I Finally Found Love For My Body And I 10/10 Recommend You Do The Same

I Finally Found Love For My Body And I 10/10 Recommend You Do The Same

You, yourself are a great story.


I have grown up in the age of social media, in the age where everyone seems to be in competition with the other. I have grown up in an age where your body is never good enough and for a long time, I believed that too.

I will admit I fell into the trap of seeing movie stars, celebrities and so many others with their tanned skin, toned stomach and fake looking face and wanted to be that, I am a teenage girl - what else was I suppose to do?

It was not until recently (college) where I finally took a step back and realized that my body is perfect for everything it is and everything it is not.

I use to hate my scars, they were all over my legs, my hands and what not. But I realized the scar from falling off a treadmill was a great story. The scar from putting my kickstand up on my bike with my hand and getting my thumb caught in the chain is a story. The scar on my arm, or bottom of my foot from curling irons are a story. More importantly, they are my story, my life, and my beauty - shown in a way like no other.

I use to hate my acne. It seemed I could get it under control for a couple days if, I was lucky, a week, but then something always popped up. I was terrified of going out without makeup on, foundation, concealer, and anti-redness makeup were always in my pocket, backpack or car. I finally realized that hating my skin and blaming it for my inability to have the confidence needed to be a thing of the past.

I use to hate my hips. The way the stretch marks looked right after a shower, the way they were so "noticeable" in a bikini. I use to hate the small amounts of cellulite my thighs had when I was sitting down or looking at it in a mirror. I was scared everyone else noticed it too, oh my goodness you would have thought I was trying to hide a murder, but once I realized no one else noticed those small things because that's exactly what they were, small, I became free.

I use to hate my stomach, the way it never seemed to just lay flat. Every time I looked down I saw the little pouch, the little part of it that bumped out. It was never perfect. I soon realized some of the skinniest girls are the least happy. I get a meal every day, a meal on the table every night and that makes me blessed. The fact my stomach is not toned and perfect shows I am human, not some Barbie figure. It shows I am healthy not that I am imperfect.

The point is I use to hate the smallest parts of my body, the ones I saw when taking a shower, getting ready or in a bathing suit. The ones I saw 24/7. I saw these parts of my body and thought everyone else did too - I was obsessed. I realized very quickly no one was focusing on these small parts of me because they were insignificant as to who I was as a person. I finally found love for my body when I realized my body will never be anyone else's and that was a good thing. I realized that admiring someone else's beauty should never make me question my own.

The moment I started to love my body for everything it was, made me confident not just in my body but in my ability, in my intelligence, in my personality. It changed every aspect of my life, not just the smile I had when looking in a mirror.

"One day I had to sit down with myself and decide that I loved myself no matter what my body looked like" - Gabourey Sidibe

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My whole life I’ve been thin—which is kind of an understatement. Every time I go to the doctor I get the same “you’re underweight” lecture that I’ve heard every year since I was able to form memories. I’ve never really felt insecure about my weight, I love being able to eat everything and not gain a single pound. Since my freshman year of high school I’ve probably only gained 8 pounds and I’m now a sophomore in college. Of course, in school, there were rumors that I was anorexic or bulimic, but everyone who knew me knew that was far from the truth. I’m now 19, 5’2, and I still have yet to break 100 pounds on the scale. It seems that there is a lot of skinny shaming going around and to me, one of the main contributors to that is the Dove Real Beauty campaign.

You’re probably wondering where I’m going with this because skinny girls get all the praise and other body types are neglected. That’s really not true, though. While loving other body types, you are tearing down skinny girls. Why is it okay to do that to skinny girls but not to other body types? Why is it okay to say “only dogs like bones” or say “every body type is beautiful” until you see a model's abs, or ribs, or thigh gap and then tear them down because they’re “unnaturally” skinny?

The point I’m trying to make is that, as a naturally skinny girl, I have never shamed anyone for their body type, yet I go every day and get at least two comments about my weight. I’m always the skinny girl, the toothpick, but I’m not Jessica. Yeah, I’m a size 00. Get over it. If you have an issue with my body and feel like my body is disgusting to you, don’t look at it. I know that I’m healthy and I don’t need your input when my body just naturally burns calories fast. I don’t have an eating disorder and never have. I am real beauty though, and I know that because I’m comfortable in my own skin. So maybe the real issue is that we as a society have been shoving certain body types down our daughters’ throats so they begin to romanticize models that have certain standards that they have to meet, who work hard for the bodies that they have, and are making a hell of a lot more money than most of the people discussing why they look emaciated while what they’re actually looking at is the photoshopped product.

I’m not going to apologize for being skinny when that is just how my body is, I can’t help it. So please, stop tearing my body down while trying to bring your body up. You can praise your body without shaming skinny girls. Shaming me for being thin does not make you better than the man that shamed your body, just as me shaming you for being curvy does not make me better than the man that shamed my body. As women, we need to love each other because we are the only ones who truly understand each other.

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Does everyone know that fruits and vegetables are good for you, but do you know why they are considered to be nutritious?

Some may believe the answer is because they have low caloric value, which isn't wrong but they provide so much more. They possess phytochemicals.

Phytochemicals are naturally occurring compounds found in plant foods that provide the fruit and vegetables their color, taste, and odor. More than that, each phytochemical comes with its health benefits.

There are seven mechanisms of action or ways that phytochemicals are beneficial to our health.

They can either act as antioxidants which help to prevent damage to healthy cells, anti-inflammatory, chemo-preventative, support our immune system, trigger apoptosis or programmed cell death, protect our DNA, regulate hormones and finally, some may have the ability for specific actions, such as inhibiting the growth of bad bacteria.

Below is a list of phytochemicals:

1. Carotene 

Alpha and beta carotene give fruits and vegetables an orange or yellow color. Some examples of foods that are high in beta carotene are sweet potatoes, carrots, and bell peppers of those colors.

Carotene, when ingested, is converted into Vitamin A that your body can easily absorb and utilize. Carotene has been scientifically proven to help eye and heart health as well as support our immune system by acting as an antioxidant, anti-inflammatory and possessing chemo-preventive factors.

2. Lycopene 

Think tomatoes. The phytochemical lycopene is responsible for the red color in whole plant foods. The health effects are acting as antioxidants, anti-inflammatory, chemo-preventative but also good for DNA and urinary tract health. What's cool about lycopene is that no matter how you prepare your food, you don't lose any of the nutrients.

3. Chlorophyll 

Eat your greens. Chlorophyll-rich foods appear green. Some excellent sources include dark leafy greens and broccoli. Chlorophyll, like the other phytochemicals are known to be antioxidants, anti-inflammatory and chemo-preventative. Choosing foods that have a rich and vibrant color indicate that is a good source of that phytochemical.

So, next time you're in the produce aisle, be sure to choose your colors wisely.

4. Anthocyanin

Anthocyanins are those foods that are red, blue and purple. Any type of berry is an excellent source of antioxidants. Antioxidants combat damage to cells by helping balance those that are unstable. Cells become unsteady when they have an uneven pairing of protons and electrons so antioxidants essentially give an electron to the cells that need it.

5. Reservatrol

The color purple. Just as every phytochemical mentioned, resveratrol contains antioxidants, anti-inflammatory and chemo-preventative agents. That's the beauty of phytochemicals. Reservartrol also takes it a step further to help brain and bone health. Studies have proven that eating foods rich in resevatrol also help to protect against age-related diseases.

If you want to learn more about the health benefits of phytochemicals, please check out this wonderful book!

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