A couple weeks ago, I was having a chat with a friend of mine in a place where heart to hearts don't usually happen: A bar. I was sitting at a table with my friend and I looked at her and said, "I need some motivation." I haven't had this friend my whole life, or even a whole year, just a few short months. We don't see each other everyday, nor do we talk everyday. We go to the same school, sometimes find ourselves with the same group of people, follow each other on social media, and we always share a smile when our paths cross. When this friend of mine comes to mind, I can only think of positive things to say about her. She has created herself into a beautifully strong and independent girl. Anyone with eyes can see that.
When I looked at her and said, "I need some motivation," it came to her so naturally. It was like she knew what was going on in my life at that very point. I am going to share with you what she told me. I am sharing it because it has stuck with me and resonated deep in my body.
She drew a square with her hands and at the same time she said, "In life you have a box. you get to decide who you want in that box." It was as simple as that. An imaginary box was placed in front of me and it was up to me to decide who I let in my box. That was about the extent of our conversation, and honestly, that was all I needed to hear. I went home shortly after that with every intention of sleeping; However, when I laid my head on my pillow, sleeping did not come easily. I just kept hearing her say, "You get to decide who you want in your box."
My dear friend was so right. It is up to you. It is 100 percent only up to you to put who you want in your box. If you don't want someone there, do not let them be there. If being someone's friend is toxic to your well being, don't let them in your box. If someone that is in your box makes you feel like less of a person, do not keep them in your box.
We all deserve the best people in our box. Who's the one person who knows who is good for you and who isn't good for you? You do. Only let people that bring you up, support you, and make you the best version of you possible in your box. If you let someone in your box and it turns out that they don't deserve a spot, fix it. Take them out of your box. It's as simple as that.
Live a life that you are proud of. Make that box full of only the best people. At the end of the day, you have to remember that you only have one life to live. Live it how you want. You have to make yourself happy.
