You heard it from the beginning of recruitment. No bid is guaranteed and not everyone comes back, but you didn't think it would be you. You tried to come off as a bubbly, warm person, and you were genuinely eager to get involved. You may start to wonder what the other girls had that you didn't and that maybe sororities are just based off looks and money.
There are hundreds if not thousands of girls in your position across the country having the same thoughts as you. The feeling of being rejected is never a good one, but you are worthy of love and friendship regardless of whether or not you have letters.
For many of you, this is your first step into college and I can tell you there will be more rejection down the road than you will care to experience in a lifetime. Handle this with poise and grace, and it will say a lot about your character.
The simple fact is they can't invite everyone, and sometimes you're not going to get exactly what you wanted. Don't start trashing Greek Life or your top pick for not inviting you back. Nothing is ever accomplished from that, and it will only burn bridges with the friends you've made in those groups.
You can find a home on your campus with out needing a set of letters to do so. Your teammates, club members, and classmates can also be your future friends.
Don't count out your ability to make friends just because you haven't tried! Sure, it might be harder than just relating to a group of girls and seeing everyone in their letters is going to be painful for a while. However, you are going to overcome so much in this college journey you will learn to adapt if work hard enough.
Take a break from Instagram if you haven't already. Seeing bid posts was heartbreaking, and you debated for several minutes on whether or not you should even like the posts.
If you were friends before recruitment you will still be friends after if you are not the one to hold a grudge. Let it roll off your shoulders and pick yourself back up in time for that 8 AM class that you will regret more than anything else. You can enjoy your college experience still, and if it's right for you then you can always ask about other options to get into a sorority. Ask your Greek life coordinator, and keep in mind that maybe you'll find out that you enjoy college life without being involved in Greek.
You have made it to college which is an amazing feat on its own. You should be proud of yourself for putting yourself out there and focus on what you came to college for, your degree. "Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence." -Helen Keller.
