The Older I Get The Less I Look Forward To The Holidays

Getting Older Made Me Dread 'Fun' Holidays

Sorry not sorry, I unapologetically hate New Years' Eve.


I cannot deny that as a child there was nothing better than a holiday that gave me an excuse to: a) get presents, b) see friends, c) stay up later than usual. Holidays like New Years' Eve and Fourth of July are what I lived for, despite the fact that my expectation never really met my reality. As I got older, my line of expectations kept moving further and further away from what actually occurred. And now, as much as I try to refresh my mind with the pre-adulthood excitement that came with all the so-called "fun" holidays, I just can't seem to feel anything but uneasiness when the season is upon us.

Let's face it, not having plans on a holiday like New Years' Eve is the absolute worst. And even though I'll try to deny it, I have no doubt in the power of the fear of missing out. Yeah, I said it. FOMO is real. And it creeps up the most right before Valentine's Day, Fourth of July, Halloween, and finally, New Years' (plus all the minor holidays in between).

Maybe it's because of my anti-holiday spirit or maybe (just maybe) it's because I never have a boyfriend on V-Day, but that is a BIG one for us holiday haters. It really isn't even the actual day that's filled with anxiety, it's the whole freaking month of February. Why one day has to define the whole month is beyond me, but it kind of sucks.

Finally, Valentine's Day is over, but next thing you know March rolls around and the Shamrock Shake is back. Don't get me wrong, there's nothing I don't like about some St. Patty's Day spirit, but to all who know me - do not pinch me, I probably won't be wearing green.

Now it's May, and we can't forget about every party-lover's favorite day: Cinco de Drinko. Oops, did I say Drinko? I meant Mayo. Cinco de Mayo. Just like that, FOMO strikes again. What exactly is Cinco de Mayo? Despite common misconceptions, it is NOT Mexican Independence Day. In fact, it isn't even celebrated in Mexico. So why do I have to be worried about having a Cinco de Mayo party to go to in the US?

The next major dreadful day is America's favorite, the Fourth of July. You might be thinking: what's not to like? Summer, fireworks, BBQs, and PARTYING. Yeah, it is pretty great - if you have something to do. If not, it's another anxiety-filled holiday where you feel like you have to be having fun in order to live up to the day's potential. On any regular summer day I'd be perfectly happy watching Netflix, eating yummy food, and maybe going to the beach. But no, Fourth of July must be better.

Ugh. Same goes for Halloween. Ah, spooky season is so fun, right? Who doesn't love hearing "Monster Mash" on the radio in the middle of September? Personally, all of October is a frenzy including trying to figure out what to dress up as and what to do on Halloween. Because again, if you're sitting at home passing out candy, you're just not living up to the "fun" potential that is Halloween.

Last but not least, there's our beloved New Years' Eve, the ultimate party holiday. This one might be the most depressing to not have plans for, because come on, waiting up to watch the ball drop on TV in bed and falling asleep at 11:59pm is just plain sad. And even if we do have plans, there's the whole New Years' Kiss ordeal that keeps the stress flowing. Basically, the chances that this holiday will meet our expectations are slim to none - leaning more toward none.

Simply put, the hype around these holidays tends to ruin them for me. I hate to be such a downer, but adulthood has made me realize that I would so much rather party on my own terms than stress about forcing myself to have fun.

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PSA: Keep Your Body-Negative Opinions Away From Little Girls This Summer

But our own baggage shouldn't be shoved on to those we surround ourselves with.


It's officially swimsuit season, y'all.

The temperature is rising, the sun is bright and shining, and a trip to the beach couldn't look more appealing than it does right now. This is the time of year that many of us have been rather impatiently waiting for. It's also the time of year that a lot of us feel our most self-conscious.

I could take the time to remind you that every body is a bikini body. I could type out how everyone is stunning in their own unique way and that no one should feel the need to conform to a certain standard of beauty to feel beautiful, male or female. I could sit here and tell you that the measurement of your waistline is not a reflection of your worth. I completely believe every single one of these things.

Hell, I've shared these exact thoughts more times than I can count. This time around, however, I'm not going to say all these things. Instead, I'm begging you to push your insecurities to the side and fake some confidence in yourself when you're in front of others.


