Growing Up And Growing Apart
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Growing Up And Growing Apart

Distance doesn't always make the heart grow fonder.

Growing Up And Growing Apart

It's always hard to deal with when you realize you're drifting apart from someone you care about. Whether it be a boyfriend, best friend, sibling, etc., it's never easy to come to terms with the fact that things aren't the same between you and that person anymore.

I'm a firm believer in the fact that everything happens for a reason, but at the same time I can't help but wonder why this has to happen. I hate losing people and I hate losing the relationships I've built with them even more.

Going to different colleges and living in different cities makes it hard enough to stay connected to the people we care about. The stress of our daily lives seems to grow every day and with that being said, more strain gets put on the relationships we have with the people we don't get to see every day.

I know as we get older, our lives become more and more hectic, our schedules become more and more conflicting, and it gets harder and harder to see each other. It hurts when I start to feel the distance growing but I don't know what I can do to stop it. We go from talking all day every day to barely one conversation a week. It gets to the point where we don't even know each other anymore.

Nothing about this makes sense but I try to cope with the growing distance by remembering that this was all for a reason. Maybe certain people are only meant to come into our lives to teach us things and once they've taught us everything they were meant to, they leave. It doesn't make it hurt any less but it makes it easier to move on when you have a reason.

It's never easy to give up on your relationship with someone but it can be even harder to try and hold onto something that isn't there anymore. I think it's even worse to wait it out and have the other person give up on you. I always tend to be the one to burn the bridge first before I get burned myself. Maybe I get too scared or maybe I'm just used to getting hurt but either way, I never wait around long enough to let myself get hurt first anymore.

Saying that we've "grown out" of someone sounds harsh but it's true. I think we do grow out of some of our relationships and we shouldn't feel guilty for that. People change every day and it's not your fault if you no longer feel compatible with someone you used to be really close to.

I'd like to sugar coat this and say that distance is just an obstacle that you can work around but that isn't always the case. Whether distance between you and another person be physical or metaphorical or even both, never feel guilty for being the one to cut the tie.

You should never feel guilty for moving on, even if it hurts you. You know what's best for you and you don't owe anyone an explanation for what you do to protect yourself.

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