am next semester? Absolutely not - I'm not a demon. In college, nights often start at 10 p.m., dinners are eaten at 4, and mornings can begin anywhere from 8 to 2. We don't get that whole 9-5 idea.

9. Costumes... for no apparent reason.

High schoolers have a dress code. Adults have dignity. College students have fun. Here, people will wear a corn costume to get on ESPN, a fanny pack to get into a fraternity, or a tutu to match a theme party. Is it actually a weird thing, though? No one even blinks an eye.

10. Insanely close friends.

Name another point in your life when you live with your friends, study with your friends, drive with your friends, eat with your friends, go out with your friends, and even grocery shop with your friends. I'll wait. At college, it's easy for friends to seem like family because you're with them constantly. Love it or hate it, it's weird about college.

So, enjoy this weirdness while you can - it won't last forever!


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6 Hidden Gems Inside Of Every Small Town

There's a lot more to a town with only a population of 20,000--right?


"It's so boring." "There's nothing to do." "I NEED to get out of here." I think everyone who has lived in a small town has said these things at least once in their lives. However, sometimes people really need to cherish the little, suburban town they grew up in. There are so many memories you can make in the smallest of places. From parking lots to 3 a.m. diner runs, the lifelong memories are endless.

1. Unity

There are only so many people in your small town. Everyone knows everyone! Whether it be because your kids are on the same baseball team, working at the same diner, or going to high school together. You'll always find yourself waving to someone at least once on your walk to a friends house.

2. Diners

NJ is known to have the most amount of diners in the US. My town on its own has three. It's a comfort knowing that I have diners in walking distance from me whenever I want chocolate chip pancakes. Whenever you and your friends are hungry, a diner is always a top option. They're relaxing, inexpensive, and who doesn't love diner food! And since diners are usually open 24/7, it's a great place to go when you need a midnight snack.

3. Fairs and carnivals 

My annual town fair is what I look forward to every year in the summer. Music, rides, games, food--who wouldn't love it? It is a great way for the town to get together and just unwind. Fairs are great ways to meet up with friends that you haven't seen, families that hang with your family, and teachers that you haven't seen since June.

4. Quiet mornings

In the city, waking up to buses and motorcycles isn't always the most pleasant. In the suburbs, all you hear are birds chirping and quiet streets. In the spring, I always look forward to waking up with the sun coming through my window and the birds singing in the trees. For people that have never lived in the city, you really don't appreciate the mornings in the suburbs until you've LITERALLY lived by a bus stop.

5. That one parking lot that everyone meets up in

Ok, is it just my town or does each town have multiple parking lots that teens can drive to and chill out? Sometimes you might not want to go to a friends house or to McDonald's. Sometimes chilling in the parking lot of your high school is the best idea. There is some hidden magic in every late night parking lot stop. You and your friends start recalling memories, discussing the future, confessing your mistakes at last nights party. In the end, it only strengthens your friendships and creates more memories.

6. Late night drives You have no idea where to go so you're basically driving with no direction. These 1 a.m. drives allow you to blast your music, scream at the top of your lungs, and just be happy. Since your town is pretty small, you'll probably drive on the same street every five minutes. But that's okay. As long as you're with your friends, you definitely won't even realize.

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