Here we go again, another holiday season without someone to kiss under the mistletoe.
We're in the middle of winter, everyone you know is posting adorable photographs with their significant others cuddled near a fire, posing with a Christmas tree, or kissing in the snow. You're posting about finals, about hot chocolate, about...anything else.
The only difference is that you don't have someone to take pictures with? Does that make them superior?
Of course not.
You and I both know that you're not the one to let your worth be defined by your relationship status.
Don't worry, you'll survive this. I'll be the first one to admit that this is the first holiday season that I've actually had a significant other. I've spent the first 21 years of my life without knowing the magic of a holiday gift exchange with my lover or the much-fabled New Years Kiss.
There's plenty of things that are positive about not having a love-interest this season. Let's look on the bright side for a moment, shall we? You get to spend as much time as you please surrounding yourself with the love and warmth of your family and friends. Far too often have I consoled a friend who has felt compelled to spend the holiday with the family of their boyfriend and is unable to have community with their own family.
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You don't have to agonize over what to get a boyfriend or a boyfriend's family a Christmas gift. You can take yourself out on fun dates or better yet, take your friends with you and rejoice in the memories you're creating. In short, you're free to basically enjoy yourself however you want.
But, no matter how many words I say, you may want to be in a relationship, and that is valid.
I've spent plenty of seasons wishing I was blissfully in love. It's time to remember the reason for the season, Jesus Christ.
Last year was the first year that I made the decision to put the Christ in Christmas, and this decision changed me in some really vivid ways. I promise, there is a day coming soon that you will know the embrace of someone who loves you the way you deserve to be loved. Understand that the Lord wants us to be living and thriving in our singleness; He wants for us to be growing in love for Him so we can grow in love with someone else later.
The most important thing is to do is trust in His perfect timing and know that this is the time where you should be preparing yourself for the day where this man does enter your life. Spend time with family and friends; more importantly take the time to learn from your loved ones' wisdom.
You're so special, you have so many people who love you, and at the end of the night, someone is going to be there to spend the rest of your life kissing under the mistletoe.
Happy Holidays! Merry Christmas! Happy New Year! Make this the best one yet.
