Follow Your Dreams, Regardless If They Seem Realistic

Your Dreams Don't Have To Be Realistic For You To Follow Them

Don't let the fear of reality stall you from chasing your dreams.

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Becoming an adult can be terrifying, and deciding on your career path at 18 is even more mortifying. Why do we put so much weight on our shoulders at such a young age?

Go to college. Get a "real" job. Finish school and get that degree. Make X amount of money. Do something worthy.

The weight of the world only grows as you get older, and we let the expectations of others control our own reality. Who is it that determines what is a "realistic" dream vs an intangible one? Our parents? Friends? Strangers? Why do we place so much of our lives into other people's hands?

Being a junior in college, I often find myself questioning everything. Why am I choosing this career path? Will I finish this degree and graduate? Will I continue my education or immediately join the workforce? Is this really what I want to do with my life? What can I even do with this? Will I be able to make a living out of this? The pressures of graduating and entering what others claim as the real world can be daunting.

As I grow older and get further into my education, I notice how much the pressure has changed me. I am exhausted, overwhelmed, and passionless. What happened to the little girl who wanted to change the world? What happened to the middle schooler who wanted to save lives? What happened to the high school salutatorian whose vigor inspired others?

Slowly watching the fire burn out of me chasing more realistic goals made me realize the importance of fervor.

The sparks that drove me dimmed, and with it went my creativity, passion, eagerness, energy, and aspirations. I had let go of those silly dreams and found myself in limbo. Yeah, I might not be the first female President and I may never cure cancer, but why should I let life take those desires from me? Where is the passion that drove me throughout school? Where is the lust for a better life?

It wasn't until now that I realized that I can still hold on to those dreams, even if they aren't realistic while pursuing more tangible ones. There shouldn't be a void of empty desires in our lives.

However, there must be a fine line between realistic and impractical goals. The want for more is important, but we cannot allow ourselves to be transfixed on what we cannot change.

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
the courage to change the things that I can,
and the wisdom to know the difference.

Determining what is a realistic dream and what is not can be difficult. We would like to think that we can do anything we want, but the truth is that we are only human and cannot. We will fail many times, but we must get back up and continue on.

The fear of failure and the rejection of our dreams can be hard, but we must not let that paralyze us.

Always go with your passions. Never ask yourself if it's realistic or not.
-Deepak Chopra

I challenge you to seek further into your dreams. Follow your biggest desires without halt, and if you fail, get back up and tread on. Don't let the cruelty of the world persuade you to give up hope. There are amazing plans for you, you just have to be willing to fight for them.

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10 Abnormally Normal Things About College

Some stuff just doesn't fly in the real world.
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College is a weird, weird place. For whatever reason, the young adults who are supposed to be cultivating their minds with all of the worldly knowledge available to them, seem to get away with quite a bit using the justification "it's college." Even the best students live abnormally while on the alien planet that is a university. So, while to us college students it may just seem like another day, here are ten things that are only normal in college.

1. Straight up theft.

In the future, if I walk into my forty-something-year-old neighbor's home and see a collection of stolen signs, stuff from the local restaurant, and property from the construction site down the road, I would definitely be concerned about the character of my neighbor. However, in college, people proudly display campus signs, traffic cones, or dining hall napkin dispensers that they have impressively commandeered - it's a cheap decoration and a great conversation starter.

2. All-nighters.

Maybe with the exception of parents of little babies, very few people willingly stay up for close to 24 hours on end. In the real world, if a friend came to you and said that they literally did not sleep the previous night, it's completely logical to be worried. On the other hand, when a friend in college says that he was up all night you laugh a little, give him an understanding pat on the back, and walk with him to the coffee line.

3. Atrocious eating habits.

Sometimes you don't have time to eat. Sometimes you order pizza at 2 in the morning. Sometimes you eat three dinners. Sometimes you diet. All I can say, is thank goodness that our metabolisms are decently high at this age.

