We Need To Start Taking Self Accountability

We, As Humans, Need To Take Accountability For Our Actions

Good or bad, it needs to be done.


Hi, so I'm still heated even though it's been 3 weeks and I'm being selfish again and ranting about my personal life and desperately attempting to make it relatable to everyone else. Welcome. This is the reason I haven't written in a while, so let's start from the beginning.

The Origins: Critical Theory

I am taking a critical theory course for this spring 2019 semester, which discusses theorists such as Marx and Derrida and Freud. On the first day of class (you know, syllabus day), my professor was explaining what she expects of us and one thing was that she wants us to do a 20-page research paper on "something we observe in society." AKA become a theorist ourselves. We were expected to observe our society and really think about what we wanted to discuss. Since that day, the only thing my pessimistic little brain has tunnel visioned was how completely selfish human beings can be and how we fail at taking self-accountability for our actions, especially when we mess up.

That concept in itself covers a ton of ideas from failing to protect the environment, putting others down for the sheer fact of making ourselves feel better, etc. (I'm not trying to expose my entire 20-page research paper before I'm done with it). I was really back and forth on the topic because I didn't want to come across as this really bitter person, but something happened on Friday, March 22nd.

The Accident

To many a long story a little shorter, my boyfriend and I got into a car accident. We were making a left turn, had yielded for well over 5 minutes, yet were t-boned. A woman was speeding in her Kia SUV and slammed into us on my side. Not only that, but we later realized she had never hit her breaks, but instead sped up. I understand that it was an accident, she didn't mean to hit us. I understand that people react differently to situations like that. However, what I will be heated about is her inability to have any self-accountability.

Legally, my boyfriend was in the wrong. He shouldn't have gone until the roads were completely clear (it was a busy day). 3 weeks later and a clearer head, I get this. Yet she had never apologized to me, the only one injured. The only thing she ever said was "I wasn't speeding", which she had been. She could not seem to understand that she was equally accountable. If she had been driving 5 to 10 miles an hour faster, I probably wouldn't be here today. She would have smothered the driver's side door into me and I would have been smashed in between the door and middle console. She couldn't take accountability for that. She couldn't apologize. She refused to take any sort of blame or responsibility.

After that incident, I was incredibly sure that is what I wanted my research topic to be.

Every Day Life

I'm sure this isn't just me. I'm sure many people have experience situations like this, probably less intense but my point still stands. For example, when you're doing a group project and that one person refuses to pull their weight but they still get the same grade as you. Should you try to get the professor involved, they always have an excuse as to why they're not doing as much as everyone else. When someone bumps into you at Walmart, obviously too into their phone, and they just glare at you like you should have been the one watching where you were going.

This type of stuff happens every day, and no one is innocent. We all do it. We're human. However, the first step into stopping is to acknowledge it. Acknowledge when you're in the wrong and own up to it. Don't be afraid to admit when you're at fault. Don't be afraid to apologize. Don't be afraid to be human. Constantly deflecting and refusing to take accountability for your actions is only going to continue and fester within our society. We are united as humans. We should be responsible.

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College As Told By Junie B. Jones

A tribute to the beloved author Barbara Parks.

The Junie B. Jones series was a big part of my childhood. They were the first chapter books I ever read. On car trips, my mother would entertain my sister and me by purchasing a new Junie B. Jones book and reading it to us. My favorite part about the books then, and still, are how funny they are. Junie B. takes things very literally, and her (mis)adventures are hilarious. A lot of children's authors tend to write for children and parents in their books to keep the attention of both parties. Barbara Park, the author of the Junie B. Jones series, did just that. This is why many things Junie B. said in Kindergarten could be applied to her experiences in college, as shown here.

When Junie B. introduces herself hundreds of times during orientation week:

“My name is Junie B. Jones. The B stands for Beatrice. Except I don't like Beatrice. I just like B and that's all." (Junie B. Jones and the Stupid Smelly Bus, p. 1)

When she goes to her first college career fair:

"Yeah, only guess what? I never even heard of that dumb word careers before. And so I won't know what the heck we're talking about." (Junie B. Jones and her Big Fat Mouth, p. 2)

When she thinks people in class are gossiping about her:

“They whispered to each other for a real long time. Also, they kept looking at me. And they wouldn't even stop." (Junie B., First Grader Boss of Lunch, p. 66)

When someone asks her about the library:

“It's where the books are. And guess what? Books are my very favorite things in the whole world!" (Junie B. Jones and the Stupid Smelly Bus, p. 27)

When she doesn't know what she's eating at the caf:

“I peeked inside the bread. I stared and stared for a real long time. 'Cause I didn't actually recognize the meat, that's why. Finally, I ate it anyway. It was tasty...whatever it was." (Junie B., First Grader Boss of Lunch, p. 66)

When she gets bored during class:

“I drew a sausage patty on my arm. Only that wasn't even an assignment." (Junie B. Jones Loves Handsome Warren, p. 18)

