Push Me To The Dirt And Spit On Me — Then Watch Me Grow

Go Ahead, Push Me To The Dirt And Spit On Me — Then Watch Me Grow

What happens when you put a seed in the dirt and water it? It grows.

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People are mean. The world is cruel. People are going to push you to the dirt and spit on you. Those are pretty harsh words, I know, but they're honest.

There are selfish people who don't care about you and won't care about you, not unless you are doing something for them. The mentality should be, "I help you, you help me," not "I help you, I help you."

People will use you, abuse you and confuse you.

That's right. They'll confuse you. They'll make you feel like you've done everything wrong when it's the furthest thing from the truth.

Sometimes, people pretend that you're the bad guy so that they don't feel guilty about the things they did to you.

Eventually, the people who have pushed you to the dirt and spit on you will realize that they've done something wrong. Unfortunately, people aren't always willing to accept that they can be the bad guys, too.

When you put a seed in the dirt and water it, it will grow. It can be the same for people who have been pushed to the dirt and spit on.

It may seem like there's no way you can get up and dust yourself off. You may look at the situation and believe it has stunted your growth as a person. You can grow from the circumstances, but only if you choose to.

It's tempting to pull the person that pushed you down to the dirt so that you're on the same ground, but doing this doesn't create an equal ground.

"The minute you think you have the right to belittle others because you think you're better than them is the same minute you've proven you're worse." – Joanne Crisner Alcayaga

People are quick to point out what is wrong with a situation, but they're slow to point out what's right. It's easier to call someone out when they've done something wrong than to compliment them for doing something right.

Grow from the situation and help others grow alongside you.

Be an example. Show kindness to unkind people, forgive those that seem unforgivable and reflect on who you are instead of who hurt you. Don't show fake kindness or forgiveness. Show your genuine self.

It'll test your character when you treat someone you don't have to be nice to with respect.

Will you wither or bloom? People won't remember how pretty or talented you are. You can be the most beautiful rose with the sweetest fragrance, but that doesn't matter if your thorns always stab someone.

People remember how you make them feel.

Don't let yourself grow into a flower that looks beautiful but smells awful or is covered in thorns. I'm not saying you must be a beautiful rose — even dandelions can be beautiful.

When a child brings a bouquet of "pretty" dandelion flowers to you, you're not going to think of them as obnoxious weeds. You probably won't see the same beauty that the child sees, but you'll see something even more exquisite. You'll see the happiness in that moment when the child wants to share something beautiful with you.

Go ahead and push me to the dirt and spit on me, then watch me grow. Watch me grow from the situation, and hopefully, you'll be inspired to grow alongside me.

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12 Unhealthy College Habits That Never Should Have Become Normalized

No, you shouldn't have to pull an all-nighter to pass every exam.

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College is a weird time in our lives, but it doesn't have to be bad for our health. Here are some trends I've seen on social media and watched my friends practice that really never should have become a "thing" for college students in the first place.

1. The "freshman 15."

Everyone has heard of the dreaded "freshman 15," where college freshmen gain 15 pounds because of access to all-you-can-eat dining halls. Rather than eating healthier options at the dining halls or, you know, only eating until you're full and not stuffing yourself, we've just accepted our fate to gain what's really a large amount of weight. Not a very healthy mindset.

2. Eating only junk food because we're "too poor" to buy real food.

For off-campus students, the theme is ramen and peanut butter & jelly sandwiches. This is really not how it needs to be. You can buy a bunch of romaine lettuce for around $1 at the grocery store I go to in my college town, and other produce like broccoli, potatoes, and apples are always cheap. Shop sales and keep your pantry stocked on staples like dry pasta, rice, beans, and other canned vegetables. It's not that expensive to eat decently.

3. Gorging on food at the dining hall just because you can.

This is what leads to the freshman 15. Just because you can eat whatever you want doesn't mean you should.

4. Procrastinating EVERYTHING.

I'm always ahead of my schoolwork, but all of the people in my classes push things right down to the wire. It creates unnecessary stress. Just get things done in advance so you don't have to worry.

5. Being generally unorganized and struggling to keep your life together. 

Actually using my planner is one of the best things I've done for myself in college so far. I don't know why it became popular for college students to be a hot mess all the time, but again, do what you can to avoid putting unnecessary stress on yourself.

6. Pulling all nighters, ever.

If you don't understand it by midnight, you won't understand it any better by five in the morning. You'll do so much better with less studying and more sleep than the other way around. Take the L and go to bed.

7. Waiting until the very last minute to start studying for your finals.

This is what typically leads to the aforementioned all-nighters. If you have an exam in two weeks, start studying NOW. Give yourself time to figure out what you need to focus on and get in contact with your professor or a tutor if necessary. Do yourself the favor.

8. Getting blackout drunk Friday and Saturday night...every weekend.

A lot of college students like to drink. That's fine, I get it, college is stressful and you just want to have a good time. But you don't have to go out every night of every weekend and drink so much you don't remember anything that didn't occur between Monday-Friday every week. Give yourself a break from drinking every so often.

9. Getting iced coffee before class and being late because of it.

I always make sure I get to campus early if I plan to get Starbucks, which I often do. It's rude to come in late, and it's detrimental to your education to consistently miss class. Your coffee can wait if you're running late. Plan better next time.

10.  Committing to 10 different extracurriculars because "it'll boost your resume if you have more on it!"

If you only participate in one club where you're the head of marketing and the treasurer, that will look SO much better than if you participated in five clubs but were just...there for all of them. Excel in one thing rather than being mediocre in many.

11.  Skipping class whenever you feel like it.

You can take the occasional mental health day, but if you're just being lazy, you're only hurting yourself. Go to class. You're paying a lot of money for it, after all.

12.  Spending every last penny you have to go somewhere for spring break (Daytona Beach, anyone?).

"Broke" college kids always end up taking the most extravagant spring break vacations. I'm sure it's fun and you'll cherish the memories, but wouldn't you cherish that $500 more if you saved it for things you actually need rather than living off of ramen for a month when you get home?

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I'm Done Trying To Force People Into My Life Who Don't Want To Be There

Remember that if they want to be with you or be in your life, they will show an effort. They will make it happen. They will make you feel important and wanted.

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I feel like, for the longest time, I would constantly try to chase after people to force them into my life. Whether it was someone I was attracted to and wanted to try for a relationship, or someone I admired for whatever reason and wanted as a friend, I forced my way into their lives in order to make them a part of mine. None of these interactions were worth my effort, though. My issue is that I love too hard. I put too much emotional exertion into people that don't want me, so why bother in the first place?

My heart is big. I care too much for those that don't care at all. And perhaps that partly explains why I've been so broken for so long. However, over these past few months, I've learned a ton about self-worth and self-love. When you begin to understand your own personal purpose, you learn to think with your brain for once instead of your heart. You learn that you deserve love from ANYONE with a mutual amount of effort and time. Life is far too short to deal with a constant level of imbalance.

Stop begging. Stop begging for someone to put forth emotional investment. Stop begging for a text or Snapchat back when you've been left on read time and time again. Stop begging for someone to hang out with you when they clearly don't want to.

Stop begging for someone to love you.

Soon it'll be easy to realize that reality isn't the fantasy you wish it would be. It's rare someone will come banging down your door to smother you with apologies and goodies to not lose you.

Remember that if they want to be with you or be in your life, they will show an effort. They will make it happen. They will make you feel important and wanted. If this doesn't happen, don't place yourself in the palm of their hands. Absolutely no one in this world is worth losing your mental sanity.

But more importantly, absolutely no one in this world is worth losing yourself.

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