How To Get Over A Bad Holiday Breakup

How To Get Over A Bad Holiday Breakup

January is officially named 'National Break-Up Month.'

January is no longer a frosty month just because of the weather. According to Cosmopolitan magazine, January is the month that more relationships break up than any other month. Therefore, January was named "National Breakup Month," proven by Facebook and Yahoo surveys. In fact, the UK recognized January 12th as their "National Breakup Day." One can only guess that these breakups are a result from holiday stresses and/or the seriousness of meeting families during holiday parties.

No matter the cause, here are some ways to get over a post-holiday breakup like a champ.

1. Delete Him.

No, seriously. Delete his number, unfriend him on Snapchat, Instagram, Facebook, Twitter (if you still use that), etc. I know you think you are a mature adult and can handle it, but I'm sorry to say you're not. You will see a picture of his night out, or some random girl in his Instagram post, and your crazy eyes will pop. Save yourself the anxiety (and dignity) and delete him before you text or 'poke' him on a night you've had one too many glasses of Barefoot Moscato.

2. Journal.

If it's good enough for Elena Gilbert in Vampire Diaries, it's good enough for you. You would be surprised how liberating it is to be able to write your feelings down. Write angry letters, sad letters, or a funny joke you heard that day just write. By being in tune with your emotions, it will be much easier to accept where you stand and move on. Hey, you could even get really fancy by choosing to do a blog rather than ancient pen and paper!

3. Lean on your friends for support.

These friends will be the ones who will go out with you on a whim, choose you over their homework for a wine and movie night or hold your hand when or if you see him at a bar even though they have stresses of their own. Tell them how much you appreciate them and lean on them when you need to because they are here for you.

4. Get some fresh air.

The weather outside may be frightful, but so is isolation. Your bed isn't going anywhere, and neither is your pint of Ben and Jerry's, I promise. Go get some sunlight, enjoy the snow falling, listen to music and interact with the world. Being cooped up will make you dwell on your thoughts, and will only take longer to overcome. Some time with the outside world will help balance your feelings, I guarantee it.

5. Get rid of his stuff.

You can choose whatever method you like, but get rid of his stuff. My Big chose to neatly pack her ex's stuff in a box and give it to his best friend, while her roommate chose to destroy her ex's things. Ultimately, keeping that teddy bear or his shirt you sleep in is only going to induce a free-flow of memories, and your mind will play tricks on you by thinking they were all happy. Save yourself and just get rid of it all.

6. If you decide to rebound, take it slow.

You just got out of a relationship, so your heart is exhausted enough from doing flips and tricks as it is. Try to get to know yourself more by treating yourself to a new outfit with the money you would have used for his Valentine's Day gift, pouring yourself a glass of wine, going to see a movie by yourself (you finally won't have to share your popcorn) or reading an unusual book. A few random make out sessions won't hurt, but for the most part, try to just enjoy being single so you can mend.

7. Channel your emotions into working out.

Elle Woods taught us that exercise gives you endorphins and endorphins make you happy. Channel that anger into a new workout routine. Find something you like. By working out and gaining strength, not only will you feel empowered, but you will also calm angry moments and liven sad moments as well.

8. Cry when you need to.

There will be moments when you just really need to cry. To avoid doing a huge melt down in the middle of your microbiology lecture or Kroger because you see his favorite microwavable meal, just do it when needed. By building up emotions, you find yourself avoiding your problems. Stay in tune with how you're feeling, and if the Notebook is on ABC Family when you're switching channels and you haven't cried in a few days, maybe take some time and let it out.

9. Pamper Yourself

Take a bath, put on a cooling eye mask to depuff your cry eyes, and listen to some Adele with candles burning. Use scents like lavender that have aromatherapy benefits, paint your nails, do your makeup, wear a new dress, try that new makeup tutorial on YouTube. You deserve to relax and see your most beautiful self. Maybe even change your hair color or treat yourself to a massage (couples massages are overrated, anyways).

10. Find a new passion.

Take up knitting, dance lessons, spinning classes, volunteer work or a new project for work in order to find a new passion to dive into. This will help you discover hidden talents and appreciate your own strength.

I believe you will get through this and, actually, you're probably better off without him, Beautiful. It's going to be okay.

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To The Friends I Won't Talk To After High School

I sincerely hope, every great quality I saw in you, was imprinted on the world.


So, for the last four years I’ve seen you almost everyday. I’ve learned about your annoying little brother, your dogs and your crazy weekend stories. I’ve seen you rock the awful freshman year fashion, date, attend homecoming, study for AP tests, and get accepted into college.

Thank you for asking me about my day, filling me in on your boy drama and giving me the World History homework. Thank you for complimenting my outfits, laughing at me presenting in class and listening to me complain about my parents. Thank you for sending me your Quizlets and being excited for my accomplishments- every single one of them. I appreciate it all because I know that soon I won’t really see you again. And that makes me sad. I’ll no longer see your face every Monday morning, wave hello to you in the hallways or eat lunch with you ever again. We won't live in the same city and sooner or later you might even forget my name.

We didn’t hang out after school but none the less you impacted me in a huge way. You supported my passions, stood up for me and made me laugh. You gave me advice on life the way you saw it and you didn’t have to but you did. I think maybe in just the smallest way, you influenced me. You made me believe that there’s lots of good people in this world that are nice just because they can be. You were real with me and that's all I can really ask for. We were never in the same friend group or got together on the weekends but you were still a good friend to me. You saw me grow up before your eyes and watched me walk into class late with Starbucks every day. I think people like you don’t get enough credit because I might not talk to you after high school but you are still so important to me. So thanks.

With that said, I truly hope that our paths cross one day in the future. You can tell me about how your brothers doing or how you regret the college you picked. Or maybe one day I’ll see you in the grocery store with a ring on your finger and I’ll be so happy you finally got what you deserved so many guys ago.

And if we ever do cross paths, I sincerely hope you became everything you wanted to be. I hope you traveled to Italy, got your dream job and found the love of your life. I hope you have beautiful children and a fluffy dog named Charlie. I hope you found success in love before wealth and I hope you depended on yourself for happiness before anything else. I hope you visited your mom in college and I hope you hugged your little sister every chance you got. She’s in high school now and you always tell her how that was the time of your life. I sincerely hope, every great quality I saw in you, was imprinted on the world.

And hey, maybe I’ll see you at the reunion and maybe just maybe you’ll remember my face. If so, I’d like to catch up, coffee?



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