As much as everyone would like to believe we live in a perfect world, unfortunately we do not. As good as we can try to be there will always be a person in our lives who will try to take advantage of you, and if not, then you're probably the one taking advantage of people. If you are an avid watcher of daytime television, you know Judge Judy is on at basically any random hour, and the people in her court definitely represent the various personalities and attitudes you will face in your life, and maybe even avoid becoming like some of the people on her show.
"Beauty fades. Dumb is forever."
You really can't argue with this statement. You can't change getting older and perhaps losing beauty along with youth, but a person can be stupid forever. It's like a diet, it requires commitment and a change of lifestyle to truly stop being dumb.
"Do you know when a gift becomes a loan? When the relationship is over. Have you ever heard that, sir? Well, neither have I. I just made it up. I'm going to put it on coffee mugs."
Judge Judy knows how to convince a person of their wrongdoing while still being witty. This is an important lesson to anyone who may have just ended a relationship. Both partners in a relationship spend money on each other and it isn't until the relationship ends that they want that money back. It's sad, you're angry, but he/she doesn't owe you money most likely. Unless it was agreed that it was a loan, it probably wasn't. Save yourself a court date in a claims court and move on. You'll feel better if you do, and you don't have to see your ex anymore.
"..You're lying. I can tell because the hairs on the back of my neck are standing up."
You don't have to be a judge to have good instincts. Never second guess yourself because your initial instinct is probably right. And Judge Judy shows that even in a courtroom, instincts are usually correct. As long as you believe in yourself, nothing will get by you.
"I've got a message for all you single people out there, in the audience, so listen to me very carefully-Aside from no joint bank accounts, no joint credit cards, no joint visas until you're married, take this home with you: NEVER consign on anybody's behalf for anything, and I mean NOT EVER."
What Judge Judy is saying is that, beside from avoiding binding yourself and your money to someone who may not be in your life forever, you should never make a commitment on something for someone else. Whether it be a loan or anything. You always need to put yourself first to protect yourself while also being a good person. It's tough, because people are constantly in need and will ask for help, but you can't help everyone.
"If it doesn't make sense, it's not true."
This is a good message from Judge Judy. Everybody lies, and it's important to not let people lie to you. Believe me, if they say their dog ate it, it's most likely a lie. Especially if they don't have a dog. And, not to promote lying, but if you feel compelled to, make sure it's at least believable.
Nobody is perfect. People lie and make mistakes, including yourself. Judge Judy teaches us a lot with her words in court, especially how to be confident, trust your instincts, and if you have a problem with someone, address it. She wants to bestow independence and responsibility upon the people in her courtroom, and it transfers into the real world too.
