There are times in your life where you believe a boy could fix everything. He can swoop you into his truck and somehow make everything better. He makes you laugh when you've got tears running down your face. He buys you a milkshake because he knows you love them. Just because a guy accepts your sadness doesn't make it okay. You don't need a guy to fix all of your problems. You need to fix your problems before you can love a guy who would.
Thinking you're lonely because you don't have a boyfriend when your roommate does, thinking a boy could fix your loneliness is a toxic thought. Boys don't fix anything but your relationship status, and that's not good enough. A guy can't fix your loneliness, he can't fix your broken heart and he sure as heck can't fix the way you think of yourself.
There have been plenty times in my life where I thought having a boyfriend could make it all better. If I were sad, he would just scoop me up and take me on a ride in his truck like every Nicholas Sparks movie. I thought comfort and security from a guy would fix and erase all of my problems in life. But relationships and life are not like Nicholas Sparks movies.
When you look in the mirror and are insecure about what you see, a guy's acceptance of your stretch marks or weight gain isn't going to change how you feel. A guy's approval of anything on your body that you don't like doesn't make it acceptable to shrug it off- or love him more because you think he loves you no matter how broken you are.
A guy can't fix a bad situation, your weight, or your past. Thinking a guy could change or erase those or somehow make it acceptable for you to forget. Sure, it's easy to think that a guy all loveable and charming could cloud your thoughts and fears. He's cute and always understanding, he doesn't argue with you and he tells you that you're beautiful even when you think you're not.
The only person you need to fix yourself or your problems is you. Thinking a guy can fix and somehow tape all your problems together is unrealistic to the highest degree. Knowing what you want and embracing your stretchmarks and tears are the only thing that's going to fix you.
