I understand that this is your job, and means of income, but please tone it down.

I feel personally attacked when girls message me compliments on Insta, because it never seems genuine. Usually, when I receive a compliment, it is followed up with them wanting something in return. Please stop giving me the compliment, if all you want is my money in return, it's kind of rude.

I understand that Insta now serves as a form of business, in which anyone can offer their services to an ample amount of people. I applaud this kind of behavior and self-taught business initiative, but where do we draw the line? Instagram feeds are now all becoming an advertisement. Distorted versions of reality are infiltrating Insta, and it's disgusting.

The DMs began about two years ago. At first, I didn't mind and actually was interested in becoming part of this trend. It all sounds so promising - you get what you receive. I was once part of the population that wanted to try these detoxes. I mean, who doesn't want to be skinny tomorrow?

Girls would first start with a compliment, followed by a "hope I'm not interrupting, but you seem like the perfect model for my...", in which they would try to sell me their product. At first, I didn't know what to say. I didn't want to be rude and not answer, but at the same time, I didn't want to have to deal with it in the first place. After a year or so, I got better at it and drafted a paragraph that I would send to girls when they asked me to test one of their products. Yet recently, I've received 3 to 5 DMs a day!

I'm sorry, what?

That's 3 to 5 messages a day that reminds me of how flat my stomach should be. Or how my hair has split ends and I should take vitamins for a healthier, glossier hair. Even better, a constant reminder of how I'm not good enough.

I'm f*cking over it.

As I dealt with my own set of eating insecurities, I found these types of messages detrimental. I am already aware of the expectations of how I should look, and now complete strangers are making me feel even more insecure? Aren't we supposed to be building each other up?

How can we preach self-love, and all these positive behaviors, when at the same time we are making a profit out of insecurities? I know this has always been the way things are, but doesn't anyone else feel suffocated? Why are people choosing to advertise this type of unhealthy expectations? Do you really think drinking a tea advertised by a skinny model is going to make you skinny? I'm sorry to break it to you, but you are probably never going to look like that unless you starve yourself.

These are professional models. They get paid to look like that. They don't have school, or jobs to worry about. They can afford to not eat and spend a whole day at the gym because that is their lives. I'm not saying it's not hard work, it actually must be so exhausting not wanting to eat a whole pizza whenever you want to, but I'm just saying, most people don't function like that.

If you want to truly feel better about yourself and be healthy, you have to work hard for it. If you have a bad relationship with food, it's probably deep rooted personal issues. It's not the pizza's fault. And there's no way overpriced tea is going to help you fixed whatever deep rooted issue you have going on. That tea is not going to make you better in the long run, it's only going to distract you from the real problem. You're going to keep buying all these products that don't do anything for you, while you drift further away from the real issue.

I know this from experience, and it's a horrible habit to break away from. My relationship with food has affected more than just myself. It's affected my relationships with others, and whether I want to go out because I'm scared I won't have the self-control to eat more than I should. Your DM's trigger a part of me that I am trying to work on. It's hard to improve something when you are constantly reminded that it's an issue. Please stop being so aggressive in the way you market your products, at the end of the day we are all on the same boat and have our set of insecurities to overcome.