4. Breaking and entering.

In high school, you hopefully knew everyone who entered your home. After college, hopefully, that's still the case. However, when you live in the middle of thousands of bored college students, people knock at your door, walk into parties, cut through your yard, and stop by without invitation or hesitation. It keeps life fun, but still not normal.

5. Calling mom when stuff goes down.

I really doubt a time will ever come that I don't need to call my mom for guidance on how to do something. But, hopefully the frequency of those calls with go down a little bit post-graduation. Maybe after four years of doing it on my own, I'll know how to fill out government forms, cook real dinners, and get stains out. But for now, I'm going to keep calling while I still can without seeming totally pathetic.

6. Being intoxicated at weird times.

Drunk at noon on a Friday is the quintessence of an alcoholic at any time - unless it's college. Not that this is necessarily a good thing, and it certainly doesn't apply to everyone, but there aren't many other places where people would instantly assume someone is intoxicated if they're acting even a little weird. I've even seen people drink in the library....

7. The messed up dating scene.



There are people who meet the love of their life at college and live happily ever after. They are people who meet the supposed love of their life at college and never talk to them again after Sunday. There are people who use Tinder. Hormones are high, freedom is bountiful, and football players are cute - what else needs to be said?

8. A warped sense of time.

The career I'm pursuing will require me to be at work by 7 am, five days a week. I am fully aware of this. Now, will I enroll in an 8 am next semester? Absolutely not - I'm not a demon. In college, nights often start at 10 p.m., dinners are eaten at 4, and mornings can begin anywhere from 8 to 2. We don't get that whole 9-5 idea.

9. Costumes... for no apparent reason.

High schoolers have a dress code. Adults have dignity. College students have fun. Here, people will wear a corn costume to get on ESPN, a fanny pack to get into a fraternity, or a tutu to match a theme party. Is it actually a weird thing, though? No one even blinks an eye.

10. Insanely close friends.

Name another point in your life when you live with your friends, study with your friends, drive with your friends, eat with your friends, go out with your friends, and even grocery shop with your friends. I'll wait. At college, it's easy for friends to seem like family because you're with them constantly. Love it or hate it, it's weird about college.

So, enjoy this weirdness while you can - it won't last forever!


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Being Ugly

What it means to me

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Due to a series of ongoing events throughout my semester, I've reconsidered what it means for someone to truly be ugly. Though it is often used in terms of appearance, I do not see it as such-- now more than ever. Ugliness runs deeper than appearance-- it runs within one's soul and festers into other areas of one's life, particularly in their treatment of others.

I view ugliness as someone's conscious capacity and implementation of malice. Taking time and energy out of your day to hurt someone else, that's what I view as ugly. Some offenses are more minor than others, however, it is still a conscious effort to hurt or affect someone else negatively-- and that's the source of the problem. I truly wonder what causes that sort of behavior in someone, as I, along with most people, simply do not invest time or energy into hating or plotting against others. It seems like a full-time job.

I can theorize all sorts of reasons as to why someone would act this way: hate, jealousy, vengeance, etc. Yet, all of these reasons don't hit the root reason. It almost seems that some people are just innately ugly in their soul. This alludes to the timeless debate of whether one's personality is due to nature or nurture. Again, although our surroundings and environment do have a large effect in our behavior, that alibi only goes so far when multiple people are placed in the same environment, in the same situation, and only some are willing to cross moral boundaries in order to hurt the others. Just because an environment applies pressure to people, does not mean everyone is going to act out in malice, and it certainly does not give everyone an excuse to do so. Some people are simply conniving and, well, ugly inside.

If you have ever encountered people like this, I know from personal experience that it is such a drag. You have an enemy, essentially, whether you chose to or not, however based on their hatred towards you, they are now considered an enemy, a hater, and any other associated term. Know that they will do anything in their power to bring you down, even if it requires bending the truth and creating elaborate schemes, but you have to keep on doing you. Let them obsess over ways to bring you down. At the end of the day, their time and energy is being invested into bringing you down, while yours is being used to build yourself up. They will fall by default. So, keep your head high, act in grace, and make your money. They can sip on their Haterade and watch from below.

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