This One Is For The Girls Who Want To Break The Mold

This One Is For The Girls Who Want To Break The Mold

Breaking the mold one girl at a time.

Being told I can't do something is not what I hear a lot of. My whole life I've been told that I can do whatever I put my mind to.

No matter my age, race, or sex I've always been told I can overcome it. Being a woman is hard, and that's no secret. Sometimes we don't always get what we should but most of the time we get what we deserve because we work for it.

In the sports world there is no doubt that the world is heavily man operated. I mean of course you have your female sports such an NCAA Women's Basketball, WNBA, and NCAA College Softball. Those anchors are usually women.

Beth Mowins, Holly Rowe, and Erin Andrews are just a few names you've probably heard of. They are female reporters for ESPN. Erin Andrews and Holly Rowe can be spotted on the sidelines during NCAA College Football Playoffs, NBA Finals, and the College World Series. Beth Mowins is the voice you hear all throughout the Women's College World Series.

These women have made it possible for young broadcast journalism majors, like myself, easier to break into the man's world.

However, I hope to continue to break the barriers in a man-made sports world. While I love all sports, I thoroughly enjoy football. My dreams would be to actually cover a game. I want to report the game.

What if you were told it's too hard? Or you know it's going to be hard, would that stop you?

Honestly, did I stop in my tracks, yes I did. Would others turn away? Oh yes, they would turn away. However, I believe that this is my calling.

I have started an internship with a local news station. In the fall they cover local football teams. They have a two-hour show dedicated to the football teams. This is where I start to break the man mold.

If I can start breaking the mold at the local level with football I know I can break the mold at the state and even national level. I believe I can do this and I was meant to cover this.

Thankfully I have an inside look at football. I don't have the mind of a normal girl. I know the ends and outs of football and I can tell you all eleven positions on both sides of the ball.

Like I said I'm going to break the mold. In football and in baseball. I know if I put my mind to something that I can do anything. It will be hard but nobody would ever be successful if something was easy.

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To The Coach Who Took Away My Confidence

You had me playing in fear.
"The road to athletic greatness is not marked by perfection, but the ability to constantly overcome adversity and failure."

As a coach, you have a wide variety of players. You have your slow players, your fast players. You have the ones that are good at defense. You have the ones that are good at offense. You have the ones who would choose to drive and dish and you have the ones that would rather shoot the three. You have the people who set up the plays and you have the people who finish them. You are in charge of getting these types of players to work together and get the job done.

Sure, a coach can put together a pretty set of plays. A coach can scream their head off in a game and try and get their players motivated. A coach can make you run for punishment, or they can make you run to get more in shape. The most important role of a coach, however, is to make the players on their team better. To hopefully help them to reach their fullest potential. Players do make mistakes, but it is from those mistakes that you learn and grow.

To the coach the destroyed my confidence,

You wanted to win, and there was nothing wrong with that. I saw it in your eyes if I made a mistake, you were not too happy, which is normal for a coach. Turnovers happen. Players miss shots. Sometimes the girl you are defending gets past you. Sometimes your serve is not in bounds. Sometimes someone beats you in a race. Sometimes things happen. Players make mistakes. It is when you have players scared to move that more mistakes happen.

I came on to your team very confident in the way that I played the game. Confident, but not cocky. I knew my role on the team and I knew that there were things that I could improve on, but overall, I was an asset that could've been made into an extremely great player.

You paid attention to the weaknesses that I had as a player, and you let me know about them every time I stepped onto the court. You wanted to turn me into a player I was not. I am fast, so let me fly. You didn't want that. You wanted me to be slow. I knew my role wasn't to drain threes. My role on the team was to get steals. My role was to draw the defense and pass. You got mad when I drove instead of shot. You wanted me to walk instead of run. You wanted me to become a player that I simply wasn't. You took away my strengths and got mad at me when I wasn't always successful with my weaknesses.

