So, my boyfriend and I of seven months broke up. Just a couple months ago, I was so sure that I was going to marry that man. We were looking for rings and planning our lives together. Then yesterday, that all ended. I went from talking to him all the time and seeing him every day to wishing I could pick up the phone to ask him how his day was. I don’t remember falling for him. I just remember holding his hand and then realizing how much it hurt to let it go. But I will never regret it no matter how much it hurt, and here are the reasons why.
You did the best you could, be kind to yourself.
Sometimes things work out, and sometimes they do not. You tried your best and loved with all your heart. That is all you can do. Love them. Even though sometimes, they don’t love you back. Do not beat yourself up for trying.
“Never apologize for showing feeling. When you do, you apologize for telling the truth.” –Benjamin Disraeli
Your feelings are real. Your feelings matter. Don’t apologize for feeling a certain way even if you feel like a fool now. You felt them at one time. The truth hurts. One day, there will be someone who reciprocates that truth back. No regrets!
Sometimes you win, and sometimes you learn.
Everything you go through is a learning experience. Take what you have learned and take it to your next relationship. I always take at least two things from each relationship. I take one thing that I did great, and I take one thing that could have improved the relationship. This helps each relationship get better and more mature. Love is not just something you understand automatically. Love is something that you learn.
Be strong. It’s a long journey.
Love is not just something that happens when we want it to. Take this single time to focus on improving yourself and being who God made you to be. Do not look for love. Let it find you. And when it does find you, you will be ready. Knowing who you are helps so much in a relationship. It helps you to be confident in your voice, boundaries, and expectations. Never settle for less.
“You are imperfect; you are wired for struggle, but you are worthy of love and belonging.” –Brene Brown
This is not the end. I know it feels hopeless right now, and your heart is broken, but you will find someone. You just have to have patience. It is all about perfect timing. It is not the end of the world. No one is perfect. We all have to go through struggles, but those struggles make us who we are today. Everything happens for a reason.
So all in all, life sucks sometimes. If you are reading this article, I am sure you understand that. But there are also many wonderful things in this life. You just have to find those beautiful things. You are still breathing, and you have another day to better yourself. Although this time in your life is hard, get back on your feet. Get yourself out there, and be better than you were yesterday.