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8 Life Lessons College Taught Me Outside Of The Classroom

College is hard and so are some truths that I had to learn along the way


Before starting college, I thought that it would be the best time of my life full of wild parties and crazy experiences. I was right in a way but at the same time, I was wrong because college brought me more than the parties and crazy nights. College also brought me friendships that were meaningful and eight lessons that would stick with me even after I walk across that stage soon.

1. Hookups usually do not end with a relationship


I had many instances where I resented the person I had hooked up with and it was because of the fact that I had expected them to actually be friends with me and get to know me as a person. My advice here is that if you truly want a relationship then its probably best to not give yourself up too easily.

2. Some people who you trusted before college will turn into people you can't trust 


Unfortunately, college is a time when you will lose people that you thought you would keep in your life forever. It can be that high school friend or even a family member. Life has a way of teaching us that some people are not meant to stay with you forever.

3. You are responsible for yourself


Being in college forces you to become independent of yourself. Fortunately for me a sense of independence was already instilled in me thanks to my rough upbringing. In college nobody is going to tell you to do your laundry, clean up, etc. Your teachers are not obligated to remind you about upcoming assignments or keep track of how many days of classes you missed. All of that is up to you

4. Some people will never change


You can talk it out, cry, beg, whatever but some people won't change their actions even if their actions hurt you. At that point, it is up to you to either stay and deal with it or walk away and know that you are worth more than how they treat you

5. The most awesome people you meet will come from unexpected places 


Best fiend #1: first saw him at a campus event as I was on my way to class. The next semester we started seeing each other around campus a lot and we even joined the same club together unexpectedly.

Best friend #2: Knew her in one of the clubs I was part of since freshman year. Sophomore year was when I was going through a rough time and every time she would see one of my dark Facebook posts she would always message me. We are still close to this day

6. You are not responsible for the happiness of others


I use to be the biggest people pleaser before college. Once I got into college, I realized that half of the things I was doing was because of other people. Another thing I learned is that nine times out of ten those people you do things for won't even appreciate you. Once I realize this I started to focus on my worth and what I want and needs.

7. You can still be good friends with someone without hanging out with them every day


So I got one best friend who I see at least twice every week and another best friend who I only get to see at least twice a month. What I had to learn was that people go through other things and sometimes they are too busy to think about you. This does not mean they will forget you but they just do not have the time for you. This lesson did nothing but make me cherish every moment I had with my best friends especially the one that I barely see.

8. It is not wrong to seek help...for anything


The price that comes with being an independent person is the mindset that I do not need help, even if my grades were suffering. I had to learn in some hard ways that sometimes you just have to set your pride aside and admit that you do not know what you are doing.

There may be more things I may have learned along the way but these were the main lessons that helped me shape the way I think and act to this day. College life brought me happiness, excitement, tears of joy, tears of defeat, but most importantly college brought me a new kind of strength I could never imagine myself having.

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So, You Want To Be A Nurse?

You're going to find that nursing isn't really about the medicine or the assessments. Being a nurse is so much more than anything that you can learn in school. Textbooks can't teach you compassion and no amount of lecture time will teach you what it truly means to be a nurse.


To the college freshman who just decided on nursing,

I know why you want to be a nurse.

Nurses are important. Nursing seems fun and exciting, and you don't think you'll ever be bored. The media glorifies navy blue scrubs and stethoscopes draped around your neck, and you can't go anywhere without hearing about the guaranteed job placement. You passed AP biology and can name every single bone in the human body. Blood, urine, feces, salvia -- you can handle all of it with a straight face. So, you think that's what being a nurse is all about, right? Wrong.

You can search but you won't find the true meaning of becoming a nurse until you are in the depths of nursing school and the only thing getting you through is knowing that in a few months, you'll be able to sign the letters "BSN" after your name...

You can know every nursing intervention, but you won't find the true meaning of nursing until you sit beside an elderly patient and know that nothing in this world can save her, and all there's left for you to do is hold her hand and keep her comfortable until she dies.

