Know Your Audience: A Guide For Conversing In Modern Times

Know Your Audience: A Guide For Conversing In Modern Times

Some things are just better left unsaid.

Over the past few months, I, as well as a few of my closest friends have come to a major conclusion. If you are involved in Greek Life, you may have heard of the commonly discussed topic of the “Five B’s” all pertaining to the five categories that one should not mention with someone in a conversation.

It is important that we, as humans, realize our social boundaries on topics that should not be discussed within a conversation with someone you just met, someone you may not be very close with, and general discussions within groups of people. This idea of the “Five B’s” include Barack (politics), Bible (religion), Bucks (financial state), Boys (relationships), and Booze (alcohol.) By avoiding these five simple, yet distinct topics of conversation one can be sure not to offend anyone, even unintentionally.


Living in the 21st century and surviving under the current presidency means that the topic of politics can get very heated in a matter of seconds. This can be fixed by simply avoiding the topic of politics, including but not limited to politicians, political offices, political issues, etc. The politics of the United States of America receive enough attention from the media on a daily basis.

In a normal conversation with someone, there is no need to mention your hatred for Trump nor your personal beliefs on National Healthcare.


The United States of America is considered to be “One Nation Under God,” according to our pledge of allegiance. As our country has rapidly grown there have been many different religious groups and church denominations that have made their new home in our land. Freedom of Religion is also stated in the Amendments of our country.

Therefore, no matter what the person you may be conversing with believes there is absolutely no reason to bring that up in the topic of conversation. Your beliefs are your personal beliefs, and you should not impose them on someone else, nor is it necessary to bring it up as a topic of conversation.

Financial State

Alright, this is a HUGE one. With the population of our world reaching nearly 7.5 billion people there are a number of different social classes, lifestyles, difference in incomes and such within each and every city and state, just in the United States. One should never bring up the financial state of that person regardless of prior knowledge.

There is absolutely no reason to label someone as “wealthy,” “unfortunate,” or “fair to middling.” It is absurd to label anyone as anything related to their financial stability. It is important to keep in mind that the type of person each individual may be is NOT a reflection of their financial state. One should never, ever, ever bring up the topic of money in a conversation. It is incredibly overstepping and even considered rude in most cases.


Again, we live in the 21st century. One cannot expect everyone to be in a perfect relationship, or to even be interested in someone else no matter their gender. To stay on the safe side, it is best not to mention relationships with other people. When in a conversation, one should genuinely be engaged in strictly that person, or group of people, not thinking about the lives they live outside of the setting.


When meeting new people, or even conversing with those you may have recognized from a previous engagement, the topic of alcohol is not socially acceptable to bring up. Whether or not this person or group of people may be of drinking age it is never acceptable to talk about one’s drinking habits. There are a few exceptions to this rule; depending on the setting of the conversation, and the social atmosphere, this topic may or may not be acceptable. Use good judgment, and KNOW YOUR AUDIENCE before speaking about this matter!

As stated above, all of these rules have exceptions. If any of these topics have been discussed before with these folks you may be conversing with, THEN you are in the safe zone for considering these sensitive topics. By avoiding these delicate topics, one is sure to be known as considerate and will be able to appreciate individuals for who they truly are!

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20 Fun Facts To Use When Introducing Yourself

As we embark on the semester, we are put on the spot in order to share interesting details about ourselves. This article discloses possible fun facts to tell others!

After experiencing my first week of classes, I have learned that every student needs a handy-dandy list of fun facts about themselves to tell other people. Many professors use the first couple of classes to learn about their students, so you may need to think about who you are and how you want to introduce yourself to your professor and classmates. We all have that one go-to interesting fact about ourselves, but sometimes you just have to mix it up!

1. My favorite hobby is...

What do you do in your free time? Personally, I love to stay active! I am a competitive Latin dancer and enjoy teaching and taking Zumba classes, going to the gym, and hiking.

2. I love...

Is there something, someone, or somewhere that you love? What makes your heart ache? What do you miss when it's gone? I can say that I love my friends because I feel my most confident when I'm surrounded by those who love and support me.

3. I look up to...

Is there someone you adore? Who mesmerizes you? Who do you wish to learn from? After watching "A Ballerina's Tale," I discovered Misty Copeland. In 2015 she became the first African American ballet dancer to become the Female Principal Dancer at American Ballet Theatre. Her passion, grace, and strength continuously motivate me to better myself as an athlete and an individual.

4. This art speaks to me because...

Coco Chanel said, "In order to be irreplaceable one must always be different." This encourages me to always follow my heart no matter what. I will never follow society's standards and norms because they do not define me. Chanel's saying definitely influences my character and lifestyle.

5. A funny and/or embarrassing memory of me is...

When you make others laugh they want to spend time and make memories with you! Don't be afraid to embarrass yourself. You will come off as down to earth, easy-going, and loyal.

