House of Cards

House of Cards

Swept Away, Wrecked, Slammed Down

House of Cards

My faith is a house of cards. I build it up so slowly and carefully—precisely. It was all so neat and it stood so tall! I was so proud of it—boasted of it. Then in a second God’s breath blew it away. Actually, it rather felt like it was slammed down. Then I cried out why, why!—like a child. The real question I should be asking, is why on earth did I ever use such weakness to build my faith? Why did I use paper when I should of use brick, no, diamond! Yet I feel that I have built this house so many times with weaker material than I should of—and God is just trying to show me that. However, I cannot help but ask why do you destroy with such force? Is there no gentleness in your arm? Why is that I feel utterly wrecked upon by you? A simple letter would do—no need for this bashing and pushing upon my life! But, isn’t that what we all wish for? A gentle god—one who will whisper softly into our lives oh dear child this isn’t what is best for you, let me show you. That surely has more love in it than the wrecking of our lives that God contributes to so much. But what if there is far more love than we ever imagined when He sweeps our house away? It may look or rather feel more violent, and therefore more cruel, but what would any parent do if their child was running towards something dangerous—like into a street. Yes, dangerous, dangerous in regards to our faith. Would a parent just stand by? Would they tenderly say oh sweetheart watch out for the car that is coming?—I would hope not. I would hope for them to run to the child and sweep them up—if need be—violently—so that they might be saved. Perhaps this is a flawed analogy. For, in all honesty, I am still feeling that God is more cruel (or maybe I should say “harsh” now). Then again, perhaps my thinking is flawed. For if we could ever pin-point how God teaches or behaves towards his children—then he wouldn’t be such an awesome God. If we completely knew God, we would have to gods ourselves. How could we be gods? How dare we think that? What god has a foundation built out of cards?

I could be dreadfully wrong, but, I cannot help but compare this idea to the parable of the two men, one who built his house upon the sand and the other who built his upon the rock. Two things to note about this parable. One there was a storm that tested each house. The other note, one's material was stronger than the other. Why would God test each man by sending a storm--I do not know. God, in his omnipotence, has no need of 'experimenting', he knows all the results. Perhaps, it is, indeed for us. The sweeping the house of cards, the wrecking of the weaker house are all for us, even though they feel against us. Forgive me for drawing out the metaphor. Let me speak clearly. Why would God 'test' our faith if he already knows how strong it is? Surely then, if He knows, it cannot be for Him. So, therefore, in some way, whether we agree with or not, it must be for us. I cannot explicitly say how on earth it does help one's faith to have it 'beaten'. However, I can easily admit that there are things about God I will never understand--those are things of heaven and I am here. But, I will venture a guess (hopefully an educated one). He wants us to have a stronger 'foundation/building material' for our faith, and we so often use the weaker material. Instead of Christ being our foundation, we replace him with doctrine, tradition, role-models, family values, relationships, even (a great misfortune) politics. All these things are greatly important--each of them have strong opinions on. Nonetheless, if they are at the foundation, if those things are the building material of one's faith, they will be swept away by God. He wants to show us we are to use stronger material--the strongest. But this does not answer the difficult questions like: Why does he use such force? Why does it hurt so badly? Why does it stir so much doubt? Why does he do things the way he does? I wish I could understand, but I cannot, and I do not know if I shall find the answer in this life. I am stilling trying to find my foundation in Christ, perhaps it takes a lifetime--does not seem so for Paul. Perhaps this is just my weak mind trying to wrap around all-powerful God.

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I'm A Christian Girl And I'm Not A Feminist, Because God Did Not Intend For Women To Be Equals

It is OK for me to not want to be equivalent with a man.


To start off, I am not writing this to bash feminists or get hate messages. I am simply writing this to state why I do not perceive myself as a feminist.

March is International Women's Month and that is what has got me thinking about how I view myself as a young woman in the 21st century. I enjoy every day getting to soak up the world as a young lady, particularly in the South.

If you know me, then you know that I love and utterly adore Jesus. He is so perfect. He is everything. He is my whole life. Some people might say that I am a "Bible-thumper" or someone who has had too much Kool-aid and maybe I am, but I know who my Creator is and that He died for me, and that is all that matters.

In my young age, I loved to just sit in church with my parents and absorb all that God would deliver. As I have grown up, I have ventured off and joined a church that is different than my parents, so the responsibility falls more on me, but I love that. Since this era of independence began, I have thoroughly enjoyed taking ownership of my faith.

I spend a lot of time chatting with God, worshipping Him in all kinds of ways, and just diving deeper into His Word. Through all of this growth as a Christian, I have learned a lot, but something I have learned is a concept that some may not agree with, which does not surprise me.

I do not believe God meant for women and men to be equal.

There, I acknowledged the elephant in the room.

It is a shocker, I know, but I have some Biblical evidence to back up this belief that I have.

Let us begin in Genesis. God created man and then he created woman. This was two separate occurrences and order is key. He created Adam and then Eve.

Jesus treated women with grace and kindness, do not get me wrong. I mean just look at how He treated the woman at the well, the one who used all of her expensive perfume to cleanse His feet and not to mention His own biological mother! He has a truly unique place in his heart for women, but He also has special intentions for us in the world and in the family setting.

