Okay, let's have some fun today. So as I am reading through my favorite psychology articles about Harley Quinn...that is right I read DC comics and anything DC in my spare time. I mean if you haven't been on my Instagram lately you probably should probably look me up @megtheodyssey. Now I won't lie I have a lot of respect for Wonder Woman, hell I have canvas prints in my home of her. She is an inspiration and someone I look up to very much.

But why is it that most males and females like Harley Quinn (another one of my favorites). Now if you make me choose who I like better with a gun to my head, I would have to die because choosing between them is like choosing between children. I love them both for very different reasons. Harley because as a victim of domestic abuse I identify with her and Wonder Woman is who I long to be. SO WHY does Harley have her own conventions but Wonder Woman does not? I got thinking about this today and I wanted to take a look at the popularity of the two women.

Now I can take a look at any number of websites and site that they are all over the place in hotness ranking. But just take my word for it, I literally spent two days trying to get the most reliable data I could find but the truth is, liking one over the other is really a matter of choice. So **SPOILER** my gross generalization of the male psyche is just a matter of opinion and lots of research.

Let's first take a look at Wonder Woman. I love how Greg Rucka talked about Wonder Woman in his 2004 interview:

She's an Amazon. Amazons are a warriors, they're a martial culture. They can promote belief in peace in part because they've been living in absolute seclusion and isolation for so long, and also because if you mess with them, they'll kill you. It's easy to dictate peace when you're the baddest motherfucker on the block. Diana comes from this culture where she's bred for war, but is able to reap the rewards of 3000 years of peace - the art, the science, the philosophy. Add to that these divine elements, like the wisdom of Athena and so on, and you've got this person who has all these ingredients and they are in many ways pulling her in different directions, but she somehow manages to unify them all for a single direction. She's not going crazy, she's not neurotic - you look at every other superhero ever and they are all malfunctioning in some way [laughs]. In some way, they are internally malfunctioning - Diana really isn't, even with all the paradoxes and conflicts, she may be the most well-adjusted superhero out there. At least when I look at her, that's what I see. She's somebody who knows what she's about and has absolute conviction in what she believes and is willing to fight for those things she believes, be it with words or swords. I love the character and the more I work with her, the more I love her.

I want to highlight that bit about the internally malfunctioning,"She's somebody who knows what she's about and has absolute conviction in what she believes and is willing to fight for those things she believes, be it with words or swords. " Not really what the typical male American guy is about. For some reason, many guys are very intimidated by women who have intense focus and do not compromise their beliefs. Sorry if I offend but that is the truth. People in general (again a gross generalized observation) are lazy, being with a more motivated person throws off the balance of the relationship. So strong women attract strong men which again has nothing to do with success or anything like that, just an observation that many people lack the will to succeed (myself included in some areas of life).

Not tooting my own horn or anything but I am a relatively successful person, like I make money, have my own car and home. I have heard from many guys that I am just too intimidating for them, and hey that is okay because guess what not everyone has to like me. But from a psychological aspect, I can understand why men would prefer Harley Quinn versus Wonder Woman because psychologically speaking she emasculates men. A quote from the misogynous king himself Tucker Max:

Lara “I hate when men randomly bash women. It’s like this pathetic defense mechanism you guys put up when you know you are attracted to a woman who might not be into you.”
Drew “That’s not true.”
Lara “Yes it is. It’s easier to call a girl a whore than admit to yourself that she’s out of your league.”
Drew “That’s some whore logic if I’ve ever heard it.”
Lara “Anyone is capable of being a whore, Drew. Being a woman does not de facto make you one.”
Drew “It does if you’re a cum-guzzling demon slut.”
Lara “Fine, but your ex is only representative of herself, not her whole gender. Her actions don’t mean that I am a whore, simply because we’re both women.”

Now I put that in here because a lot of guys my age (28-35 years old) have a hard time with this psychological pull and contemporary pressure by women to be treated equally. The truth is we are all just searching for love and the preference to like a psychologically homicidal crazy woman over the overly perfect woman makes sense. Why does it though? The truth is that Harley epitomizes male fantasies and appeals more to their ego. She is less threatening, funny and completely devoted to her partners that she would throw her entire career away for her "PUDDIN". It is again a gross generalization but I think her appeal is in her very feminine nature whereas Wonder Woman gives off this impression of strength and confidence that most women do not possess. So basically, Harley threw away her chance at being a strong independent woman to be with her man...kind of a fantasy that most guys have (sorry but it is a generalized truth). You know because if you do not try and please a man, love every hobby of his, do all the cooking and cleaning, plus you are amazing to look at you are the ideal girl. Okay, so there are many good guys out there but on a subconscious level don't we all (women included) want someone who is completely devoted to them? I wonder if that key fact there is driving the 1 in 6 relationships as being abusive (because the increased selfishness of our society could not be a factor JUST KIDDING). As a society we expect women to comply with males and their needs. Bending over backward to be perfect for them. Whereas males do not have to change for their woman but if she does expect him to change she is a manipulative evil woman...sorry just a cultural observation that is sarcastically delivered.

SO WHAT DID WE LEARN TODAY? Wonder Woman is this perfect woman serious, focused, great looking, smart, very tactical and can kick ass. These are not very feminine features, she is good to look at but not much more than that appeals to males, well to the general neanderthals. But then you have Harley Quinn funny, crazy, devoted, visually wants to please her guy/girl. Even her next relationship after the Joker with Poison Ivy is male sexual fantasy driven. She completely changes who she is for a man because females are expected to comply with the male no matter what, that stigma is still there. In the end she appeals to the male ego better than Wonder Woman does. Kinda sick right?