NP: Pray you catch me – Beyonce
The female mind is an intensely complicated organ. Generally, when in love, we tend to express ourselves effortlessly. But I've noticed that most men aren't able to either accept these emotions or even share their own. Let's face it, ladies, how many times have you expressed yourself and it ended up being a heated conversation, or labeled as "drama?" Or, how many times have you tried to get your male partner to express himself and he was either distant or egotistic? Better yet, how many times have you listened to Beyonce's "Lemonade" and just decided to be jealous and crazy? This contrast in behaviors can turn into many problems. Lack of communication is proven to result in complications within a relationship. But my question really is how can we see eye to eye?
I decided to break down some of the factors that may contribute to empathetic behavior from women and often, at times, distant responses from men. But I believe it's impossible to truly come to a conclusion. Societal influences have instilled in us that men must have a tough exterior and women should be compassionate and expressive. Starting as early as the age of four, we tell young boys that they should hide their emotions because “they are men.” We teach them that showing emotion is a sign of weakness.
There are even scientific reasons that support male's disassociation to their feelings. In women's brains, the corpus callosum is larger. This part of the brain allows us to think and feel at the same time, whereas men naturally separate their thoughts and feelings. Evidently, it would probably be wise to take attributes from both and create an ideal combination.
Now, I'm not generalizing all women in this light. There are many cases where these behaviors are the exact opposite. I'm just basing this off of my own personal outlook. I know many women who are the distant ones in a relationship and the males are expressive. But in most cases, this is where the investment of time plays a role. Subconsciously, when we, as human beings, get our heart broken, we tend to withdraw from the same emotion and dedication that we once shared. In my opinion, it's one messed up cycle of sharing, getting heartbroken, then being distant. The hardest part is finding someone who is on the same cycle we are.
So guys, here are some pointers for when women express their feelings:
1. Do not insinuate it is an issue.
2. Be sensitive.
3. Listen.
4. Understand we have feelings.
5. We are not crazy.
6. Try to express yourself, even if it’s just a sentence.
7. You do have feelings.
8. Don’t overthink anything we say.
9. Don’t be an egomaniac.
10. Try to find a balance between the two different emotions.
And most importantly, always remember…
There’s a possibility that our period is coming and we are overly sensitive, so just show some concern and buy us sweets!
