LESSON ONE: GUYS NEED VALIDATION TOO

Summer after my first year away at college has turned out to be much different than my past summers. Let's just say the education from the university stopped in May and some lessons in life have picked up the slack in the downtime during the summer months. It has held more opportunity, freedom, and fun than I can ever remember before. My friends from college and work have been constantly around ready for adventure. Living life at the beach, going to bars, going to concerts, or taking unexpected road trips have been my 2018 Summer. Freedom and independence have allowed me to flourish and learn so much about myself and other people, especially guys.

Summer 2018 has brought forth the idea that guys, much like girls need validation.

Wait, What?

Yes, I said it this summer has taught me that guys can think and feel much like us girls. I used to think that the female population was the only ones who over thought and over analyzed but boy was I wrong. This idea that girls are the only ones who need to hear validation has to stop. Guys are just as needy as girls in that department.

They also like their ego stroked.

"Hey your hot, You're handsome, You're cute, I need you, I like you"

Let's face it! We all love a good compliment thrown our way. Whether someone thinks your pretty, beautiful, cute, handsome we love to hear it. It makes you feel good to hear this but also knows that someone is into you. Girls your not the only wondering what the guys thinking! He also wants to know how you feel about him. Do you like him? Do you want him to hold your hand? Do you think he's attractive?

Before this summer I was so into having validation from guys and forgot that guys also like to have validation from the girl. I'm not saying that I'm so into how a guy tells me he feels but it is interesting. I was stuck in this mindset that the guy had to like me but discovered that I also needed to like the guy. The guys do care what us girls think of them. Hmmm, interesting. That leaves some power in our hands.

So, ladies lets make sure we sauce some compliments to the guys in our life, whether it's replying to that cute guy's story from work or your significant other tell them how you feel and what you think about them.

Validation feels good for everyone

Next week lets talk about the misconceptions we dream up about guys to create validation for us and others

True Validation versus some bullshit