"You" has been out for about a month or so, and I have finally been able to catch up with the buzz of this year's hot new television series. In what could be a new reality check for relationship seekers, the irony that it's better to meet someone in the world, versus cyber, is quite alive in this Netflix original.
The show did not teach me to go on Tinder and find someone who could potentially murder me, but it did teach me that in regards to meeting someone on the streets, you never truly know their intentions.
From someone who has been through terrible relationships, and some of the best, "You" has shown many red flags to look for, even for the advanced dater.
The first thing "You" has taught me is that stalking is a major no, no! No matter who you get involved with, it is not appropriate to stalk someone in person or online, whatever they have is confidential, and if you truly want to get to know someone, just ask. Sure, it might be fun to find out Linda's favorite color, or the most embarrassing pictures from her high school prom, but it's not a great idea because Linda may find out eventually that you stalked her online life, and potentially in real life.
The second thing "You" has taught me is that you should never lie or steal, it doesn't look good and it always comes out being a random story of how your sister happens to have the same shirt tucked away in your closet. Lying is just as worse; the agony of having to go around the lie and figure out the truth is much trickier when more lies are poured onto the original lie. Another thing "You" taught me is cheating is never okay. This one is clear, it should not have to be explained.
The third thing "You" has taught me is to not get involved in the personal lives of your significant other to the point where you may potentially hurt them or yourself. *Spoiler alert* That does not mean you will end up murdering their best friend, but it is possible you could sabotage a relationship by assuming someone may not be good for them.
The fourth thing "You" has taught me is that, no matter what, you will have someone that cares, no matter what happens in your life.
The fifth, and final lesson "You" taught me is, leave your exes in the past, don't bring them around, and especially if you are fully not over them, don't go and find someone the moment you break up. In other times, don't rush into another relationship, it'll hurt you in the end and you will end up cheating on your new partner.
