How To Get Over A Bad Holiday Breakup

How To Get Over A Bad Holiday Breakup

January is officially named 'National Break-Up Month.'

January is no longer a frosty month just because of the weather. According to Cosmopolitan magazine, January is the month that more relationships break up than any other month. Therefore, January was named "National Breakup Month," proven by Facebook and Yahoo surveys. In fact, the UK recognized January 12th as their "National Breakup Day." One can only guess that these breakups are a result from holiday stresses and/or the seriousness of meeting families during holiday parties.

No matter the cause, here are some ways to get over a post-holiday breakup like a champ.

1. Delete Him.

No, seriously. Delete his number, unfriend him on Snapchat, Instagram, Facebook, Twitter (if you still use that), etc. I know you think you are a mature adult and can handle it, but I'm sorry to say you're not. You will see a picture of his night out, or some random girl in his Instagram post, and your crazy eyes will pop. Save yourself the anxiety (and dignity) and delete him before you text or 'poke' him on a night you've had one too many glasses of Barefoot Moscato.

2. Journal.

If it's good enough for Elena Gilbert in Vampire Diaries, it's good enough for you. You would be surprised how liberating it is to be able to write your feelings down. Write angry letters, sad letters, or a funny joke you heard that day just write. By being in tune with your emotions, it will be much easier to accept where you stand and move on. Hey, you could even get really fancy by choosing to do a blog rather than ancient pen and paper!

3. Lean on your friends for support.

These friends will be the ones who will go out with you on a whim, choose you over their homework for a wine and movie night or hold your hand when or if you see him at a bar even though they have stresses of their own. Tell them how much you appreciate them and lean on them when you need to because they are here for you.

4. Get some fresh air.

The weather outside may be frightful, but so is isolation. Your bed isn't going anywhere, and neither is your pint of Ben and Jerry's, I promise. Go get some sunlight, enjoy the snow falling, listen to music and interact with the world. Being cooped up will make you dwell on your thoughts, and will only take longer to overcome. Some time with the outside world will help balance your feelings, I guarantee it.

5. Get rid of his stuff.

You can choose whatever method you like, but get rid of his stuff. My Big chose to neatly pack her ex's stuff in a box and give it to his best friend, while her roommate chose to destroy her ex's things. Ultimately, keeping that teddy bear or his shirt you sleep in is only going to induce a free-flow of memories, and your mind will play tricks on you by thinking they were all happy. Save yourself and just get rid of it all.

6. If you decide to rebound, take it slow.

You just got out of a relationship, so your heart is exhausted enough from doing flips and tricks as it is. Try to get to know yourself more by treating yourself to a new outfit with the money you would have used for his Valentine's Day gift, pouring yourself a glass of wine, going to see a movie by yourself (you finally won't have to share your popcorn) or reading an unusual book. A few random make out sessions won't hurt, but for the most part, try to just enjoy being single so you can mend.

7. Channel your emotions into working out.

Elle Woods taught us that exercise gives you endorphins and endorphins make you happy. Channel that anger into a new workout routine. Find something you like. By working out and gaining strength, not only will you feel empowered, but you will also calm angry moments and liven sad moments as well.

8. Cry when you need to.

There will be moments when you just really need to cry. To avoid doing a huge melt down in the middle of your microbiology lecture or Kroger because you see his favorite microwavable meal, just do it when needed. By building up emotions, you find yourself avoiding your problems. Stay in tune with how you're feeling, and if the Notebook is on ABC Family when you're switching channels and you haven't cried in a few days, maybe take some time and let it out.

9. Pamper Yourself

Take a bath, put on a cooling eye mask to depuff your cry eyes, and listen to some Adele with candles burning. Use scents like lavender that have aromatherapy benefits, paint your nails, do your makeup, wear a new dress, try that new makeup tutorial on YouTube. You deserve to relax and see your most beautiful self. Maybe even change your hair color or treat yourself to a massage (couples massages are overrated, anyways).

10. Find a new passion.

Take up knitting, dance lessons, spinning classes, volunteer work or a new project for work in order to find a new passion to dive into. This will help you discover hidden talents and appreciate your own strength.

I believe you will get through this and, actually, you're probably better off without him, Beautiful. It's going to be okay.

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8 Reasons Why My Dad Is the Most Important Man In My Life

Forever my number one guy.

Growing up, there's been one consistent man I can always count on, my father. In any aspect of my life, my dad has always been there, showing me unconditional love and respect every day. No matter what, I know that my dad will always be the most important man in my life for many reasons.

1. He has always been there.

Literally. From the day I was born until today, I have never not been able to count on my dad to be there for me, uplift me and be the best dad he can be.

2. He learned to adapt and suffer through girly trends to make me happy.

I'm sure when my dad was younger and pictured his future, he didn't think about the Barbie pretend pageants, dressing up as a princess, perfecting my pigtails and enduring other countless girly events. My dad never turned me down when I wanted to play a game, no matter what and was always willing to help me pick out cute outfits and do my hair before preschool.

3. He sends the cutest texts.

Random text messages since I have gotten my own cell phone have always come my way from my dad. Those randoms "I love you so much" and "I am so proud of you" never fail to make me smile, and I can always count on my dad for an adorable text message when I'm feeling down.

4. He taught me how to be brave.

When I needed to learn how to swim, he threw me in the pool. When I needed to learn how to ride a bike, he went alongside me and made sure I didn't fall too badly. When I needed to learn how to drive, he was there next to me, making sure I didn't crash.

5. He encourages me to best the best I can be.

My dad sees the best in me, no matter how much I fail. He's always there to support me and turn my failures into successes. He can sit on the phone with me for hours, talking future career stuff and listening to me lay out my future plans and goals. He wants the absolute best for me, and no is never an option, he is always willing to do whatever it takes to get me where I need to be.

6. He gets sentimental way too often, but it's cute.

Whether you're sitting down at the kitchen table, reminiscing about your childhood, or that one song comes on that your dad insists you will dance to together on your wedding day, your dad's emotions often come out in the cutest possible way, forever reminding you how loved you are.

7. He supports you, emotionally and financially.

Need to vent about a guy in your life that isn't treating you well? My dad is there. Need some extra cash to help fund spring break? He's there for that, too.

8. He shows me how I should be treated.

Yes, my dad treats me like a princess, and I don't expect every guy I meet to wait on me hand and foot, but I do expect respect, and that's exactly what my dad showed I deserve. From the way he loves, admires, and respects me, he shows me that there are guys out there who will one day come along and treat me like that. My dad always advises me to not put up with less than I deserve and assures me that the right guy will come along one day.

For these reasons and more, my dad will forever be my No. 1 man. I love you!

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My contemplation of the complexities between different forms of art.


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As we walked through the building, its spiral design leading us further and further upwards, we were able to catch glimpses of af Klint's life through the strokes of her brush. My favorite of her collections was one titled, "Evolution." As a science nerd myself, the idea that the story of our existence was being incorporated into art intrigued me. One piece represented the eras of geological time through her use of spirals and snails colored abstractly. She clued you into the story she was telling by using different colors and tones to represent different periods. It felt like reading "The Scarlet Letter" and my biology textbook at the same time. Maybe that sounds like the worst thing ever, but to me it was heaven. Art isn't just art and science isn't just science. Aspects of different studies coexist and join together to form something amazing that will speak to even the most untalented patron walking through the museum halls.

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