Growing Up Under Pressure Can Bring Out The Best In People

There Are Diamonds In The Rough, From The Person Who Is Living Proof

Growing up in the bad times has made me appreciate the good times


Heat, pressure, and time. That's all it takes to make a diamond. Heat, pressure, and time. That's all it takes to make or break a person. Diamonds and people are incredibly similar in the fact that both of them start out as flawed, but are crafted into beautiful things.

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Growing up in a household of scarcity can do a lot of things to a young person. It can harden their soul to the outside world, building within them resentment and hatred of those who were dealt a better hand. That's because they go day to day wondering "God, why did you choose me for this kind of life?" They feel targeted, second-guessing every move they make because they know that things are too good to be true.

Money, food, happiness... all of these things that people around you seem to have in surplus, you have none of. Rock bottom is feeling like you are the only one going through it. There is no other loneliness like when you're standing in a house, an empty shell of what used to be a home. Remembering the times where "we didn't have much but we had each other" that are simply non-existent now chisels away at the mind and motivation to go on.

Sadly, this is where many people get stuck. They don't realize that everything that happens to you in life can be used as fuel. Eventually, as an adult, you have to stop playing the victim card and start rolling with the punches. You have to realize that the environment you come up in is the single most important thing in your development as a human. People have to start taking the things that tear ordinary people down and using it as a reason to hustle your way out of the bad situation you are in.

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Yeah, there were times where I missed my mother and father and didn't have someone there. There were definitely nights where I went to bed for dinner. Nights in the winter where I shivered, and days where I didn't know where my next meal was coming from. But no matter what, I kept those memories locked in to add fuel to my fire knowing that one day, things wouldn't be like this again. I had to remember to be thankful I even knew my parents. To be thankful I had a school to go to where I could escape each day and work myself to the grindstone until I knew my future was taken care of.

People like an underdog. It gives them something to believe in, attaching them to a lost piece of themselves. This is how I got my family back. How I motivated them to do what was best for their health and me as their child. How my mother escaped from the cold grip of addiction. She put in the long nights because she saw me do the same with much less. Telling my story is how I got the opportunity I was never supposed to have. Showing people that they should never be ashamed of where they come from is how I plan to continue succeeding.

"don't be ashamed of your story, it will inspire others"

College wasn't supposed to be an option for me, but by telling my story and showing my development as a person through my hardships, I got that once-in-a-lifetime opportunity. Now, three years later going into the final leg of my college career, it's incredibly humbling to see how far I've come. There's no better feeling than not taking things for granted. To remember how each day used to be compared to how each day is now. The everyday privileges everyone has always enjoyed feel that much more special to you as a person.

I laugh at people who complain about the smallest inconveniences — these are the people who will never have satisfaction with themselves or their lives. When people who have scrapped their way out of nothing are minorly inconvenienced, they are thankful instead of complaining.

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To anyone out there who is still going through it, if you remember nothing else remember this: take every single thing that is thrown against you in life and don't let it tear you down. Convert it into gunpowder and put a match to it, and explode in a beautiful blaze of ambition and originality. Remember everything that happens to you, but don't use it as an excuse to be anything less than your best self.

The world equally disperses talent, but not opportunity. Most people are afforded opportunities, but some of us have to seize them. Seize every moment, and you too can be the diamond that came from the rough.

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9 Things We All Did In Middle School During The 2000s

We're all guilty of it.

Middle school. The most embarrassing years of my life. I look back at my pictures and just wonder why in the world would I do that? Why did I look like that? How did someone let me do that? But to be honest, I wouldn't want it any other way because I wouldn't have something to look back on today. Just about every middle school girl can relate to this:

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1. Getting "married"

I don't know about you but I took my "marriage" very seriously. We had a 25 cent ring and everything. We called each other "wifey's" to top it all off. Believe it or not, we even had a wedding video. It was pretty legit. Then I found out she was also married to another friend in our friend group. It was a sad breakup but we worked through it and she's my best friend to this day.

2. Duck lips

The legendary duck lips. The bigger the lips the better. I went through a phase where I don't think I ever took a picture with my teeth showing. Why did we think this was cool? I wish I knew.

