At Least Get To Know Me Before You Hate Me

At Least Get To Know Me Before You Hate Me

Just because that person doesn't like them, doesn't mean you won't like them.

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As I've gotten older and started meeting new people, there's been a common thing I've learned.

People will actually refuse to like you, without getting to know you, just because someone they know doesn't like you.

Does that make any sense?

You are judging someone based off of someone else's perspective of that person. That's just not right. You have no idea what that person is like, who they really are, or anything about them. Just because you hear something through the grapevine, doesn't mean you should believe it.

Back in my junior high years (yes the super cringe-worthy years) there was this girl who was in ALL of my classes. Like out of 7 classes, she was in 6. I saw this girl practically all day, 5 days a week. On the first day, after noticing that she was already in 3 of my classes, I decided to introduce myself and say hi to her. She had an issue with her eyes that weren't all that noticeable unless you were talking to her. It didn't bother me.

That next day in school, another girl asked why I was talking to her. She tried to tell me she was weird, she lived in a house with no electricity, she was a huge liar about everything and that I shouldn't trust her. I couldn't understand why she was saying this because she was seriously super sweet. I ignored the girl's remarks, I knew that I needed to judge this for myself.

While the girl and I aren't close anymore (cause you know, adult life) she was one of my absolute best and closest friends from the day we met, till our senior year of high school. To this day, I bet if I messaged her and said I needed her help, she'd be there in a heartbeat.

That girl that was telling me all of those things about her? Turns out that she didn't like the girl I became friends with because she believed a rumor that she was talking to her ex-boyfriend. When in reality, the girl didn't even know who he was.

The phrase "you can't judge a book by its cover" goes the same with not judging it based off of a review you read. You have to actually read the book to know if YOU like it or not. The same goes for people.

If you want to have a biased opinion of me, based off of something a friend of yours or someone you knew said, that's your loss. It's sad you won't take the time to get to actually know me, before deciding you don't like me.

Take a minute of your day to realize how silly that is, then go talk to the one everyone tells you to stay away from. (Unless they're a serial killer, then don't do that.)

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To My Best Friend Who Taught Me What True Friendship Is, I Can't Thank You Enough

"To the person who will love you endlessly, love her with kindness and understanding."
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Dear Best Friend,

You have been a part of my life for quite some time now. You have seen my good, bad, and ugly sides and have stuck by my side through it all. I don't know if I could ever find the words to truly thank you for everything your friendship has given me, but I am definitely going to try.

Our lives have taken some twist and turn these past few years, but we have stayed strong through it all.

Thank you for judging me just the right amount.

Throughout our friendship, I have made some very questionable decisions. A lot of people would say "thanks for never judging me", but I feel like everyone needs a best friend who's going to tell them how it is; to tell them when they are about to make a bad decision or how to avoid something worse from happening. You have always told me how it is (even when I don't always want to hear it), but I know that I can come to you whenever I need someone to set me straight.

You're always down to do nothing with me.

I think that you are the one person that I can call up to hang out and do absolutely nothing with and have a good time. From the nights sitting in and playing card games to ordering Chinese food and watching an entire Netflix series while I dance around with the cat: I know that we could do anything, and nothing together and it would be fun.

But also, you're always down to get lit with me.

I swear one day we will be two old moms at a bar drinking vodka crans and laughing about the stupid shit our husbands and children do. You're always down to go out and have a good time. Even if everyone else we're with is miserable, we find a way to laugh at ourselves.

You are one of the few constant things in my life.

I've lost a lot of friends in my life, but you have stayed by my side through everything. I can't remember the last time we actually fought about anything, but even when we do we can't stay mad at each other for more than a day. I know we will be in each other's lives until we literally keel over.

I want you yo know that you're the strongest person I know.

You've dealt with things that not many people go through ever in their life. You have always been so mature, and you handle everything with grace. You inspire me every day with your goals and successes and I am so proud of you and all of your accomplishments.

Above all else, you deserve the world.

It's so easy to get caught up in your own mind and think that you deserve the things that happen to you, but please know that the only thing you deserve is happiness. Please settle for nothing short of that. It may take a bit to find your happiness, but I will be there every step of the way. You're a remarkable human being, and I want nothing but the best for you.

To the person who will hold your heart someday, please do not break it. To the person who may wrong you, you will regret it forever. To the person who will love you endlessly, love her with kindness and understanding.

You, my best friend, future bridesmaid, godmother of my children, the person to bail me out of jail, the one who lets me cry on their couch for twelve hours,

I love you.

I will cherish our friendship forever. Thank you for being you.

Love always,

Your best friend.

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It's 2019, And I Still Use A Weekly Planner

There is something about physically writing things down for that makes it easier to remember dates and deadlines.

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Even with all the technology that is available to us nowadays, I still use an old-fashioned planner. I keep it in my backpack and you will see me pull it out if I need to add events for that week. Usually I will review the syllabus for my classes at the start of each semester and put down the important test dates or dates for other assignments. By doing this, I get a visual outline of what each will look like and what weeks will be extra heavy with school and other clubs that I am involved in on campus. Even though having this is a nice tool to help plan ahead and budget my time, it is by no means a failsafe. Sometimes I get this feeling that I forgot to do something that day but can't think of what it is. When this happens, I can refer back to my planner and look to see if I missed anything. The key point is to not forget to write things down, otherwise, all will be lost.

With today's technology, iPhones can do pretty much anything, I am aware that there is google calendar which can be synced up with a MacBook as well. This doesn't work for me because it takes too long to enter the events in my phone and I have not grown used to it. Another point is that I don't have a MacBook so it would only be accessible from my phone. I have found that it is just quicker to jot an event down by hand in my planner. For some people this might seem like a hassle having to pull out their planner when wanting to write down something they need to accomplish for that day. Since people spend a lot of time being on their laptops or phones it would be more convenient for them, being that they know how to work the app.

Either way, keeping a daily schedule or planner has many benefits. As mentioned before, it can help reduce the possibility of forgetting important due dates for exams or projects and other deadlines. Writing things down can also help reduce stress. There are times where there is too much on our plate to handle at once, we might have the feeling that everything needs to get done, which can be overwhelming. When I put things down on paper, it doesn't seem as bad and I can take care of what needs to be done at the moment and then work from there. I feel great after checking off a couple things from my to-do list because I can see that progress is being made.

Another use is to build in some time to relax or just time for yourself into your daily or weekly schedule, this can prevent the feeling of being burned out. Building in free time should have limits, especially for people who may spend too much time watching Netflix or Television. I would know because there are times where it can feel like hours go by and I haven't accomplished anything productive.

I highly recommend anyone who is in college to keep a planner, otherwise the stress can be too much to handle.

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