Because our negative self-image is toxic and contagious and we're spreading this negative thinking on to others.

We're all guilty of this, we're with family or a friend and we make a nasty comment about some aspect of our appearance, not even giving a single thought to the impact our words have on the person with us. You might think that it shouldn't bother them- after all, we're not saying anything bad about them! We're just expressing our feelings about something we dislike about ourselves. While I agree that having conversations about our insecurities and feelings are important for our mental and emotional health, there is a proper and improper way of doing it. An open conversation can leave room for growth, acceptance, understanding, and healing. Making a rude or disheartening remark about yourself is destructive not only to yourself, but it will make the person you are saying these things around question their own self worth or body image by comparing themselves to you.

My little sister thinks she's "fat." She doesn't like how she looks. To use her own words, she thinks she's "too chubby" and that she "looks bad in everything."

She's 12 years old.

Do you want to know why she has this mindset? As her older sister, I failed in leading her by example. There were plenty of times when I was slightly younger, less sure of myself, and far more self-conscious than I am now, that I would look in the mirror and say that I looked too chubby, that my body didn't look good enough, that I wished I could change the size of my legs or stomach.

My little sister had to see the older sibling she looks up to, the big sis she thinks always looks beautiful, say awful and untrue things about herself because her own sense of body image was warped by media, puberty, and comparing herself to others.

My negativity rubbed off onto her and shaped how she looks at herself. I can just imagine her watching me fret over how I look thinking, "If she thinks she's too big, what does that make me?"

It makes me feel sick.

All of us are dealing with our own insecurities. It takes some of us longer than others to view ourselves in a positive, loving light. We're all working on ourselves every day, whether it be mentally, physically, or emotionally. But our own baggage shouldn't be shoved on to those we surround ourselves with, our struggles and insecurities should not form into their own burdens.

Work on yourself in private. Speak kindly of yourself in front of others. Let your positivity, real or not, spread to others instead of the bad feelings we have a bad habit of letting loose.

The little girls of the world don't need your or my negative self-image this summer. Another kid doesn't need to feel worthless because we couldn't be a little more loving to ourselves and a lot more conscious of what we say out loud.

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The Struggle of Taking Classes During the Summer

It can put a bit of a damper on summer fun


To everyone reading: I hope you're having a nice, relaxing summer. Even if you're working I hope you can get a few days off to hang out with friends, go to the beach, and have some nice downtime. Not me. I am currently in the process of completing two four-week long summer classes. I'm taking them now to get ahead for next semester and to keep my overall schedule on track. It certainly isn't fun, but the reminder that it is only four weeks is what really keeps me going. If you are in the same boat as me, you'll relate to this list like no one else can; if you're not taking summer classes, don't let this list scare you, but use it to mentally prepare yourself for any you may have in the future.

1. Studying and homework

The homework isn't too bad with some summer classes just because you don't have time for a lot of intense projects. Still, since the class is so short you have to do some kind of homework pretty much every day. Make a schedule and spread it out so you don't get too behind.

2. Actually going to class

I am in two classes. One meets in person every day from 10 am to 11:45 am. The other is online. Let me be the first to say that getting up for class during the normal semesters is hard enough, but knowing my little brother gets to sleep in while I have to wake up early and go class is a real motivation suppressant.

I will say, though, it's kind of nice being on campus when it's basically empty.

3. No going out...

You'll probably be a little down because you might not be able to really go out at all during the time you're in class. For me, I go to lecture every morning, come home and do homework for that class, then do homework for my online class. I have some free time on the weekends, but I try to use those lecture-free days to study or work on papers.

4. But being super busy

Even though you might not be able to go out like a summer off, you'll be keeping yourself busy with all that super fun homework I mentioned.

5. Stress

Yes, summer classes can be a little stressful and it's pretty much all thanks to how fast-paced they are. Just do what I do: make a homework and project schedule as soon as you can and remind yourself how short it is.

Summer classes are not the worst thing in the world, and if you choose to take one at some point it won't be absolutely horrible. The nice thing about them is it's like ripping off a Band-Aid; it may be a little painful and annoying, but it's over so fast you don't suffer. Pick your class and professor wisely and get down to business; taking the class means you're one step closer to graduation!

So, to anyone else taking a summer class: good luck and you got this!

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