Every year we get all worked up over “Valentine’s Day,” when realistically it's just another Hallmark holiday and most of us don’t even know the significance of whom the day was formed about. Think about how silly it is that we create pity for ourselves for a day that really doesn’t mean anything (unless you’re a conscientious and allegiant Christian). My point is, you should never need one day to show someone just how much they mean to you and you definitely shouldn’t define your worth for a partner over a day that quite frankly means absolutely nothing when you get down to the nitty-gritty.
Instead of beating yourself up about why you don’t have a Valentine, find and surround yourself with the things and people you love EVERY SINGLE DAY, not just on February 14th.
Don’t buy yourself chocolates or flowers. If you’re going to celebrate your independence don’t do something you’re probably going to feel “sorry for yourself” about. If you’re that persistent on getting something for Valentine’s Day, buy yourself something that’ll last longer than a few days (i.e. shoes, a new wallet). Trust me, you’ll feel a lot better about spending money on yourself for a holiday when you know you bought yourself something you’ll actually get use of.
Surround yourself with optimism. The worst thing you can do is hangout with someone who’s negative or that brings negative vibes into your life. Steer clear of those people for the time being until the “holiday” is over. The last thing you need is ANOTHER person complaining about what’s wrong with them over a day that proves nothing about self worth, self-reliance, or self-confidence.
Don’t drink if you are sad that you are single. The worst thing you can do is try to suppress your feelings with alcohol. We all know that a drunk tongue speaks a sober mind. We also all know that you actually DO CARE no matter how many times you try to convince everyone that you “don’t”. No one wants to see you crying in the corner over a boy you don’t date. Save yourself the embarrassment you’ll probably feel the day after. If you’re going to indulge, make sure it’s for the right reasons.
Give yourself to someone you care about. If you really just aren’t over the idea of having nothing or “no one” then make something out of this nothing you claim to have. We focus so much of our time on what we can receive rather than what we can give. Give yourself to someone you care about. Show them your goals, your compassion, your friendship. Show someone that you don’t need this one day to appreciate their spot in your life and that you don’t define how you feel about them by materialistic items.
Hangout with family and friends. Who loves you more than your family and friends? Nobody. Go out with them, have a good time and chances are you won’t even remember what you were trying to avoid feeling on a day like Valentine’s Day. Don’t work yourself up over something or someone that isn’t there. Be with the people who ARE there and who care about you just as much as you care about them without needing cards, flowers, or candy to prove it.
If loving your life without a significant other isn’t enough for you then you need to change the things and people that are making you feel like you aren’t prospering without a partner. Valentine’s Day is just another day. Disregard all the hype that comes with it because one day shouldn’t define the significance you have in another person’s life and you shouldn’t define your value over one day either. Tell yourself: “I’m single for Valentine's Day THIS year (or yet another year – who cares) because I’m too f***ing rad to be summed up in worth by material items.”
