Often, someone’s biggest fear is being alone. It doesn’t matter if that means being alone for the rest of your life or just walking into a room by yourself. There seems to be this constant need to not be alone. I believe that is why people are best friends with their cell phone. They can look busy and social at the same time. Obviously, your friends are on your phone and since you are on your phone, you are with your friends...right? Wrong.

The best way to not feel alone is to be comfortable with being by yourself. I always notice that when someone enters a room, they are either surrounded by people or on their phone. Entering a room with your head held high, and eyes looking up instead of down at the floor demonstrates a level of confidence. Walking with confidence is one of the best ways to establish your presence, show authority, and appear open to conversation with new people. Staying on your phone gives other people in the room the vibe that you are unavailable to talk/interact with or that you have better things to do. While you may be sending texts, your non-verbal communication can send out a negative signal to those around you. Before the invention of text messages and smartphones, what did people do when they were alone? They had to have an actual conversation with someone on the phone, talk with someone sitting by them, or read the newspaper. Back then, people couldn’t whisk themselves away from society by entering the cyber world on their cell phone.

There is no shame in walking into a room alone. You won’t always have someone to walk around with you so that you look like you are interesting and have friends. It’s impossible for you to be around people constantly. So, instead of feeling anxious, enjoy the time when you are alone. Feel comfortable with it. People who are constantly on their phone look insecure and uncomfortable, rather than cool and approachable.