Why You Should Ignore Shade Thrown By Haters And Just Take The High Road
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Why You Should Ignore Shade Thrown By Haters And Just Take The High Road

I'd rather be mature and collected, than immature and desperate.

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Why You Should Ignore Shade Thrown By Haters And Just Take The High Road
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"Haters don’t really hate you, they hate themselves; because you’re a reflection of what they wish to be." ~Yaira N.

"Don’t get mad. Don’t get even. Do better. Much better. Rise above. Become so engulfed in your own success that you forget it ever happened." ~Unknown

You know what irks the crap out of me? Adults acting like children. As a twenty-two year old woman I am more mature than grown forty year old women. It's mind blowing.

Adults act so petty anymore. I know I've always been very mature for my age and I have an extremely calm demeanor. People who think they are getting to me, really aren't and I'm happy to be that way. I'm happy to be calm and level headed.

I'm happy to be unaffected by shade and petty sh*t. I'm happy that I'm better than that because I can upload painful, mean pictures on important days too. But I choose to take the high road.

Don't judge others until you have judged yourself, but sometimes I struggle with that one level, especially when it concerns family. My family and fur babies are the world to me, so it's hard for me to understand people who NEED time away from their kids/family when I need more time with mine.

I'm happy to be a wise, eighty year old woman on the inside, who likes staying home with her dogs and reading a good book. I like staying in with my family instead of going out shopping every weekend, like a lot of women do. And there is nothing wrong with that, but I feel like it's mixed up priorities anymore.

When there are jabs thrown your way or pictures put up just to hurt you, laugh. Laugh at how sad they must be to live in negativity like that, and laugh because you know better and are taking the higher road. When I see shade or stupid pictures uploaded to piss me off, I just let it go and breathe.

My friends send me screenshots of shade, but I tell them not to because I don't need to know and I don't care. It doesn't affect me or my life. It's a blip on my radar. I just see the bigger picture.

I'd rather be mature and collected, than immature and desperate. I mean, people who throw jabs over social media or put up old pictures to get a rise out of someone is just sad.

I feel bad for people who have to air their sh*t or try to throw shade because they are angry and hateful on the inside. It's sad that people hold onto so much anger and pain.

The advice I have for the person who is so angry and mean-spirited is: just breathe. Breathe, man. Let it go. Don't throw meanness and negativity out into the world intended to hurt another.

That's bad karma because all that negativity will come back to you, and bring you bad luck. Send out positive vibes. Be happy. Let sh*t go. Let the bad people out and forget the ones that have hurt you.

Be MATURE. Set an example for the people around you so they see you with your head up and not rolling in the mud.

But most of all, just be yourself and enjoy the time with your family. Kids, dogs, mothers and fathers age so quickly. You blink and they age, so don't let a minute go to waste because you are unhappy with your life. Instead of throwing shade, go hug someone you love.

Find happiness.

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