House of Cards

House of Cards

Swept Away, Wrecked, Slammed Down

House of Cards

My faith is a house of cards. I build it up so slowly and carefully—precisely. It was all so neat and it stood so tall! I was so proud of it—boasted of it. Then in a second God’s breath blew it away. Actually, it rather felt like it was slammed down. Then I cried out why, why!—like a child. The real question I should be asking, is why on earth did I ever use such weakness to build my faith? Why did I use paper when I should of use brick, no, diamond! Yet I feel that I have built this house so many times with weaker material than I should of—and God is just trying to show me that. However, I cannot help but ask why do you destroy with such force? Is there no gentleness in your arm? Why is that I feel utterly wrecked upon by you? A simple letter would do—no need for this bashing and pushing upon my life! But, isn’t that what we all wish for? A gentle god—one who will whisper softly into our lives oh dear child this isn’t what is best for you, let me show you. That surely has more love in it than the wrecking of our lives that God contributes to so much. But what if there is far more love than we ever imagined when He sweeps our house away? It may look or rather feel more violent, and therefore more cruel, but what would any parent do if their child was running towards something dangerous—like into a street. Yes, dangerous, dangerous in regards to our faith. Would a parent just stand by? Would they tenderly say oh sweetheart watch out for the car that is coming?—I would hope not. I would hope for them to run to the child and sweep them up—if need be—violently—so that they might be saved. Perhaps this is a flawed analogy. For, in all honesty, I am still feeling that God is more cruel (or maybe I should say “harsh” now). Then again, perhaps my thinking is flawed. For if we could ever pin-point how God teaches or behaves towards his children—then he wouldn’t be such an awesome God. If we completely knew God, we would have to gods ourselves. How could we be gods? How dare we think that? What god has a foundation built out of cards?

I could be dreadfully wrong, but, I cannot help but compare this idea to the parable of the two men, one who built his house upon the sand and the other who built his upon the rock. Two things to note about this parable. One there was a storm that tested each house. The other note, one's material was stronger than the other. Why would God test each man by sending a storm--I do not know. God, in his omnipotence, has no need of 'experimenting', he knows all the results. Perhaps, it is, indeed for us. The sweeping the house of cards, the wrecking of the weaker house are all for us, even though they feel against us. Forgive me for drawing out the metaphor. Let me speak clearly. Why would God 'test' our faith if he already knows how strong it is? Surely then, if He knows, it cannot be for Him. So, therefore, in some way, whether we agree with or not, it must be for us. I cannot explicitly say how on earth it does help one's faith to have it 'beaten'. However, I can easily admit that there are things about God I will never understand--those are things of heaven and I am here. But, I will venture a guess (hopefully an educated one). He wants us to have a stronger 'foundation/building material' for our faith, and we so often use the weaker material. Instead of Christ being our foundation, we replace him with doctrine, tradition, role-models, family values, relationships, even (a great misfortune) politics. All these things are greatly important--each of them have strong opinions on. Nonetheless, if they are at the foundation, if those things are the building material of one's faith, they will be swept away by God. He wants to show us we are to use stronger material--the strongest. But this does not answer the difficult questions like: Why does he use such force? Why does it hurt so badly? Why does it stir so much doubt? Why does he do things the way he does? I wish I could understand, but I cannot, and I do not know if I shall find the answer in this life. I am stilling trying to find my foundation in Christ, perhaps it takes a lifetime--does not seem so for Paul. Perhaps this is just my weak mind trying to wrap around all-powerful God.

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I'm A Christian Girl And I'm Not A Feminist, Because God Did Not Intend For Women To Be Equals

It is OK for me to not want to be equivalent with a man.


To start off, I am not writing this to bash feminists or get hate messages. I am simply writing this to state why I do not perceive myself as a feminist.

March is International Women's Month and that is what has got me thinking about how I view myself as a young woman in the 21st century. I enjoy every day getting to soak up the world as a young lady, particularly in the South.

If you know me, then you know that I love and utterly adore Jesus. He is so perfect. He is everything. He is my whole life. Some people might say that I am a "Bible-thumper" or someone who has had too much Kool-aid and maybe I am, but I know who my Creator is and that He died for me, and that is all that matters.

In my young age, I loved to just sit in church with my parents and absorb all that God would deliver. As I have grown up, I have ventured off and joined a church that is different than my parents, so the responsibility falls more on me, but I love that. Since this era of independence began, I have thoroughly enjoyed taking ownership of my faith.

