In my younger days, when imagined my future self, where I am at in life today was not something I would have pictured. Not only physically, but mentally too.
I guess something I never fully realized was that I would be completely moved out of my parents' house and adulting way too hard, way too young. Now don't get me wrong- I am not saying I am completely independent, because there is seriously no way I could survive without my parents, but I can say I do a lot for myself.
When you're moved out on your own you have to know how to finance your money in smart ways.
Make sure you always have enough money saved for rent before the first of the month. Goes without saying, but you never want to be late on rent. Make sure you make payments on time to be in good standings with the leasing office, you never know when you might need their help.
Be nice to the maintenance workers. I have found out that the maintenance guys are somewhat similar to your dad. Be sure you are nice to them because they are going to be the ones running to the rescue when your dishwasher or your toilet seat breaks (these random things will happen).
Clean up after yourself. Your parents are not there to clean up after you anymore… and your roommates will not be pleased to do it either. It is not hard to rinse out dishes when you are done using them or to clean up the living room after a night hanging out with your friends, be respectful for others living in the same space as yourself.
Be considerate of your roommates' belongings. The worst thing about having roommates is that you have to share your personal things with each other. Everyone uses the dinnerware, cups, couches, T.V., etc. You get the point… just make sure to be respectful if you are using something that you did not buy. Speaking from experience, it is very frustrating when your things get broken because of your roommates. Do not be that person.
Invest in good quality decorations/furniture. Talking from experience, it is important to not be cheap when investing in decorations and furniture. If you want something to last more than just one year, I suggest that you invest in something more expensive. Especially if you plan on moving when your lease is up.
Don't go crazy. It might be tempting to throw a huge project X party your first weekend in your own place, but do not do it. You need time to settle in and start a bond with your roommates, not every single one of your friends. I'm not saying never throw a party, but you will want to do it when it works for everyone living in the household.
Know your neighbors. You want to be friendly with your neighbors and be comfortable with them if at all possible. There will come a time where you need some help lifting furniture (or something) from the guys across the hall. If you never introduced yourself six months in, they might not be so willing to help you out. It is helpful to not only know your physical surroundings but your human surroundings as well. After all, this is where you live.
Remember, you are a woman. Know how to protect yourself and make yourself feel safe and secure. We are all strong woman! Yeah, it feels nice and safe to have a guy around, but you need to know how to feel that way alone as well. If you live alone you should keep in contact with some one, every day. It will benefit you to always let someone know where you are, whether it is work, school, or home. You do not want to be that girl on the missing posters around town.
Last but not least, have a welcome mat. A welcome mat is essential, especially during the winter months. You are going to want people to wipe the mud and dirt off of their shoes, how would they do this without a welcome mat?
Peace and blessings,
Kayla Jean Brady
