I don't know if any other girl has gone through this, but there are periods of time when I log on the Facebook every few hours and have 15 new friend requests from guys that I've never met. I don't really understand why this happens, but I know its because for some reason Facebook is recommending me to everyone, and so they just add me. I don't accept everyone, but if we have a substantial amount of mutual friends, then I don't have a problem confirming them as a "friend."
What I do have a problem with, however, is when they message me on Facebook as soon as I accept them. And a very large majority of them do this, so what I'm saying is extremely valid and my frustration is real.
Here's the thing: just because I confirm you as a friend on Facebook, does not mean that I am interested in you or interested in having a conversation. But here's the other thing: I'm an extremely nice person and I feel guilty reading your message and not responding. I'm a people pleaser and I don't want you to feel bad about it.
Now if I actually do find you extremely attractive, I have no problem having a conversation with you. Sorry, but that's just the way it is.
The worst part is when people message me multiple times when I don't respond. That is no way it win me over, so please just stop.
It is very nice if you to want to add me because you think I'm pretty or something, and it is also very nice of you to want to message me and compliment me. This isn't what I'm talking about, though. Because trust me, compliments are always appreciated and accepted from anyone.
It is those of you that just message me 'hey' as soon as I add you. That is such a boring conversation starter and I have no interest in responding to that.
So, to you fellas, for the sake of my sanity, just stop. Especially if I do not know you, it is creepy if you're a 27 year old (or older) with some kids and a scruffy beard messaging a 20 year old girl. Sorry, but I'm just not interested in talking.