In the wake of becoming who you’re supposed to be, you will find that not everyone is going to support you. That’s okay, as long as you don't abandon yourself as well.

Picture a garden, not a single flower garden but a diverse garden full of lush gorgeous plants of all shapes, colors, and sizes just teeming with beauty and life. That is how you should see your life or life in general.

I am not a gardener, nor do I have a green thumb but I can tell you that having a beautiful life is like having a beautiful garden. It takes a lot of work.

Your garden much like your life will not be perfect, there will be aphids feeding off of your leaves, weeds soaking up your nutrients, and bad weather to overflood you or dry you out.

When life gets tough you have to be tougher and keep on growin' girl because you are on this Earth to become the best you can be.

In the midst of becoming your best, there are going to be people who get in your way.

In some instances, it will come in the form of people not liking you. I am here to tell you that you're going to get your feelings hurt, I've gotten my feelings too. But is not something to lose sleep over.

People do not like each other for so many reasons that are completely out of one's control. Maybe it’s the way you talk or walk, maybe it’s your values, or maybe it’s because you like to have your own space.

Whatever it is, there is going to be someone who doesn’t like you. We can’t win everyone over and we cannot live life to the fullest trying to do so.

What’s hard about this is that there will be friends in your life who can’t handle you being yourself, they are either jealous or simply don’t understand. The ones who don’t understand will assume you are mad at them or don’t like them, they take every little thing you do personally and that makes them angry towards you.

Proceed with caution, but don’t let others hold you back. Growing up means growing apart from friends. You can’t be the gossip girl, the party girl, or the wall flower girl forever. And you SHOULDN’T. When the growing apart process happens it can be quick or messy, but take that time apart to blossom then in time see if you can mend things or pick up an old friendship.

Becoming your true self isn’t an easy process, you have to test a lot of waters to find where your values lie in different aspects of life. If your friends are abandoning you when you should be getting support revert to the paragraph above and let them go.

DISCLAIMER: If you’re outright hateful to people and they don’t like you then we have a different problem on our hands.

But honey, if you are out here living life and doing your thing then keep on keepin’ on.