Are you in a LDR?
Do you know what an LDR is?
LDR stands for Long Distance Relationship.
Now let's take a moment, are you in college? Do you have a boyfriend or girlfriend that doesn't exactly live the closest? If you do, I know how it feels. Did you know that on average there are about 15 million people that have considered themselves to be in a long distance relationship since 2015? Most people that haven't been in our situation would call us crazy for being able to be with someone that we can be with on a daily basis.
Being in a LDR is not easy, it takes some serious commitment that not very many people are ready for. I was honestly worried when Tyler, my boyfriend, and I had first talked about wanting to be together. I had never done anything like it before, but now I'm at a point where the only thing I would change is being closer. It takes time, but having a healthy LDR is definitely achievable.
How to have a healthy LDR:
1. Take the time to have a phone call or a video chat.
Taking the time to just hear one another's voice or being able to see their face (even just for a few minutes) can make all the difference in the world, especially if you're having a bad day.
2. Write letters.
I know, it's going to be a bit weird because we're in the age where a long text can seem like the world's most romantic thing, but taking the time to sit down and write a letter and actually send it to them is extremely special and much more romantic than a text.
3. Plan trips if you're able.
Tyler and I alternate between who comes to visit who and during which break during school. While it can be more on the expensive side for a college student, it's extremely fun and until you get to the point to where you could possibly move in together, it is the next best thing and plus it's a vacation away from home!
4. Trust each other.
Trusting each other in the most important thing you can do. It doesn't matter how often you text or talk on the phone or anything if you don't trust who you are with.
5. Talk about the simple things.
You may think that just because you aren't going to be able to be with each other frequently that you have to be a couple of cheeseballs and be extremely romantic, but you don't. Honestly, one of my favorite things about my relationship is just talking to one another about how our day went, or what we have going on during the day.
Always remember that it is your relationship and no one else's. People will call you crazy and say that what you are doing is idiotic, but it is your and your partner's happiness that matters the most.
Remember to love one another xoxo.
