How To Paint A Perfect Picture

How To Paint A Perfect Picture

Step one: don't.

I think that in some shape or form, we are all artists. I've always loved art. I love that it's abstract, thought out yet spontaneous, and how there are times where a simple piece of artwork could make you feel something in the depths of your heart.

Now, let me get this straight, I'm not a painter. I couldn't give you any advice on how to operate a pottery wheel. The closest I've ever been to that sort of artist is the artist career card in the game of LIFE. There are all different artists in our world today. Art can literally be anything and anywhere depending on the person viewing it.

I like to believe that our lives tend to make our own artwork along the way, and as I've come to find out, sometimes the piece of art we may have envisioned isn't always what's seen before our very eyes.

But that doesn't mean it's any less beautiful.

I'm a perfectionist artist, a perfection-artist if you may. Over the course of my life, I've tried painting a picture that was worthwhile. I've tried painting my own idea of beautiful, even if that's not the beautiful that I was supposed to paint. There are days when I'm trying and trying and trying to bring my picture to life, and I make a wrong brush stroke. Instead of going along with the mishap, I end up abandoning the work I've invested for so long, in the hopes that maybe if I start over again, I can finally get it right. I can finally see my painting as beautiful. I will finally see a masterpiece.

More realistically, over the course of my life, I've tried being a friend, a daughter, a sister, or even just a person that's worthwhile. I've tried molding myself to be the person that other people want, even if that's not the person I was supposed to be. There are days in my life when I'm trying and trying and trying to be the best person I can be, and I make a mistake. Instead of going along with the mishap, I end up abandoning the person I've invested in for so long, in the hopes that maybe if I start over again and change some aspects about myself, I can finally get it right. I can finally see myself as beautiful. I will finally see the masterpiece I could be.

The thing about art is that there are plenty of paintings with unintended brush strokes.

The thing about people is that there are plenty of days with unintended mistakes.

Don't abandon the masterpiece in progress.

Don't dwell on the past mistakes.

Be brave enough to finish what you start instead of abandoning ship every time a trial comes your way. Your canvas speaks volumes about who you are, and there are people who are going to look at the picture you've painted and think, "my favorite part of this picture is *insert wrong brushstroke*." Everybody makes mistakes. That brush stroke has character, and as long as you can look back at your canvas and see how far you've come since the mishap, that's a picture that was worthwhile. You're a person that is worthwhile. Not all people can see that, but the right ones will. Keep painting your masterpiece.

"God created you in His very own image. He looks past your mistakes and He looks right at you and says, “There’s my masterpiece. That’s my son. That’s my daughter.” --Joel Osteen

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I'd Rather Be Single Than Settle – Here Is Why Being Picky Is Okay

They're on their best behavior when you're dating.

Dating nowadays described in one word: annoying.

What's even more annoying? when people tell you that you're being too "picky" when it comes to dating. Yes, from an outside perspective sometimes that's exactly what it looks like; however, when looking at it from my perspective it all makes sense.

I've heard it all:

"He was cute, why didn't you like him?"

"You didn't even give him a chance!"

"You pay too much attention to the little things!"

What people don't understand is that it's OKAY to be picky when it comes to guys. For some reason, girls in college freak out and think they're supposed to have a boyfriend by now, be engaged by the time they graduate, etc. It's all a little ridiculous.

However, I refuse to put myself on a time table such as this due to the fact that these girls who feel this way are left with no choice but to overlook the things in guys that they shouldn't be overlooking, they're settling and this is something that I refuse to do.

So this leaves the big question: What am I waiting for?

Well, I'm waiting for a guy who...

1. Wants to know my friends.

Blessed doesn't even begin to describe how lucky I am to have the friends that I do.

I want a guy who can hang out with my friends. If a guy makes an effort to impress your friends then that says a lot about him and how he feels about you. This not only shows that he cares about you but he cares about the people in your life as well.

Someone should be happy to see you happy and your friends contribute to that happiness, therefore, they should be nothing more than supportive and caring towards you and your friendships.

2. Actually, cares to get to know me.

Although this is a very broad statement, this is the most important one. A guy should want to know all about you. He should want to know your favorite movie, favorite ice cream flavor, favorite Netflix series, etc. Often, (the guys I get stuck on dates with) love to talk about themselves: they would rather tell you about what workout they did yesterday, what their job is, and what they like to do rather than get to know you.

This is something easy to spot on the first date, so although they may be "cute," you should probably drop them if you leave your date and can recite everything about their life since the day they were born, yet they didn't catch what your last name was.

3. How they talk about other women.

It does not matter who they're talking about, if they call their ex-girlfriend crazy we all know she probably isn't and if she is it's probably their fault.

If they talk bad about their mom, let's be honest, if they're disrespecting their mother they're not going to respect you either. If they mention a girl's physical appearances when describing them. For example, "yeah, I think our waitress is that blonde chick with the big boobs"

Well if that doesn't hint they're a complete f* boy then I don't know what else to tell you. And most importantly calling other women "bitches" that's just disrespectful.

Needless to say, if his conversations are similar to ones you'd hear in a frat house, ditch him.

4. Phone etiquette.

If he can't put his phone down long enough to take you to dinner then he doesn't deserve for you to be sitting across from him.

If a guy is serious about you he's going to give you his undivided attention and he's going to do whatever it takes to impress you and checking Snapchat on a date is not impressive. Also, notice if his phone is facedown, then there's most likely a reason for it.

He doesn't trust who or what could pop up on there and he clearly doesn't want you seeing. Although I'm not particularly interested in what's popping up on their phones, putting them face down says more about the guy than you think it does.

To reiterate, it's okay to be picky ladies, you're young, there's no rush.

Remember these tips next time you're on a date or seeing someone, and keep in mind: they're on their best behavior when you're dating. Then ask yourself, what will they be like when they're comfortable? Years down the road? Is this what I really want? If you ask yourself these questions you might be down the same road I have stumbled upon, being too picky.. and that's better than settling.

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An ode to the little girl raised to be insecure.


They raise little girls to be insecure

Little girls grow to be big girls

People always ask big girls why they're so insecure

Big girls aren't quite sure

Day after day the big girl can't keep up

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Her soul feels worn

The big girl learns to grow hard

In a way, she's a bit stronger

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How can she let that affect her

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Hoping that one day

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