You did a lot more than just take away my strengths and force me to focus on my weaknesses. You took away my love for the game. You took away the freedom of just playing and being confident. I went from being a player that would take risks. I went from being a player that was not afraid to fail. Suddenly, I turned into a player that questioned every single move that I made. I questioned everything that I did. Every practice and game was a battle between my heart and my head. My heart would tell me to go to for it. My heart before every game would tell me to just not listen and be the player that I used to be. Something in my head stopped me every time. I started wondering, "What if I mess up?" and that's when my confidence completely disappeared.

Because of you, I was afraid to fail.

You took away my freedom of playing a game that I once loved. You took away the relaxation of going out and playing hard. Instead, I played in fear. You took away me looking forward to go to my games. I was now scared of messing up. I was sad because I knew that I was not playing to my fullest potential. I felt as if I was going backward and instead of trying to help me, you seemed to just drag me down. I'd walk up to shoot, thinking in my head, "What happens if I miss?" I would have an open lane and know that you'd yell at me if I took it, so I just wouldn't do it.

SEE ALSO: The Coach That Killed My Passion

The fight to get my confidence back was a tough one. It was something I wish I never would've had to do. Instead of becoming the best player that I could've been, I now had to fight to become the player that I used to be. You took away my freedom of playing a game that I loved. You took away my good memories in a basketball uniform, which is something I can never get back. You can be the greatest athlete in the world, but without confidence, you won't go very far.

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An Open Letter To The Friends That I No Longer Need

Thanks for the memories but it's time to move on.


Out growing friends, even your best friends, is just apart of life. Think back to all the people we've called friends and best friends over the years, how many are left? Only a handful, and that's okay. You're supposed to grow and changed, and as you grow and change you let go of people that you thought were going to be around forever. Some friendships ended on bad terms, but most people you just out grow and lose touch with, as life gets busier. You obviously still want them to succeed in life, but you just don't feel like they have a part of your life anymore. I for one am no different.

To the friends I no longer need,

I knew it was coming, whether you did or not. Honestly, it was weighing heavy on my mind before I made the decision to distance myself from you, or just cut you off completely. It wasn't out of jealously, spite, pettiness or anything like that. To put in simple terms, our energies no longer matched.

If you don't understand how our energies don't match anymore, let me explain.

I've been around negativity far too long, to let it linger into my almost mid twenties. I'm just about 23 years old, I don't want to listen to the he said, she said drama. I don't want to listen to the excuses of why you feel stuck in your life, when you make little to no effort to do anything about it. I don't want to deal with the mind games of relationships. I don't want the bad decisions around me anymore. I don't want trash talking other people because you don't agree with how they live their live around me, because honestly it's childish. And I certainly do not want to deal with people who are overly attached and dependent on their significant other around me. Not that I'm the bitter friend but because if I want to spend time with you, they don't always have to be there, and because if you aren't with them, then you are completely miserable.

I'm focused on finishing my degrees, yes degrees. I'm focused on my writing. I'm focused on work. I'm focused on trying to do the Disney College Program again. I'm focused on looking at grad schools. I'm focused on all aspects of my health.

Quite honestly, I just don't have time for people who are stuck in their high school childish ways.

See the thing is, if you aren't interested in growing up and maturing than I don't need you around me. I don't need somebody, or a bunch of people around me to bring me down and distract me. I don't need to take a huge step forward then get sucked into your negative energy and end up taking 10 steps back.

A huge part of it is wanting to be more private in my life. I don't need a bunch of people or even just one person to let other people no everything I'm up to. If I mention it, then I want people to know. But even with that, I don't mention things in great detail. (Don't use my articles to say that I go into detail about my life, because none of my articles even begin to scratch the surface of whatever I was writing about.)

And just because I don't want you around me or around me as much, does not mean that I'm wishing bad things on you. I still want to see you succeed and I still want you to do what make you happy. But in this moment in time, I don't see our friendship going anywhere. The only thing I see it doing is hold me back from my future. Which is something I will never be willing to compromise.

And if that makes me an awful person, than so be it.

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