I Made A Promise To Myself To Give Up Unhealthy Stress

I Made A Promise To Myself To Give Up Unhealthy Stress

I'm going to try to do my best to take care of myself and prioritize my mental health so I can be my best self for other people.

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I just started teaching for a new school year. I'm thankful for a fresh perspective and renewed energy after a great summer break. Summer just went by too quickly, as usual. This year I decided that I was going to put time and effort into teaching and grading, but that I also wasn't going to get caught up in small details and dwell on things that could discourage me. I made a promise to myself that I wasn't going to focus on sources of unhealthy stress. I'm trying to find the balance every day between caring and putting forth my best self and effort while also taking care of myself.

We live in a culture that places a ton of emphasis on work. Work is definitely not everything. There' so much more to life than work. The work we do is important, especially when it serves our communities or makes other people's lives better.

I think this life is too short to get caught up in worrying about things that you can't control or feeling guilty.

I'm going to strive to do my best work like giving constructive feedback to my students and demonstrating that I want them to have the best education that they can get. I also am going to be forgiving of myself and be flexible and adaptable in and outside of the classroom. So often I want to control the outcome of my plans and efforts, but I can't always do that. I'm going to try not to feel guilty if I don't accomplish everything on my to-do list every single day or if e-mail a student back within ten minutes. I put a lot of pressure on myself to be perfect in everything I do, and it's just not possible.

I'm going to look at each day as a learning opportunity and do the best I can with the tools I have and the emotional and mental state I'm in. My goal is to make progress every day in becoming a better friend, instructor, actress, writer, and person. My twenties have shown me that progress is continuous, there's always something to learn, and not all goals are met overnight.

So far, intentionally having a different outlook has been beneficial. I'm enjoying the little moments in life surrounded by friends and just being with people I love. in the grand scheme of eternity, what matters is how we treat each other. There is so much more to life than work that we do.

I'm going to try to do my best to take care of myself and prioritize my mental health so I can be my best self for other people. I hope you can do the same. I think if we're all kinder to ourselves, perhaps we'll be a little kinder to each other.

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Everything You Will Miss If You Commit Suicide

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You won’t see the sunrise or have your favorite breakfast in the morning.

Instead, your family will mourn the sunrise because it means another day without you.

You will never stay up late talking to your friends or have a bonfire on a summer night.

You won’t laugh until you cry again, or dance around and be silly.

You won’t go on another adventure. You won't drive around under the moonlight and stars.

They’ll miss you. They’ll cry.

You won’t fight with your siblings only to make up minutes later and laugh about it.

You won’t get to interrogate your sister's fiancé when the time comes.

You won’t be there to wipe away your mother’s tears when she finds out that you’re gone.

You won’t be able to hug the ones that love you while they’re waiting to wake up from the nightmare that had become their reality.

You won’t be at your grandparents funeral, speaking about the good things they did in their life.

Instead, they will be at yours.

You won’t find your purpose in life, the love of your life, get married or raise a family.

You won’t celebrate another Christmas, Easter or birthday.

You won’t turn another year older.

You will never see the places you’ve always dreamed of seeing.

You will not allow yourself the opportunity to get help.

This will be the last sunset you see.

You’ll never see the sky change from a bright blue to purples, pinks, oranges and yellows meshing together over the landscape again.

If the light has left your eyes and all you see is the darkness, know that it can get better. Let yourself get better.

This is what you will miss if you leave the world today.

This is who will care about you when you are gone.

You can change lives. But I hope it’s not at the expense of yours.

We care. People care.

Don’t let today be the end.

You don’t have to live forever sad. You can be happy. It’s not wrong to ask for help.

Thank you for staying. Thank you for fighting.

Suicide is a real problem that no one wants to talk about. I’m sure you’re no different. But we need to talk about it. There is no difference between being suicidal and committing suicide. If someone tells you they want to kill themselves, do not think they won’t do it. Do not just tell them, “Oh you’ll be fine.” Because when they aren’t, you will wonder what you could have done to help. Sit with them however long you need to and tell them it will get better. Talk to them about their problems and tell them there is help. Be the help. Get them assistance. Remind them of all the things they will miss in life.

For help, call 1-800-273-TALK (8255).

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It's 2019, And I Still Use A Weekly Planner

There is something about physically writing things down for that makes it easier to remember dates and deadlines.

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Even with all the technology that is available to us nowadays, I still use an old-fashioned planner. I keep it in my backpack and you will see me pull it out if I need to add events for that week. Usually I will review the syllabus for my classes at the start of each semester and put down the important test dates or dates for other assignments. By doing this, I get a visual outline of what each will look like and what weeks will be extra heavy with school and other clubs that I am involved in on campus. Even though having this is a nice tool to help plan ahead and budget my time, it is by no means a failsafe. Sometimes I get this feeling that I forgot to do something that day but can't think of what it is. When this happens, I can refer back to my planner and look to see if I missed anything. The key point is to not forget to write things down, otherwise, all will be lost.

With today's technology, iPhones can do pretty much anything, I am aware that there is google calendar which can be synced up with a MacBook as well. This doesn't work for me because it takes too long to enter the events in my phone and I have not grown used to it. Another point is that I don't have a MacBook so it would only be accessible from my phone. I have found that it is just quicker to jot an event down by hand in my planner. For some people this might seem like a hassle having to pull out their planner when wanting to write down something they need to accomplish for that day. Since people spend a lot of time being on their laptops or phones it would be more convenient for them, being that they know how to work the app.

Either way, keeping a daily schedule or planner has many benefits. As mentioned before, it can help reduce the possibility of forgetting important due dates for exams or projects and other deadlines. Writing things down can also help reduce stress. There are times where there is too much on our plate to handle at once, we might have the feeling that everything needs to get done, which can be overwhelming. When I put things down on paper, it doesn't seem as bad and I can take care of what needs to be done at the moment and then work from there. I feel great after checking off a couple things from my to-do list because I can see that progress is being made.

Another use is to build in some time to relax or just time for yourself into your daily or weekly schedule, this can prevent the feeling of being burned out. Building in free time should have limits, especially for people who may spend too much time watching Netflix or Television. I would know because there are times where it can feel like hours go by and I haven't accomplished anything productive.

I highly recommend anyone who is in college to keep a planner, otherwise the stress can be too much to handle.

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