How To Keep God In The Center Of Your Relationship

How To Keep God In The Center Of Your Relationship

Putting God in the center of your relationship is one of the most beneficial things that you can do.
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Growing up in the church, I have always heard it stressed that God needs to be the center of any relationship, specifically those with significant others. Often times I saw it described as a triangle: God is the top point of the triangle, and you and your significant other are the two bottom points. All this to say, God is what brings you together and holds you together. He is the key to any successful relationship.

For the longest time, I thought that I understood what it meant to have God at the center of your relationship, but I've learned that it can be easy to let that slip on the back burner. So to save you the trouble, I've come up with a few tips that you can use to make sure that God is in the center of your relationship.

The first tip that I want to share with you is prayer.

I cannot express to you how significant or important praying with and for your significant other is. It is one of the most intimate things that you can do with your partner. Pray about anything and everything! Pray about the relationship, give control over to Him, and surrender it all; pray about the problems that arise, thank Him for the good times, and pray for each other in anything that you both face.

The Bible says that "Where two or more are gathered, there I will be also."

Praying is a direct line of communication with God, and when you and your significant other pray with and for each other, it is a great way to make sure that God is staying in the center of your relationship.

The second tip is to talk about God.

Make an effort to bring God into your conversations. Talk about where you are in your walk with the Lord so that you will be able to hold each other accountable. Talking about God and spiritual concepts will help each of you grow and change your perspectives.

And finally, read the Bible together.

Keeping God's Word in your heart helps remind you of the love and promises that God has for you. Having bible study together is a great way for you two to learn more about God together. It can be good for conversation and learning verses together will help you along the way in your relationship.

All in all, putting God in the center of your relationship is one of the most important things that you can do for it. While these few tips are helpful, they aren't the only thing that you can do.

If this is something that you struggle with, talk with God and your significant other to find ways to put God in the center of your relationship. Ask God for the strength and will to put Him in the center of your relationship.



You won't regret it.


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Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

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You Ain’t Waiting For God To Bring You Your Dinner, You Get Up And Go Cook It

My words often get jumbled and don't make sense, so I figured writing it would help me come across clearly.

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Dear guy friends of mine,

I want you to know how grateful I am for your friendship. Having close guy friends has helped me better understand men and learn how the male species operates. I've been able to ask you so many questions and you've responded with thoughtfulness, kindness, grace, and honesty. I appreciate your willingness to talk to me.

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Pastor Chandler goes on to say that he's not telling the guys to go on the hunt and prowl. No! He's telling guys that they have a role to play in pursuing a woman to marry. Girls have a role to play, too. Girls can't just hang out with their girlfriends in hopes that they'll lock eyes with Prince Charming while in the grocery store or walking their dog in the park. No, girls need to build up the guys in their lives and respect them by letting the guys be guys and giving them opportunities to be gentlemen. That's what I appreciate about you guys, my guy friends. You are such gentlemen and I love that. Don't be afraid to ask out the girl that you think is sweet, cute, pretty, funny, kind, silly, honest, loyal, and the right amount of crazy. You've got this!

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