In movies, television shows, and songs every kid has his or her dream to become popular. She wants to rule the school, have the best clothes, date the cutest people and live the dream that every kid thinks they want. Here is the catch: it is okay to not reach that dream, It is okay to not be the popular kid.

Growing up, there was a girl in school who ruled the school, She was the queen bee. I had a feeling anyone who wasn't her essentially wanted to be her. At some point, even I wanted to be her. Now that I am older I didn't need the popularity and quite frankly I still don't. Sure, I am getting more attention in college than I was in high school but I am definitely not popular, nor do I want to reach that level.

You don't need to be popular to live a great life and be the person who you want to be. Popularity is overrated. The minute you get into the real world, popularity means nothing. You can stay on top, which is very rare, or you are at the bottom and have to work your way up.

Popularity is more like Mean Girls or Clueless. Not everything comes to you. You can't get your licence right away like Cher, and there will be people out to get you like Cady to Regina. Cher has her perks, and it seems to be that people want her because she is rich. Cady was only nice to Regina to get inside her world and destroy her from the inside. That is truly what popularity is. People seem to like you for what you have, and some of them don't even like you at all.

When you become popular, you are stuck there, you believe you are on top of the world and that everything is going to come easy to you. Here is the truth: Life is not that easy. That silver platter does not come unless you earn it, and not just have it handed to you. You have to work for everything, popular or not. Being popular is hard work, you have to maintain that personality even if it is not truly yours.

Here is what you need to have popularity: the perfect outfits, being good at basically everything, being with different guys, or even the hottest one and last but not least, friends who secretly hate you. You don't want to be popular. If that is for you, then that is okay. However, not everyone wants to be, and not everyone is going to be popular.

Here is what you really need: outfits you love, working your hardest and doing what you love no matter how bad you are at it, guys who you love and who will love you back, and most importantly friends who truly love you for you. In that way, you are your own type of popular, and the good kind of it.

You don't need those killer outfits and the love of everyone when they secretly hate you, all you need is to love yourself and who you are and love your life. In that way, you win.