We are to submit to our husbands.

We are to be energetic, strong, and a hard worker.

We are to be busy and helpful to those in need.

We are to be fearless.

All of this is explicitly laid out by God in Proverbs 31.

We are not to be equal to our male counterparts. Jesus does not lay out the Proverbs 31 man, but He rather lays out the Proverbs 31 woman.

A husband or man is to be the head of the household as Christ is to the church.

A man is to love a woman so deeply that represents how he loves himself.

A man is to leave his father and mother.

Women and men are not equal in God's eyes, but they each represent Him in their own ways that the other needs.

If we were all equal, we would not need one another and therefore we would not need God. I am so thankful that we were not created equal. I am so thankful that God is so great that He could not just create only man or woman to represent His image. He is so perfect.

So, you see I am not a feminist, and it is OK.

It is acceptable for me to have this belief that God intended for men to lead women. It is also okay for people to have differing opinions. Writing this was not easy, but I know that not all people agree.

To feminists and those that are not, you are allowed to believe whatever you wish but have evidence to back it up.

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If God Didn’t Intend For Women To Be Equals, Why Did She Make Us So Incredible?

Yeah, I said She.


An article that absolutely infuriates me has gone viral. As a feminist, as a writer, and simply as a woman, it drives me up a wall to see another woman proclaiming that God's plan for women was to "submit to their husbands."

I don't know where to start with all the issues I found in reading the piece, so I'll start with what a feminist is. It's a subjective term and its connotation varies from person to person.

But to me, feminism is being empowered and expressive individuals with open minds and open hearts. They are activists for change and equality. They have concerns about the environment and global warming. They acknowledge issues within sexism and racism and then try to figure out how to solve them. They see that the world isn't perfect.

Feminists are the reason we can vote. They're the reason birth control is an option for us. They're why we're allowed to wear pants. They're why we have careers. The female pioneers paved the way for anything we're allowed to do, and they are why we celebrate the power of women every March.

But instead, the woman who wrote "I'm A Christian And I'm Not A Feminist, Because God Did Not Intend For Women To Be Equals," used our month of pride for clout. And took justification from The Bible to do it.

The Bible is not an instruction manual. It was written over many, many years by hordes of sexist men whose existence we have minimal proof of. And over the last thousand years, it's been translated and reinterpreted more times than anyone could ever keep track of. That's not to say it doesn't have some good lessons, but lessons are all they are.

Thinking your worth and capabilities were planned for you thousands of years in advance is ignorant. Religion and The Bible and God are as subjective as feminism. Everything is open-ended. One person's view of who or what God is not going to be the same as the last.

Commonly, God is seen as a man at the center of the universe who holds all existence in his hands. He is the reason why anyone does anything. He is the rule maker. And He is judging us and waiting for our every mistake.

But as a proud feminist, I've chosen to have my own idea of this holy being. I wasn't brought up in church, but I decided to believe in something much greater than myself or anything I've ever seen just because I wanted to. I want to believe that faith has to come from somewhere, and I didn't want a book making the rules for me.

Just by watching life move through time, I happen to believe God is the good in all of us. Not one being, but he beginning and the end of everything. The push and the pull. The conscious and subconscious. And considering that God is the creator, I've concluded God must be a woman because women are the creators.

And in my experience, women have proved themselves to be much stronger and more capable than any man.

As for what She creates, I think She makes no mistakes. I think She tests our patience and beliefs by giving us what we don't expect. There's intent and love in everything She gives us. I think every woman was made to be relentless, imperfect, fearless, and even a little rebellious.

And if we're saying Adam and Eve were the start of it all, then God proved that right off the bat. God saved the best for last, and then made her a badass. Yes, the first woman came into this world as a rule breaker. She questioned authority. And since the beginning of time, authority has been a snake. The world is our forbidden fruit to bite.

The sole purpose of a woman isn't to submit to anyone. A woman can do whatever she damn well pleases, just as any man. A woman's worth isn't tied to what kind of wife or mother she is and how closely she follows the rules. I was raised by the most incredible mom and wife. She did happen to stay at home with me and be the traditional woman. But while she was home, she taught me how great it is to be a woman. She made sure I knew I could be whoever I wanted and would pay no consequences for that.

My parents didn't raise me in a church. And I never saw that as a flaw or lack of judgment. My southern home was like a church; full of faith and love. But on Sundays, we would sleep in and have a big breakfast at noon because we had too much fun staying up late Saturday night dancing around our living room to music. Whitney Houston, Dolly Parton, Shania Twain, and Madonna led the choir — singing about independence and the power of being empowered as women.

As a feminist, I will not judge those who haven't accepted all the honors of being female. I can just tell everyone how wonderful it is to stand for something. I can set an example so that more women will go forward.

And despite what anyone thinks of feminism, there's nothing exclusive about it. Feminists don't think they're any better than men, they just want the chance to prove their capabilities. It's so much bigger than thinking men suck. The truth is, we should have men at our side, not in front of or behind us. And not for romantic partnerships, but as allies. The best men are feminists too. We can make this walk alone, but there's power in numbers and in diversity.

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