We've all been there; eyes meet from across the bar, smiles are exchanged, and the next thing you know you're hooked. Some light conversation, maybe another drink or two, and then bam you're bounding through someone's door to make another mistake hoping he turns out different than the last one. But after a week or so, you've been ghosted and the cycle completes its 100th rotation.
In the famous Rom-Com, "How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days" starring Kate Hudson and Matthew McConaughey, Hudson's character is the resident "How-To" girl and decides to have some more fun than usual and put love to the test. While she does everything she can to make him dump her, he is trying to win a bet to make a girl fall in love with him in the same amount of time. This movie shows both sides of the spectrum of how far individuals go to get the guy or girl, feelings are hurt on both ends but they still end up together. Classic.
Flashback to real life, the guy from the bar is no Matthew McConaughey, and you're not actually trying to lose this guy but you do everything wrong still. In 2016 romance is much different and no one seems to know why, but seriously we really don't know why?
Thirteen years later, love is still in its usual shambles and no one knows what they're doing anymore because we're all too busy behind our phones and cheating on each other. Now I'm no "How-To" girl, but I do know a thing or two about losing someone I was seeing in this generation, so here's a few things I've noticed we're all doing wrong.
Everyone's been hurt, no one is safe anymore because let's get real; we're human beings! We. Get. Hurt. But we let these feelings dictate our entire lives and that's stupid! Telling the people you're dating right away you have insane trust issues and everyone has cheated on you is OF COURSE going to drive them away! I'm not saying never talk about these things, because it is healthy to have open communication but give it sometime. He asked what you're drinking, not if you wanted to marry him.
Oh and go ahead and keep texting them; huge paragraphs, lots of all caps, maybe throw in a colorful metaphor or two to really make a point, they hate that. Before technology, if you wanted to get a hold of your significant other you had to write them a letter professing your love and undying affection, or maybe wait by the corded wall phone till they called after supper.
Now everyone knows where anyone and everyone is either from social media or you're really crazy and have them on "Find My iPhone". There's no anonymity left in love, never knowing when you might see them next, the mystery is gone and replaced with anxiety. If you were meant to be joined at the hip then you would be siamese twins now wouldn't you?
We either smother each other or fall off the face of the Earth until someone finally swallows there pride and texts the other. And with texting might I add there is the unspoken rule of waiting a certain amount of time before responding. WHAT IS THAT? Whoever came up with that rule is still single and waiting for the appropriate time to tell everyone it doesn't work.
This is the dumbest concept ever, but if you seem too interested you get left. If you don't show enough interest you get left. Everyone is afraid to show any emotion in fear of being left, so they don't put themselves out there at all and never even get the guy/girl.
All these means of communication, and ways to be such a successful society yet we use them to our disadvantage. 50 years ago couples would've given anything to talk to their loved ones everyday, but they weren't able to. We are and we waste it by ignoring them, posting to make someone jealous, and hurt each other. We have no idea how to keep anyone in our lives.
No one knows how to love each other, all the girls want Noah from the Notebook and all the boys want Pamela Anderson. But that's just totally unrealistic. We have such unrealistic ideals of one another no one wins. So no matter what, you're alone; and to think, it only took a week and half.