You'll hear that one of our biggest jobs is being an advocate for our patients, but you won't understand until one day, in the middle of your routine physical assessment, you find the hidden, multi-colored bruises on the 3-year-old that won't even look you in the eyes. Your heart will drop to your feet and you'll swear that you will not sleep until you know that he is safe.

You'll learn that we love people when they're vulnerable, but you won't learn that until you have to give a bed bath to the middle-aged man who just had a stroke and can't bathe himself. You'll try to hide how awkward you feel because you're young enough to be his child, but as you try to make him feel as comfortable as possible, you'll learn more about dignity at that moment than some people learn in an entire lifetime.

Every class will teach you about empathy, but you won't truly feel empathy until you have to care for your first prisoner in the hospital. The guards surrounding his room will scare the life out of you, and you'll spend your day knowing that he could've raped, murdered, or hurt people. But, you'll walk into that room, put your fears aside, and remind yourself that he is a human being still, and it's your job to care, regardless of what he did.

Each nurse you meet will beam with pride when they tell you that we've won "Most Trusted Profession" for seventeen years in a row, but you won't feel that trustworthy. In fact, you're going to feel like you know nothing sometimes. But when you have to hold the sobbing, single mother who just received a positive breast cancer diagnosis, you'll feel it. Amid her sobs of wondering what she will do with her kids and how she's ever going to pay for treatment, she will look at you like you have all of the answers that she needs, and you'll learn why we've won that award so many times.

You'll read on Facebook about the nurses who forget to eat and pee during their 12-hour shifts and swear that you won't forget about those things. But one day you'll leave the hospital after an entire shift of trying to get your dying patient to eat anything and you'll realize that you haven't had food since 6:30 A.M. and you, too, will be one of those nurses who put everything else above themselves.

Too often we think of nursing as the medicine and the procedures and the IV pumps. We think of the shots and the bedpans and the baths. We think all the lab values and the blood levels that we have to memorize. We think it's all about the organs and the diseases. We think of the hospitals and the weekends and the holidays that we have to miss.

But, you're going to find that nursing isn't really about the medicine or the assessments. Being a nurse is so much more than anything that you can learn in school. Textbooks can't teach you compassion, and no amount of lecture time will teach you what it truly means to be a nurse.

So, you think you want to be a nurse?

Go for it. Study. Cry. Learn everything. Stay up late. Miss out on things. Give it absolutely everything that you have.

Because I promise you that the decision to dedicate your life to saving others is worth every sleepless night, failed test, or bad day that you're going to encounter during these next four years. Just keep holding on.


The nursing student with just one year left.

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12 Things Only People Under 30 Fully Understand

Only young millennials and Gen Z will know


Being a young adult in 2019 is full of a lot of random stuff that our parents and grandparents didn't have. We have more opportunities, different lifestyles, and just really weird stuff we didn't normal.

1. Our obsession with avocados

A super food with a huge place in our hearts.

2. College debt

An actual representation of me giving colleges my money, with no questions asked.

3. Buying jeans with wholes in them.


4. Memes

The hero we needed, but don't deserve

5. Gifs

A sort of sibling to the meme, but powerful in its own right.

6. Spending five dollars on coffee

Not a want, but a need

7. YouTube/Instagram influencers

They make the world go round.

8. Mason jars as cups, decorations basically anything that isn’t for their intended purpose.

So versatile

9. Our love of succulents

Why have kids when you could have ten cute succulents that don't talk back.

10. Renting instead of buying

Besides have like no actual financial stability, we prefer to live less conventional lives than our predecessors.

11. Our imminent downfall as a society

We never grew up in a time of prosperity, and also know the earth may be dying unless we make a significant change to how we treat it. I guess that’s what happens after we treat it like shit.

12. Being non-binary or gender fluid

A new concept where people don't have to conform to gender norms or even acknowledge them.


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