The perfect relationship doesn't exist, but the perfect person for you might.
If the thought of the relationship, not existing stresses you out, keep reading. The perfect guy doesn’t exist, the perfect girl doesn't either, but the perfect person for you, may. It can be easy to make a list of the things you want in a relationship and check them off when you find a someone you like. However, unless they're Superman, you won’t be able to check off everything on your list. As we all know, even Superman has a weakness. We all do, our sin nature makes sure we don’t reach perfection. Yet, we look for perfection in relationships. We seek the stability, innocence, and perfection that we don’t have. Now, don’t get me wrong, I am not saying lower your standards, keep those high.
So, what’s the difference? How do you keep your standards high, without expecting perfection? When you know what a healthy relationship with Christ at the center looks like, you will look for and hopefully be attracted to people that will fit with you. See, having high standards shows self- respect, and can keep the people that aren’t right for you, from getting into your heart. The wrong person may take advantage of you and turn you the wrong way. Keeping high standards means seeing red flags, and stopping wrong relationships from getting too far. As far as perfection, well I think there’s a reason opposites attract. Relationships are like a puzzle, but each of us doesn’t have all the pieces. The right person for us has the pieces we lack. God sees the big picture and sees the pieces we have and the ones we need. What you lack, your person will complete, and vice versa.
When we find the right person for us, we complete each other. I know it can be hard to want perfection in a relationship, but we will never be in a relationship if we have unrealistic expectations. It’s the same way we want others to look at us. We don’t want the person we like to look for perfection in us because they would never find it. If everyone went around looking for “the perfect boyfriend” or the “perfect girlfriend” it would be a pretty lonely world, because we all fall short. However, there is someone out there that will understand your faults, forgive you for them, and love you for the broken pieces. They will appreciate your quarks, uniqueness, and personality. The perfect person for you will understand that you are not perfect because they recognize they aren’t either. It is a beautiful puzzle that comes together when the big picture is understood. It can be frustrating when relationships fail or fall through. It can be easy to be discouraged and wonder if your “perfect person” is out there, but if it’s God’s will, you will find them.
Don’t lose heart, don’t give up, and keep searching. Take care of yourself so when your perfect person comes along, you will be ready. Your perfect person may just be looking for you too, and you never know when your paths will cross and your puzzle will be complete.