3. Atrocious wardrobe

Sophie shorts ring a bell? I think I had one in at least every color. Oh and don't forget about my soccer ball ones that I just HAD to wear to soccer practice. What about tying your shirt to the side or tucking in the front of your t-shirt to your shorts? For some reason, this was a long-running style. I am not sure how.

4. Forward messages

Those messages were so annoying yet fun. If I didn't forward those I swear I thought something was actually going to happen to me.

5. Learning everything on the bus

From bad words to inappropriate anything. You learned what things were and where things came from. I learned more things on the bus than I ever did in school.

6. Festivals

They were the best thing to do on a summer weekend. You couldn't miss it. Although no on really rode the rides or played games. It was basically a giant get together for your side of town with a bunch of middle school drama.

7. Awkward mirror selfies

Don't lie, we've all taken them at some point.

8. Edited pictures

There were edited pictures with irrelevant words surrounding our faces. Or writing the words "BFF's" around it to make sure everyone knew that you guys were best friends. At some points, I would actually have people like my status for me to make them an edited picture. Consider yourself lucky if you didn't. Pic Monkey was my life.

9. Webcam pictures

What're you doing tonight? Oh, just taking pics on my webcam.

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10 'We're Going To Disney World' Reactions That Will Make You Wish You Had Kids

And lots of money.


Looking for a good cry today? Take a scroll through this list of "We're Going To Disney World" reaction videos and I promise, you'll be singing "When You Wish Upon A Star" and sobbing by the end.

1.  Movie trailer.

Mom and Dad put together a fake movie trailer as a way for the kids to guess what was going on (the first minute and a half of the video). I lost it when baby girl started crying. The way they squeal with each other when they find out they're having breakfast with the princesses is priceless. I'm already done, guys.

2.  Game of pictionary.

Okay, these kids are the absolute cutest. Like the cutest ever. I pretty much died when brother hugged his little sister.

(I definitely recommend your turn your volume down for this one, though. You'll see what I mean.)

3.  Mystery presents.

THIS WAS SO CREATIVE AND CUTE. WHY DOESN'T MY SIBLING DO CUTE THINGS FOR ME? Seriously though, this was so incredibly creative and thoughtful. I love the gag gifts that seem so random until she puts it all together. Ugh. So sweet. Plus grandma recording in the background is the cutest thing ever.

4.  Christmas unboxing surprise.

Little man stole my heart in this one. His reaction was literally everything. He RUNS into moms arms and SOBS. And now I'm sobbing. And then he thanks mom and dad like a bunch of times. This just seems like the sweetest family.

5. Luxury limousine.

This was cute as is and then got even cuter as the limo pulled up. This kiddos were so cute and giggly and I love that momma made sure they knew how much she and daddy loved them. Ugh, so pure. I hope they had the best time.

6.  Sleeping beauty.

This little girl went zero to a hundred REAL quick. From dead asleep to jumping on the bed in less than a minute. She was so precious with her "let's go" and "how do I look" comments. And she thanked her parents! Man, I want to be her friend.

7. Bursts of tears.

I lost it with little dude started crying, BUT THEN LITTLE GIRL BURST OUT IN TEARS AND I REALLY LOST IT. This was TOO CUTE TO HANDLE. Also can we talk about how adorable these guys looked in their hats? I literally can't.

8.  Mickey cookies!

These girls are the sweetest when they realize they're going to Disney World, AND that their bags are already packed in brand new suitcases. How fricken cute. Look at their cute little skip to the bathroom, and how excited they get over the new suitcases. Who knew kids even got excited over suitcases? These girls are adorable and their momma is the best. ALSO, HER COOKIES LOOKED AMAZING.

9.  Gulf of Mexico.

These kids were SHOOK when they realized their usual drive to Iowa was looking a little different than usual. Props to mom and dad for utilizing the OG Mickey Mouse Club theme song to drop the bomb on their kiddos. And props to them for keeping it a secret until ten hours in on their drive! I also love how it took bud a second to process the news before it finally hit him.

10.  Today?

This sweet baby cried happy tears when she found out she was getting to go to Disney World that day.I think her sister was just glad she didn't have to go to the dentist. Needless to say, I cried when she cried.

"Disney World?"

Time to birth some children and save my entire salary so I can make all the dreams come true. I only hope my kids are at least half as cute as all of these babies.

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