How To Deal With A Bad Roommate

7 Ways To Deal With A Bad Roommate

From them not picking up after themselves to them just being a total mess.


I know this is hard to hear, but at some point in your life, you will have a bad roommate. It may not always be an absolutely terrible roommate, but you will have one that does at least one or two things that just drive you crazy. Here are 7 ways to deal with a bad roommate.

1. Set up a roommate contract.

When you first move in together, write up a contract that covers the main points of possible conflict. Most of the time, this includes things like guest policies, quiet times, what areas and things are shared and what is not, etc. In this contract, also include how you wish to solve any problems that may arise. This can include sitting down and talking it out together or, if you live in a dorm, you can bring problems to your RA.

2. Open up a line of communication.

This goes along with point 1, but it is imperative to have a peaceful relationship with one another. It is okay if you and your roommates don't talk a lot, but make sure that you do have a way to talk to each other about any problems that arise. Whether this is using a third party like an RA or a mutual friend, or just sitting down and talking, it is much better than bottling everything up inside.

3. Use a different schedule.

If you find that you are getting easily annoyed when your roommate is home, try using a different schedule. If you know that you are home doing nothing at noon, but they are home making a lot of noise, try going somewhere else. This one may be a little more difficult, but you could even try scheduling your classes or work based off their schedule so you're home while they're in class or school and vice versa.

4. Get out of the house.

I find that it's quite difficult for me to do my work when my roommate is in the room because she often will listen to music or watch TV without headphones and I can't concentrate. Now, when I have to do something like study, I get out of the house to do it. On nice days, I will go sit on the green and enjoy being outside while studying. On not-so-nice days or when it's too dark, I will usually go to the library, the cafeteria, or one of the lounges in the dorm.

5. Vent about it.

Nothing is worse than keeping all of your feelings bottled up. If you have a roommate that is causing you a lot of stress, try venting it out. Try talking to a friend or calling a parent. If you don't feel like venting to anyone about it, try journaling. Just make sure to get all those emotions out so you don't lash out at your roommate.

6. Eye mask and ear plugs.

A lot of roommate complaints come at night. If you live in a dorm, it can be hard to go to bed at night if your roommate isn't going to bed at the same time. If your roommate is someone who likes to do work at night or listen to music without headphones, an eye mask and a pair of earplugs can save you.

7. Move out.

This is not a solution that can work for everyone, but it could be the best solution. If you live on a college campus, try looking into if you can pay a little more or apply for a single room. If you really want a room to yourself, but cannot afford it, try applying to be an RA. Also look into moving into a small apartment by yourself or with friends you think you would like living with.

Living with a roommate can be a difficult but necessary experience. Remember to take a breath and try to make the most out of the experience.

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Being Home From School, As Told By Rachel Green

You never know how good you have it on campus until it's 9pm and all the stores at home are closed.

Oh, look, another Odyssey Article about the struggles of being a college student home for summer break. Bet you didn't see that one coming. Our lives aren't actually that difficult, but it is definitely weird being home. If you know a college student, chances are that despite the workload, the late nights and the sub-par dining commons food, they wish they were back on campus. That's how magical college life can be. And being home isn't bad, per se, it's just... not campus.

1. You miss your friends. Like crazy.

It's not that your family isn't great company, or your high school friends aren't really your friends anymore. They are, and you love them! It's just that you don't bond with anyone quite like you do with the people you're at the library with until four o'clock in the morning, working on an essay you realize is due in two days and not the next one.

2. You realize just how good you had it at the dining commons.

Who knew you could miss mystery meat and pre-packaged sandwiches? College students who realize that cooking is not their thing, and the easiest snacks are the sugary ones you buy for a dollar at the gas station.

3. You have to get a summer job, and it's not the cushy three-hour gig you had at school.

The first two weeks after you get home are so full of hope. You run around to twelve different stores, picking up applications, flashing that college-counselor certified resume. And it almost feels as though you've got it together. Until week three hits and you're still jobless and still not unpacked.

4. You finally get to see your college friends, and leaving them feels like ripping an arm off.

I mean you miss them for a reason. What, did I expect saying goodbye a second time would be easier? Of course not. And the amount of planning that had to go into getting together with them was sort of absurd.

5. In your unemployment, your parents give you some chores to do... and then they ask if you finished them.

Where do the days go? You have maybe a few babysitting jobs, minimal errands to run and still there doesn't seem to be enough time to vacuum and do the dishes. Maybe the twenty minutes before your mom gets home from work is enough time to give the illusion of cleanliness.

6. Your siblings are always in your room. Always.

You love your family. Really truly. But it's easier to love them if you don't spend every second sitting right next to them, picking up on all the annoying little habits they have. Pro tip; a good relationship with a sibling means never, ever eating popcorn near each other.

7. You've caught up on sleep, organized your room, done your chores and ran out of Netflix shows. What now.

There are very few things worse than knowing it's summer vacation, knowing you should be out having fun before another school year begins... and still being bored out of your mind.

8. In the end, though, you'll be okay

There's only so much summer to go around. Get done what you've been meaning to, talk to your friends frequently and get ready for another fun-filled school year in the coming fall. You'll need all the rest you can get.

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5 Reasons Why Staying At College For The Summer Is The Ultimate Power Move

No school, no rules, summer vacation at the best place on Earth, also known as college.


As summer begins, it brings in the joy of no more school but for most what summer really brings is the sad realization that we have to leave our favorite place and go back to our boring home town with none of our new best friends. Although some have decided to stay at college for the summer and they will soon realize why this will be the best choice that they will be making all summer.


What's better than no school, warm weather, and most importantly no one to say, "Are you just going to sleep till 2:30 p.m. every day this summer?"

1. It's like the weekend, but every day

Do you know what weekends felt like during the school year when you didn't have anything to do? No? You never had any free weekends? Wow, I'm so sorry. Well, imagine a weekend that you didn't have to do anything. Now multiply that one weekend by seven and you get seven Saturday like days where you do not have a single care in the world.

3. No "Go cut the grass!"

For the sons, you know that annoying time every week when your dad is going to say, "Go cut the grass." There is nothing you can do to get out of it. Well, staying at school for the summer means no more nagging. You get to choose what you do now.

4. The bond of friendship

The friends you make when you stay at college for the summer are different than any other bond. Mostly because you all don't have a care in the world since it's summer in your favorite place. It's a right of passage to call someone your summer college best friends. These are best friends that words wouldn't do justice.

5. The townies

Everybody always wonders what happens to a college town when all the college kids go home. Well, the townies come back in full swing and take their town back. If you stay at your college, you get to experience what most can't even describe in words. To the one mid-40s guy trying to relive his glory days. To the old men hitting on the college girls at the local pub. To the weird towny creatures that make you shiver with fright as you drive past them. Have fun townies, you only have three months.

That dream of "I wish I could just stay here at college with all these people but have no responsibilities" is finally coming true.

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