Love Your Body For What It Is

I Finally Found Love For My Body And I 10/10 Recommend You Do The Same

You, yourself are a great story.


I have grown up in the age of social media, in the age where everyone seems to be in competition with the other. I have grown up in an age where your body is never good enough and for a long time, I believed that too.

I will admit I fell into the trap of seeing movie stars, celebrities and so many others with their tanned skin, toned stomach and fake looking face and wanted to be that, I am a teenage girl - what else was I suppose to do?

It was not until recently (college) where I finally took a step back and realized that my body is perfect for everything it is and everything it is not.

I use to hate my scars, they were all over my legs, my hands and what not. But I realized the scar from falling off a treadmill was a great story. The scar from putting my kickstand up on my bike with my hand and getting my thumb caught in the chain is a story. The scar on my arm, or bottom of my foot from curling irons are a story. More importantly, they are my story, my life, and my beauty - shown in a way like no other.

I use to hate my acne. It seemed I could get it under control for a couple days if, I was lucky, a week, but then something always popped up. I was terrified of going out without makeup on, foundation, concealer, and anti-redness makeup were always in my pocket, backpack or car. I finally realized that hating my skin and blaming it for my inability to have the confidence needed to be a thing of the past.

I use to hate my hips. The way the stretch marks looked right after a shower, the way they were so "noticeable" in a bikini. I use to hate the small amounts of cellulite my thighs had when I was sitting down or looking at it in a mirror. I was scared everyone else noticed it too, oh my goodness you would have thought I was trying to hide a murder, but once I realized no one else noticed those small things because that's exactly what they were, small, I became free.

I use to hate my stomach, the way it never seemed to just lay flat. Every time I looked down I saw the little pouch, the little part of it that bumped out. It was never perfect. I soon realized some of the skinniest girls are the least happy. I get a meal every day, a meal on the table every night and that makes me blessed. The fact my stomach is not toned and perfect shows I am human, not some Barbie figure. It shows I am healthy not that I am imperfect.

The point is I use to hate the smallest parts of my body, the ones I saw when taking a shower, getting ready or in a bathing suit. The ones I saw 24/7. I saw these parts of my body and thought everyone else did too - I was obsessed. I realized very quickly no one was focusing on these small parts of me because they were insignificant as to who I was as a person. I finally found love for my body when I realized my body will never be anyone else's and that was a good thing. I realized that admiring someone else's beauty should never make me question my own.

The moment I started to love my body for everything it was, made me confident not just in my body but in my ability, in my intelligence, in my personality. It changed every aspect of my life, not just the smile I had when looking in a mirror.

"One day I had to sit down with myself and decide that I loved myself no matter what my body looked like" - Gabourey Sidibe

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To The Girl Struggling With Her Body Image

It's not about the size of your jeans, but the size of your heart, soul, and spirit.


To the girl struggling with her body image,

You are more than the number on the scale. You are more than the number on your jeans and dresses. You are way more than the number of pounds you've gained or lost in whatever amount of time.

Weight is defined as the quantity of matter contained by a body or object. Weight does not define your self-worth, ambition or potential.

So many girls strive for validation through the various numbers associated with body image and it's really so sad seeing such beautiful, incredible women become discouraged over a few numbers that don't measure anything of true significance.

Yes, it is important to live a healthy lifestyle. Yes, it is important to take care of yourself. However, taking care of yourself includes your mental health as well. Neglecting either your mental or physical health will inflict problems on the other. It's very easy to get caught up in the idea that you're too heavy or too thin, which results in you possibly mistreating your body in some way.

Your body is your special, beautiful temple. It harbors all of your thoughts, feelings, characteristics, and ideas. Without it, you wouldn't be you. If you so wish to change it in a healthy way, then, by all means, go ahead. With that being said, don't make changes to impress or please someone else. You are the only person who is in charge of your body. No one else has the right to tell you whether or not your body is good enough. If you don't satisfy their standards, then you don't need that sort of negative influence in your life. That sort of manipulation and control is extremely unhealthy in its own regard.

Do not hold back on things you love or want to do because of how you interpret your body. You are enough. You are more than enough. You are more than your exterior. You are your inner being, your spirit. A smile and confidence are the most beautiful things you can wear.

It's not about the size of your jeans. It's about the size of your mind and heart. Embrace your body, observe and adore every curve, bone and stretch mark. Wear what makes you feel happy and comfortable in your own skin. Do your hair and makeup (or don't do either) to your heart's desire. Wear the crop top you've been eyeing up in that store window. Want a bikini body? Put a bikini on your body, simple.

So, as hard as it may seem sometimes, understand that the number on the scale doesn't measure the amount or significance of your contributions to this world. Just because that dress doesn't fit you like you had hoped doesn't mean that you're any less of a person.

Love your body, and your body will love you right back.

Cover Image Credit: Lauren Margliotti

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In Real Life, 'Plus Size' Means A Size 16 And Up, Not Just Women Who Are Size 8's With Big Breasts

The media needs to understand this, and give recognition to actual plus-size women.


Recently, a British reality dating TV show called "Love Island" introduced that a plus-sized model would be in the season five lineup of contestants. This decision was made after the show was called out for not having enough diversity in its contestants. However, the internet was quick to point out that this "plus-size model" is not an accurate representation of the plus-size community.

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It is so frustrating that the media picks and chooses women that are the "ideal" version of plus sized. In the fashion world, plus-size starts at size 8. EIGHT. In real life, plus-size women are women who are size 16 and up. Plunkett Research, a marketing research company, estimated in 2018 that 68% of women in America wear a size 16 to 18. This is a vast difference to what we are being told by the media. Just because a woman is curvy and has big breasts, does NOT mean that they are plus size. Marketing teams for television shows, magazines, and other forms of media need to realize that the industry's idea of plus size is not proportionate to reality.

I am all for inclusion, but I also recognize that in order for inclusion to actually happen, it needs to be accurate.

"Love Island" is not the only culprit of being unrealistic in woman's sizes, and I don't fully blame them for this choice. I think this is a perfect example of the unrealistic expectations that our society puts on women. When the media tells the world that expectations are vastly different from reality, it causes women to internalize that message and compare themselves to these unrealistic standards.

By bringing the truth to the public, it allows women to know that they should not compare themselves and feel bad about themselves. Everyone is beautiful. Picking and choosing the "ideal" woman or the "ideal" plus-size woman is completely deceitful. We as a society need to do better.

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