Kindness And Honesty Can Coexist

Kindness And Honesty Can Coexist

It isn't difficult to choose both if you stop and think before you speak.

We live in a world where we are constantly asking and answering questions. We want to know when to meet, what people think of the characters of the new series on Netflix, if we should wear the dress or go as is. These questions require answers, and while a yes or no may suffice in some cases, more thought goes into that yes or no than you may think.

Being honest is really hard sometimes. You don't want to hurt the feelings of people who are important to you, but you also don't want to feed them lies because it makes you feel guilty. You want everyone to be happy.

Say your friend asks you if you like the dress she tried on. If you are honest, you tell them yes or no, maybe you sugar coat it. What do you do if it's the worst dress to have ever ended up in stores and you can't believe they chose it? You say...what? Do you tell them that the dress will sit in their closet and never see the light of day? Maybe you tell them it isn't your style but they can pull it off? Perhaps even tell them that it doesn't flatter them in any way. Which situation is going to lead to a positive outcome where you don't lie to yourself or them? Honesty is important in any relationship, but there is a classy way to go about it.

If you're unsure as to how to go about it, think about what you would want someone to tell you in that situation. Do you want to know if there is something in your teeth? If your hair looks okay? Yeah? Well I'm sure your friend would want to know too and would appreciate you telling them without alerting the whole party.

What do you do at work if there is a task that your boss asks you to do and you don't have time? Do you tell them no? Yes? I will get to it when I can? You may not want to do it but it is a part of the job so you have to. It may be something extra but it will help your career so you take it on. Maybe they really were just too busy and needed help. You can ask questions about it. Make sure you aren't overloading yourself as you try to get through your usual workload.

With family it can be easy to be honest with some people, but not all with others. If your grandma gives you a hand knit sweater and wants you to wear it the rest of the day, there isn`t really a way to scratch your way out of that one.

Personally being honest with my immediate family is easier than being honest with grandparents or other relatives. With them, I know they may be disappointed I didn't like it, but they are glad they aren't paying money for something to sit around all day and collect dust.

With grandparents, they put time and effort into picking out something for you, or maybe they even made it. In that case you just have to accept that they love you and the itchy material doesn't have to be worn 24/7.

With yourself honesty can be hard too. There are times when you know something but choose to ignore the facts. There are others where you tell yourself not to get something because yes, it does look like you're wearing clown shoes when you put those on.

Honesty - true, kind honesty - is hard to come by these days. Sometimes it is best to be blunt. Other times you need to think about the other person and not grind their self esteem to dust. Each situation is different and requires a different tone, a different approach, and we all need to be aware of that.

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Thank you for always being the best.

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We can't always be together, but you have never completely "left" me behind and have been there with me through thick and thin and I am so grateful.

2. Being my biggest cheerleader

Thank you for not only being there through the bad, but also celebrating my victories with me. I can always look forward to telling you good news because I know you'll be happy right along with me.

3. Answering my "important" phone calls

Whether it's a "he texted me back!!!" phone call, or an "I found a gray hair, please help!!" phone call, you pick up the phone and hype up with me no matter what.

4. Being selfless, and going above & beyond to make sure I know I'm worthy

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5. Brushing my hair when I don't feel like it

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6. For being there through all of my mini-crises

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7. For talking me out of things

If it wasn't for you talking me out of things, I'd probably have quit my job, be dating a horrible guy, got my eyebrow pierced, etc.

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7 Reasons My Bestie Is Better Than Yours

And no you can't have her as your best friend.


Best friends are so special because they help you tackle life. I've been lucky to have had my best friend since I was in elementary school. We've always been so close and rarely fight.

The best feeling is knowing that you have someone to turn to no matter what. I truly love and appreciate everything that she has done for me. We always joke about people hanging out with us because they would feel like a third wheel. I'm pretty sure this is true for the most part.

1. We've been best friends since first grade.

Yep, we've been best friends for almost as long as I can remember. I still remember one of the first days of school when we took a picture. We were so tiny then in our little clothes and my small glasses. We've been through a lot together and I wouldn't want anyone else by my side.

2. We're close despite a three-hour car ride.

We didn't go to high school or college together, but we've still stayed as close as we were in grade school. I love our friendship because we don't have to talk every day to feel close, but we can always pick up like no time has passed at all. When she comes back home for a visit, it just makes our time that much more special when we get to hangout (although I can't wait until she is back for good).

3. We can call each other at anytime.

The best thing about this is that no matter the time we will always pick up the phone. Even if it's 3 AM, we will always pick up.

4. She helped me during my freshman year at college.

I had a hard time freshman year because I went so far away for college. Luckily, my best friend was there with me every step of the way. We would always call each other or Skype for hours after long days. Transitioning to college can be difficult for anyone and my best friend understood that I had a harder time.

5. She will support me no matter what.

I can do the most stupid thing, but my best friend will continue to support me. She may not always agree with my decisions, but she will give some of the best advice and becomes my conscience when I need it. I love that no matter what I tell her, she will never judge me. That's the kind of friend that everyone needs. Something that is so pure and loving in the simplest of things.

6. She's always up for an adventure.

Even if it's just going for a walk or going skydiving, my best friend will do anything with me. It really is true when people say that an experience depends on the people who are with you. I don't know how many times I've just done small tasks with her, but they always seem much more fun.

7. We're the same person.

We literally like all of the same things. The same movies, songs, foods, and clothes. Of course, you'd expect best friends to have similar interests, but I think there is a only handful of things that we don't both enjoy. It's awesome that any movie, concert, or song that I like I know my best friend will probably like it too.

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