Every college student knows the struggle of coming home, just for the adults around them to ask them two terrible questions.
"So what are your career plans?"
"So do you have a boyfriend yet?"
One of the top reasons we dread coming home is because of the adults who will ask us endless questions we don't have answers to. But what really gets me is everyone who asks about my love life.
Why would a boy be my priority right now?
I have no hate for the people who do have relationships right now, more power to you! I'm just saying that finding a boy to take me on dates is just not my priority right now. I've got a million things on my mind and I'm just working on myself.
I'm taking 20 credit hours next semester, working two jobs, and really involved in about 3 clubs. Between studying psychology, researching substance abuse, helping students with their presentations, and leading food recoveries, I'm a little busy.
When I do have spare time, I need to work on my resume, build my brand (whatever that means), maintain my friendships, go to the gym, and get enough sleep. That's a lot for one confused college kid. I spent hours last semester making a resume and about 700 cover letters to apply for a ton of internships, and it still wasn't enough. At this age, we really have to work hard to get somewhere.
One of my sorority sisters compared having a boyfriend to an extra 3 credit hour course, and I just don't have time for that, or the 6 credit hour "finding the perfect guy" prerequisite.
And I just want that to be an acceptable answer. When I tell my extended family that I'm too busy for a boy, they look at me like liberal arts college has turned me into a lesbian (it hasn't, but that should also be an acceptable answer too). In an age when we're expected to do everything, a boyfriend should be an acceptable ball to drop. You have to have a perfect resume to be competitive in the job market, and future employers won't ask about my relationship status.
Besides, I already have the best boy in the world. He's sitting in my lap now, as I type this, sniffing for crumbs on my desk. My dog, Loki, is all the love and affection I need right now. One day I want to meet someone, so we can have three dogs together, but I'm just not in a rush right now.
I also just like being independent. I'm an independent person and I like to operate on my own schedule, I'm not good at coordinating my life with someone else. Ask my friends, unless we live together or eat food together, I forget to see some of them often.
Boys are fun and all, but I'm busy trying to conquer the world.