6. My siblings or lack thereof influenced me by...

I can go on and on about my brother, who is 10 years older than I. We have opposite personalities and despite the age gap, we're quite close.

7. My pet(s) are my life because...

Only sad people don't like hearing about furry creatures, even if your pets are slimy and slithering creatures all human beings enjoy hearing pet tales!

8. I'm afraid of...

Your personality can be revealed by your likes and dislikes, including the things that you fear. I am terrified of change and the unknown, hence, the future is an anxiety-inducing topic to discuss for me.

9. I am the way I am because...

What have you gone through in life that has shaped you into who you are today? Remember to be open minded and allow yourself to open up to your peers. You may be surprised by how others respond and/or what others have endured as well.

10. The most unusual item that can be found in your dorm...

This is a fun fact about yourself that can easily liven up an awkward conversation. Think about your quirks and differences! One item I have in my dorm is my teddy bear, Peter, whom I like to joke is my boyfriend.

11. My dream job is...

In college, "What's your major?" is a widespread question. Nonetheless, skip the boring statement of "I'm majoring in..." and go in depth on what your dream job is (hopefully your major factors in to this dream of yours).

12. My hidden talents are...

Angelina Jolie is a knife thrower. Kendall Jenner can produce bird noises. Amanda Seyfried can crochet and knit. Is there anything special you can do? Some people have rare and unique talents, maybe you can think of some hidden talents of your own!

13. My guilty pleasure is...

I will say it a million times: don't be shy when introducing yourself to new people! I'll start by divulging my guilty pleasure: Youtube's family vlogging channel, "OKBaby"!

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14. Some activities on my bucket list are...

This is an easy way to grab people's attention and find others with similar desires as you. Be an adventurer! Go out of your comfort zone!

15. Talk about your best friend...

How would your best friend describe you? What do you love to do with your best friend?

16. Talk about an accomplishment of yours...

You are incredible and have achieved so much! Reveal something that you are proud of — show off a little!

17. This one time at my job...

Bosses breathing down your neck. Curious coworkers asking personal questions. Cursing customers who never leave you alone. Your job can be filled with tons of hilarious situations that can easily entertain a crowd.

18. During the summer...

Any scars with stories? Any summer flings? Any lessons learned from the tanning too long? Now that summer is over, disclose memories that can leave positive impressions on others.

19. I volunteer at...

Do you do any community service? Share a funny moment while you were volunteering. What did you learn while there? Would you continue?

20. [blank] is meaningful to me because...

What do you appreciate in life? What brightens your day? What makes you fall in love? What does someone have to do to make you smile?

Finally, remember to be outgoing! Reveal that three-mile smile and open your arms to learning about others. Spread smiles, love, and happiness.

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When You Decide You Don't Love Me Anymore

I'll forgive you.


I never thought I would write this, but I feel like I have to: there will come a day where you won't love me anymore. This won't be a sad day, but instead a day I have waited for all along. You see, they all leave and that is perfectly okay. People may not be meant to be in my life for all of it, not in any of our lives but this is normal and although initially saddening it is a part of our lives and inevitably part of our journey.

When this time comes I want you to know that we did our best, that we were in fact in love once and that we had hoped it would blossom into a lifetime commitment but it didn't and I accept that and will respect you always. I know you did not wake up one day out of the blue and stop loving me, I know this feeling grew over time in your heart and that it was not something you planned on. I respect this.

You were the only person I trusted and the one I loved the most, but nothing lasts forever and I hope you can understand there is no animosity here and certainly, no stone left unturned. We just are not those kinds of people, we would have tried everything to keep our love burning bright and tried for quite a while to understand where the cracks began so that could fix them, it just isn't that simple. Love is a long complicated process, you know that and falling in love with me couldn't have been easy, I am misunderstood and stubborn as all hell and I am FULLY aware of that but that does not mean I didn't try to ease up on you, I promise I did my best.

I have always done my best to understand you, to make you happy, to keep the flame alive, but it has been extinguished. Love does that sometimes, it is there one day burning bright and then it slowly starts to dim with every fight, every unrequited "I love you" and every day passing by in which we spoke less and less about the things that mattered and more and more about worthless things.

This is all okay, it is a season of life, a part of our lives in which we do suffer but one we must grin and bear. I want you to know that I will always love and care for you, although it is now in a much different way, now we no longer look at each other with doting eyes and open hearts but instead with the freedom to let go and move on.

It is time for us to go on with our lives and find a new adventure, one that will light our hearts on fire instead of continuing to snuff our joint flame. You will always be in my memory and a huge part of my life that I once had but I accept that it's over and that time sometimes wears on things as it has worn on us.

You are the love of my life and that is truly the reason I must forgive you.

Goodbye, my love.

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