Marriage for the Children

Staying together just for the children is a recipe for disaster. Although many couples do believe in this theory as it brings a good image and upbringing for the children, they are really getting the wrong idea of what marriage and love is supposed to be. They are blinded by the real ways to enjoy and appreciate the significate other in a relationship. Pretending to love your husband or wife just so your kid can have an image instead of an actual feeling of what a real marriage is supposed to be like can do a lot of harm to the development of a child and his future with others.

Marriage is the process by which two people make their relationship public, official, and permanent. It's the joining of two people in a bond that lasts until death, unless disturbed by divorce. You think and stress about it your entire life up until the very moment of your wedding. When you first found the love of your life, you didn't consider any bad possibilities. You drew up all the good ideas in your head and all the picture-perfect things you can think off. This person is going to be the one there with you through the good and bad times. No matter what, they will always be by your side.

Now fast forward five years and imagine a couple little children running around your house. You come home from your cubical job you sat at for eight hours plus another hour of traffic on your ride home. The only thing you want to do is kick back on the recliner and drink a few cold beers you've had your mind on all day. The second you walk through the door, kids come running up to you yelling and screaming and making your headache ten times worse. One child is asking you to play cars with him, the other wants you to play ball in the front yard. You don't even have both feet through the front door yet and hell has already begun. This starts to become a daily pattern. You bring it up to your spouse, and they aren't happy with your reaction to the kid's excitement.

Stepping ahead, you and your loved one have a deep conversation about how to solve this issue. Looking more into it, your wife notices that you're the one with the problem and throws all the blame on you. She doesn't even consider negotiating or take in consideration anything you have to say, and your relationship goes down hill from here. You both begin by discussing divorce. You know, the thing in which 50% of married Americans end up getting. Well, you both agree it would benefit your relationship, but the kids, the kids need to grow up in a house with both parents around. It would not be beneficial to split up with the children so young and ruin their lives. That was before giving thought to the many up sides of not staying together just for the sake of the kids.

One of these potential upsides can be that the child does not have to be surrounded in a negative home. A house filled with arguments and fights constantly occurring between the two parents can mess up the mental health and development of a child. This will draw a wrong image in his or her head of what a marriage is supposed to be like. They will then be drawn to these types of people when the time comes for them to find their own loved one. They will also run the chance of making it a habit to mistreat and show disrespect because that is all they were taught and the behavior they have been around their entire life.