Every girl wants to feel loved and wanted. I was one of those girls in high school. My first serious relationship started when my now ex asked me out to our junior prom. The first few months were great, and definitely different because I had never had a boyfriend before. We both said "I love you" to each other, but after awhile, I did not feel like I was loved or happy. My friends realized this and helped me break up with him multiple times, but every time I'd run back to him. I wasn't abused physically, but emotionally. He made me cry and feel uncomfortable most of the time I was with him. He controlled both me and my life.
Girls, if you have been abused in an relationship or are currently being abused in an relationship, walk away. It is the best thing that you can do for yourself. After I walked away for the last time I felt like weight was lifted off my shoulders.
Saying a final goodbye will be difficult, especially if he argues with you and says that he will change. GUYS WON'T CHANGE. No matter how many times he will tell you that he will change, don't fall for it. And even if you do give him a second chance because he did change, it won't last for long. It was almost like a monthly cycle with my ex. Here are some tips for you girls:
Talk to someone. Your best friend, mom, grandmother. Don't bottle your feelings up. Anyone who you are close with and confide in or trust. My mom helped me with my decision-making about my ex, along with my friends. Your friends will also have your back and will step in if need be. I also talked with a therapist when it got too overwhelming to talk about it with my mom and friends.
Look out for red flags. Red flags can include so much. Controlling behavior, obsessive behavior, constant overly negative put downs. My ex would constantly put down me and my family members. Many times I would leave his house in tears.
If it gets too serious, you can always get a restraining order against them. I would only do this in extreme physical circumstances.
Luckily, I got out before it came to this and I am very glad I did. Since that relationship, I have met a great guy who I love and know he loves me just the same. He treats me well and there is not a abusive bone in his body.
I hope you girls who are in this situation get the help you need and find your way out before things get even uglier.
As a side note, guys are susceptible to abusive relationships as well.
