None of us want to admit it, but let’s be real. We all fail at some point in our lives. We’re all introduced to failure when we’re trying to take our first steps, and it haunts us for the rest of our lives. We don’t want to fail, but it’s part of life. Our parents have failed, our grandparents have failed, our friends have failed, everyone has come face-to-face with failure more than once. It’s what you do after those failures that provide you with success. And let me tell you, it’s not easy, but there are ways to find and create success for yourself from your failures.
Ask “Why?”
If you get rejected from say, a job or a university, don’t just take the L. Find it within you to reach out and ask why you were rejected. Never ask “Why not me?” Unless you have a great answer if they ask "Why you?" that you didn't give them before. You won’t learn anything about yourself if you hide away your rejection letter or email and ignore it. You need to provide yourself with closure and figure out why you weren’t accepted to or wanted for said school or position.
Learn from each failure.
You know the saying “you learn something new every day”? Well, it’s true, even if it’s learning something new about yourself. If you fail or make a mistake and you don’t learn from it, you’re going to make that mistake again. Once you’ve figured out why you failed, figure out ways to fix that failure and achieve your next goal. Don’t make the same mistakes over and over again because you can’t take criticism.
Do not degrade yourself.
Just because you failed, does not mean you should beat yourself up about it. Telling yourself you’re a failure will only cause you to have lower self-esteem come to the next opportunity. Tell yourself “I can do this” instead of “I can’t do this” because you are your own best friend and your own worst enemy. You have to keep yourself motivated to succeed, no one’s going to do it for you.
If it’s meant to be it will be.
Cliche I know, but really, if something is truly meant to happen in your life it will. If you went into that interview and completely made a fool of yourself because you forgot to do some research on the company, did you really want to work there? You shouldn’t want to be in a situation because it’s convenient for you, you should be in a situation because you’re meant to be in that situation.
Just because you failed does not mean that you’re doomed to being a full-time failure, and just because you succeed doesn’t mean that you don’t have room to grow. We’re all trying to avoid failure, but why not embrace it? There is one thing that requires failure to find success and that one thing is life.
You are going to fail, there is no doubt about it. It’s what you take and learn from that failure that makes you successful. Don’t take failure with a grain of salt because it’s, and I exaggerate this, it is not the end of the world. Just take it as it is and move on, everything will fall into place and if it doesn’t then keep working for whatever it is that you want.
Don’t give up because of a few bumps in the road.
