Sitting on my living room floor with my roommates, talking about our day. All of the homework we have to do but are ignoring to make cookies instead. Complaining about how we have to work all weekend and are bummed we are going to miss the first football game, and venting about the boy we were so surprised screwed us over, even though we all saw it coming from the start. Everything just seems to be piling up, farther and farther.

That's when I realize: My life is a total mess.

I'm growing tired of the annoying response, "You changed it again?!" every time someone asks me what my major is. I'm beginning to dread the awful question, "What do you want to do with that?" and the even worse eye roll when I respond with "I honestly have no idea."

Everyone around me seems to have it all figured out: what boy they are going to take to semi-formal this year, where they are planning to vacation on spring break next semester, what they want to major in, and of course, plans for after college. I feel like the only one not even sure what I’m going to eat for dinner tonight.

My future hasn’t always been so skewed. I used to have everything completely planned out. I thought I knew what career I wanted and where I wanted to live. I knew I wanted to travel the world and see everything there is to see and experience everything there is to experience. I thought I knew who I wanted to share those experiences with, what kind of house we would live in and what kind of cars we would drive.

Slowly but surely, things began to change. I grew as a person, my tastes changed, my goals were reformed and my priorities were altered. Boyfriends came and went. I grew apart from some people and closer to others. I just didn’t want those same things anymore. I wasn’t sure what I wanted and the future began to scare me more and more.

But before I let myself completely panic, I realized everyone has been there at some time or another, not sure what life has in store for them or what is going to happen next. And I realized that's okay.

It’s okay to not have everything all figured out.

If there is any time in your life to not know where you are going, to not know what you want, and to just overall, not know what you are doing, it’s now. College is the time to be confused, to have your life disorganized and your goals all in a jumble.

I've learned that I am still young and growing as a person. So if your aspirations, habits, likes and dislikes don’t stay exactly how they are right now, it is a good thing. It means you are getting out there and experiencing life, introducing yourself to new things and surrounding yourselves with different people.

The reality is, it is too early to have our lives all figured out. We are still discovering who we are; it is too soon to know exactly where we are going.

I have realized that what is important right now, during this time of our lives, is finding people to truly be there for you: family to talk to and give you advice when you are considering changing your major for the fourth time, a support system to let you cry on their shoulders when that boy hurts you, again, and friends to help you forget all about it.

So don’t worry about the exact details of your future so much and focus on more important things, instead. Embrace your messy life.