I spend a lot of time chatting with God, worshipping Him in all kinds of ways, and just diving deeper into His Word. Through all of this growth as a Christian, I have learned a lot, but something I have learned is a concept that some may not agree with, which does not surprise me.

I do not believe God meant for women and men to be equal.

There, I acknowledged the elephant in the room.

It is a shocker, I know, but I have some Biblical evidence to back up this belief that I have.

Let us begin in Genesis. God created man and then he created woman. This was two separate occurrences and order is key. He created Adam and then Eve.

Jesus treated women with grace and kindness, do not get me wrong. I mean just look at how He treated the woman at the well, the one who used all of her expensive perfume to cleanse His feet and not to mention His own biological mother! He has a truly unique place in his heart for women, but He also has special intentions for us in the world and in the family setting.

We are to submit to our husbands.

We are to be energetic, strong, and a hard worker.

We are to be busy and helpful to those in need.

We are to be fearless.

All of this is explicitly laid out by God in Proverbs 31.

We are not to be equal to our male counterparts. Jesus does not lay out the Proverbs 31 man, but He rather lays out the Proverbs 31 woman.

A husband or man is to be the head of the household as Christ is to the church.

A man is to love a woman so deeply that represents how he loves himself.

A man is to leave his father and mother.

Women and men are not equal in God's eyes, but they each represent Him in their own ways that the other needs.

If we were all equal, we would not need one another and therefore we would not need God. I am so thankful that we were not created equal. I am so thankful that God is so great that He could not just create only man or woman to represent His image. He is so perfect.

So, you see I am not a feminist, and it is OK.

It is acceptable for me to have this belief that God intended for men to lead women. It is also okay for people to have differing opinions. Writing this was not easy, but I know that not all people agree.

To feminists and those that are not, you are allowed to believe whatever you wish but have evidence to back it up.

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You Ain’t Waiting For God To Bring You Your Dinner, You Get Up And Go Cook It

My words often get jumbled and don't make sense, so I figured writing it would help me come across clearly.


Dear guy friends of mine,

I want you to know how grateful I am for your friendship. Having close guy friends has helped me better understand men and learn how the male species operates. I've been able to ask you so many questions and you've responded with thoughtfulness, kindness, grace, and honesty. I appreciate your willingness to talk to me.

I want to encourage you in something, and with some of you I have tried, but I think I came across as a little crazy. From what I've been told by married women, guys are very afraid of actual crazy. You want your girl to have some crazy (because all women have at least a little bit of crazy), but you don't want her to be, like, crazy. I get that and respect that.

I want to encourage you to ask girls out. It's scary. You're afraid of rejection. I know this because several of you have told me so. I recently spoke with a guy who's been married for a few years and has a baby daughter. He told me that you guys are scared, you don't want to put your heart on the line and have it crushed. That's a good reason not to pursue girls: you'll remain safe and free from hurt if you don't put your feelings out there.

But here's the other side of it: You'll never find that girl if you never search for her. Now, I know that all things happen in God's timing and as imperfect humans, we can't force things to happen outside of God's timeline. However, Pastor Matt Chandler of The Village Church in Dallas, Texas said this in a sermon several years ago:

"But something's happened in evangelical circles where if you're single you're supposed to not want to be married, but be content in a spot and that's somehow more glorifying than following God's wiring of you to want a mate. And so in the end what happens is that you walk around like a liar. I mean, poor young ladies! Almost all of them have been told, "As soon as you're content, God will send you a man." So you've got hundreds of thousands of women running around acting content! "I'm content, where is he?" You've got other guys going, "You know, I'm just gonna wait for God to bring me the right one." Well, you ain't waiting for God to bring you your dinner, alright? You get up and go cook it."

Pastor Chandler goes on to say that he's not telling the guys to go on the hunt and prowl. No! He's telling guys that they have a role to play in pursuing a woman to marry. Girls have a role to play, too. Girls can't just hang out with their girlfriends in hopes that they'll lock eyes with Prince Charming while in the grocery store or walking their dog in the park. No, girls need to build up the guys in their lives and respect them by letting the guys be guys and giving them opportunities to be gentlemen. That's what I appreciate about you guys, my guy friends. You are such gentlemen and I love that. Don't be afraid to ask out the girl that you think is sweet, cute, pretty, funny, kind, silly, honest, loyal, and the right amount of crazy. You've got this!

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