Anyone knows that to be a girl in your 20’s is a hard thing. Gosh, it seems downright impossible sometimes. Everything is changing all at once and you have to constantly decide where you want to go next.

It seems like you’re constantly waiting - waiting for your test grade to be published, waiting to see if you get the job, waiting to see how long you can put off homework, waiting to see if your ex will come back to you, waiting to see if your friend will forgive you, waiting to see if you’ll meet a new friend at the party, waiting to see if your crush will ever ask you out, waiting to see if the guy you’ve fallen for is into you or playing you, waiting to see if class gets cancelled, waiting to get thinner, waiting to go vacation somewhere you’ve only dreamed of befo

Waiting. Waiting. Waiting.

It’s time to stop.

It’s time to start doing it for yourself.

Instead of waiting for your test grade, study harder so you’re confident that you already know the grade you’ll get and if the teacher gives you something lower than you think you deserve, then ask them about it, argue your point of view respectfully.

Instead of waiting to see if you get the job, prepare for the job and send a handwritten thank you card and go personally drop it off at the front desk. Show initiative because employers value that more than which candidate has the higher GPA.

Instead of waiting to see how long you can put off homework, just go to the library and get it done. Not only will completing it early give you a sense of self-fulfillment, but it will also leave you plenty of time to relax and take some well deserved “you time” for the rest of the night.

Instead of waiting to see if your ex will come back to you, fight for them. If you can’t imagine a life without them then fight for them! Tell them exactly how you feel before it’s too late…no, tell them how you feel regardless if you think it’s too late because there isn’t a time limit on love. If they still don’t want to be with you then they don’t deserve you anyways and someone new is still out there searching for you.

Instead of waiting to see if your friend will forgive you, sit down and initiate a discussion with them. If you’re bad at confrontation then leave them a handwritten letter. Odds are whatever happened was a misunderstanding because the situation was interpreted differently between the two of you. If they care about you, it’ll take time but they will forgive you if they realize how truly sorry you are.

Instead of waiting to see if you’ll meet a new friend at a party, go talk to people! Get a little liquor in your system, loosen up, and go make a friend. People nowadays are so scared to make the first move, but not you - not this time.

Instead of waiting to see if the guy you’ve fallen for is into you or playing you, ASK HIM! Good grief. Stand up for yourself and build that confidence. Yea, it stinks if he says no. It hurts more if he lies. But take this advice - if you have to ask yourself if he is into you or not, then don’t you already have your answer? Stop sending your friends in for you to test the playing field. Ask him yourself. Guys like girls with confidence.

Instead of waiting to see if a class gets canceled, skip it. I know, not really the best motherly advice. But if you are already hoping and praying that it will be canceled, then you aren’t going to get anything out of it anyways. So skip it. Take a day to yourself and go out to have some fun. Go for a walk. Catch up on some homework. Get a drink with a friend. Skip it and go the next time. One day won’t hurt you.

Instead of waiting to get thinner, do something about it! Exercise more in a healthy way. Make sure you’re cutting out all the unhealthy crap that you’re putting in your body and you’re consistently eating what will provide your body nutrition. Go for a walk instead of driving your car. Do a workout as soon as you get up in the morning and before you go to bed. Drink more water and less soda or coffee. Work on it for yourself, and remember no matter what you are beautiful.

Instead of waiting to go on vacation, GO! Save so much of your paycheck every month and put it into an account with your bank that is solely for your vacation fund. Research online how you can make an extra buck here or there. Only ever pay in cash and take any coins you receive back and place it in a vacation fund. Do your research, find some deals, go on your trip!

Instead of waiting, take some action. Stop going through the motions because nothing will ever happen to you. By human nature, we are not that lucky. So go kiss the boy you like, go study for your test, go on vacation.

Be you. Be strong. Be confident.

Your time of waiting is over. It’s time that you take action.