So, you have found a guy that you thought would be the one for you, but it turns out that he isn't the one.

Guess what? That's okay.

Finding the one is not in your plans just yet. Trust in God and in his timing. Only he gives you exactly what and who you need, never too early or too late. It’s normal to feel impatient, but God has a different plan for all of us. Your heart is somewhere else, and your purpose for being on this planet in this very moment is going a different route.

So, you're sad? That's okay.

Remember above all that you’re a human being with feelings. Moving on is different with everyone; people handle it at their own pace. It’s fine to have your hair up in a bun and to lounge around with watery eyes for a couple of days. CRY! You need to let it out of you because if you don’t, it will affect your body, mind, and spirit. We all need those moments to remove those heartbreak clouds out of our soul. Don’t beat yourself up about what happened or expect for everything to heal quickly. Just don’t let it interfere with the other relationships you hold with other people who love you.

So, you're keeping him in your prayers? That's okay.

It doesn't make you weak or stupid. It just means you're a kind and mature person with a heart. Why wish evil or hold hatred against someone who once made you happy? If his happiness wasn't with you, it doesn't mean he does not deserve to find happiness with someone else. Life is too short to hold resentment and grudges over someone. God puts people in your life for a reason. You may not understand why now but eventually you will.

So, you stay up looking back at memories? That's okay.

Being in a relationship involves being attached to someone and creating memories with them. Even though some relationships are clingier than others, the constant communication and dates are an essential part of every relationship. It becomes weird when the person you would talk and text every day is no longer in your life, creating memories with you. It’s fine to look back at those memories that will always be a part of you. As cliché as it is, don’t regret a memory that once made you smile.

Oh, so now you're blaming yourself for not being the one? That's NOT okay.

Just because a relationship did not work out, does not mean that something is wrong with you. That’s one thing that plenty of people tend to do after a break-up. Whether the relationship ended because of you or the other person, never put an unnecessary blame on yourself. Trust me, it only makes moving on harder. You can be the whole package but it doesn't guarantee you a genuine love from a man in return. There is so much more to life than being hung up on one person. You’re young and still have a bright future ahead of you. As a good friend once told me, try to look at it as a happy memory. Dwell, but move forward with your life.