When she considers dropping out:

“Maybe someday I will just be the Boss of Cookies instead!" (Junie B., First Grader Boss of Lunch, p. 76)

When her friends invite her to the lake for Labor Day:

“GOOD NEWS! I CAN COME TO THE LAKE WITH YOU, I BELIEVE!" (Junie B. Jones Smells Something Fishy, p. 17)

When her professor never enters grades on time:

“I rolled my eyes way up to the sky." (Junie B., First Grader Boss of Lunch, p. 38)

When her friends won't stop poking her on Facebook:

“Do not poke me one more time, and I mean it." (Junie B. Jones Smells Something Fishy, p. 7)

When she finds out she got a bad test grade:

“Then my eyes got a little bit wet. I wasn't crying, though." (Junie B. Jones and the Stupid Smelly Bus, p. 17)

When she isn't allowed to have a pet on campus but really wants one:


When she has to walk across campus in the dark:

“There's no such thing as monsters. There's no such thing as monsters." (Junie B. Jones Has a Monster Under Her Bed, p. 12)

When her boyfriend breaks her heart:

“I am a bachelorette. A bachelorette is when your boyfriend named Ricardo dumps you at recess. Only I wasn't actually expecting that terrible trouble." (Junie B. Jones Is (almost) a Flower Girl, p. 1)

When she paints her first canvas:

"And painting is the funnest thing I love!" (Junie B. Jones and her Big Fat Mouth, p. 61)

When her sorority takes stacked pictures:

“The biggie kids stand in the back. And the shortie kids stand in the front. I am a shortie kid. Only that is nothing to be ashamed of." (Junie B. Jones Has a Monster Under Her Bed, p. 7)

When she's had enough of the caf's food:

“Want to bake a lemon pie? A lemon pie would be fun, don't you think?" (Junie B. Jones Has a Monster Under Her Bed p. 34)

When she forgets about an exam:

“Speechless is when your mouth can't speech." (Junie B. Jones Loves Handsome Warren, p. 54)

When she finds out she has enough credits to graduate:

“A DIPLOMA! A DIPLOMA! I WILL LOVE A DIPLOMA!" (Junie B. Jones is a Graduation Girl p. 6)

When she gets home from college:

"IT'S ME! IT'S JUNIE B. JONES! I'M HOME FROM MY SCHOOL!" (Junie B. Jones and some Sneaky Peaky Spying p. 20)

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5 Struggles That Coming Home For The Summer Pose

Summer isn't always what you think it's going to be, especially when you're coming home.


Summer break is amazing in so many ways: you're given countless hours to yourself, no daily stresses concerning school and assignments, and no overbearing pressures to go out every single night. However, coming home (usually) means you're back living with your parents and back to abiding by their rules, despite the fact that for around ten months, you were the only person making the rules in your own home. Despite the perks that come with summer, I have composited 10 reasons why summer can be hard to bear.

1. Having a set curfew.

I find it almost comical that I was able to "run free" for 10 months in Tallahassee with no regard for what time it was, but while at home I get the "it's time to come home" text from my parents as soon as 11 o'clock rolls around. For the entire school year, I was able to stay at friends' places until the sun came up, at walk out of clubs around closing time with no fear of getting punished for staying out too late, but now, I have to constantly plan around my curfew and ensure that I'm home before I get on my parents' bad side.

2. Having to get a summer job.

It was always a rule in my house that jobs were only meant for summer since my parents felt that getting good grades were our primary priority, so now that school's out, I'm working at my local Panera and dog-sitting for my neighbors, even though I absolutely hate dogs. Working isn't the worst thing I've had to do, but when I have to miss beach days and parties for a job that only pays $9 an hour, it sucks!

3. Countless days of boredom. 

College has made me accustomed to being surrounded by other people and activities 24/7. Sure, there were a couple of hours a day for alone time, but the majority of my day was spent hanging out with friends, going to my sorority, going out, and attending class. Now that I'm home and far away from my friends and the social aspect of FSU, I find myself bored and lonely.

4. Less freedom and independence. 

While away at school, I was able to do pretty much anything I wanted without my parents finding out. I was able to go get fast food in the middle of the night, go out to clubs, and sleep at my friends' place whenever I wanted. Sadly, now that I'm home, I can't just leave whenever I want or do whatever I want; I have to tell my parents when I'm going to places, where I'm going, who I'm meeting, and when exactly I'll be home.

5. Having to unpack and sort through your old clothes and the ones you brought to school.

Being the youngest has gifted me with an overabundance of hand-me-downs, everything from prom dresses to shoes to jewelry. However, over the years, the amount of clothes I have accumulated is insane; coming home has forced me to sort through the piles of old clothes and things I don't want anymore in order to make room for the multiple suitcases I brought back from school. My room looks like a tornado swept through it for three weeks now, despite the countless hours I have spent organizing, donating, and folding.

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